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Do you ever feel like some people have a permenent attitude on here? It's really getting on my nerves now. Frequently putting others down or some such, like their opinion is fact.
Just a small rant. I think it's really rude and people should learn to treat each other with respect.
I'll just say though that it's only one or two really, but I expect it's because it's just the internet. In real life nobody would be so rude to someone's face, because they'd get a punch probably.
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/technology/6379621.stm
Just a small rant. I think it's really rude and people should learn to treat each other with respect.
I'll just say though that it's only one or two really, but I expect it's because it's just the internet. In real life nobody would be so rude to someone's face, because they'd get a punch probably.
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/technology/6379621.stm
Jaron Lanier, who popularised the virtual reality concept in the early 1980s, said that in rush to forge a new age of collectivism, we risk losing individual identities and dumbing down our understanding of the world.
He told BBC World Service's Culture Shock that his main problem is that in places like the blogosphere or the online encyclopaedia Wikipedia, people no longer treat or respect each other as individuals.
"We have these designs on the internet where a whole bunch of people work together anonymously - a mob, in my opinion - in order to do something," he said.
"They actually take on the emotional quality of a mob - they become mean, they tend to insult each other a lot more than they would if they knew who each other were. In my opinion, this is an example of a design that isn't so great."
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There are a number of posters on here who dont seem to be able to actually take into account the opinions of others and just assume they are right about everything no matter the subject...
ETA: I dont think you are one of the 'problem posters' yerascrote, there are just a select few who cannot be reasoned with and simply resort to well articulated insults in the result of a losing argument
I didn't mean you
Heh
If you chat shit I say you chat shit. If you don't then I don't. If you don't like that, if you'd rather have it all fluffy and nice, go and talk to someone who cares.
*shrug*
yeh shyboy. spill!
I reckon if he said names the thread would be deleted in about two minutes. So that's not much use.
Oh hang on........
I have a bad attitude, so that's fine. I hate you all. :razz:
Smartass
Why you so nasty? :crying: :crying: :crying: :crying: :crying:
Natural reactions sadly. :angel:
Of course they bloody would.
I'm rude to people more irl actually. I get frustrated easier because it's not like on here where you can just turn it off and it'll go away...
I just find there're more twats on here than I'd willingly associate with in real life.
Not necessarily.
One poster in particular on these boards is always ranting at people, putting them down and generally act all high and mighty all the time.
From what I've heard though, they are MUCH different in real life and are actually quite, insecure and quiet.
As for me, what you see on here is what you get in real life. I don't pretend to be someone I'm not and those that have seen me in real life (who use these boards) have said that to me.
TheSite.org aims to be the first place all young adults turn to when they need support and guidance through life. We believe all young people have the capacity to make their own decisions and life choices, provided they have access to high quality, impartial information and advice. We don't tell anyone how to lead their lives - we just believe everybody should have all the information they need to make their own decisions.
Whilst that sounds fine, too often someone will have a legitimate question and other posters will fling insults or put them down if they don't agree with certain facets of what's being said. If someone has an issue - say an unplanned pregnancy - and the reason is that they didn't use contraception, I'm willing to bet that there will be a 'wise few' who think their opinions of the stupidity of the poster are somehow a very valid and very important point to make.
Whilst 99% of the time there isn't a problem, there does seem to be some snide undercurrents on the board, an air of elitism sometimes even, which in my experience isn't about on other boards.
Croc: so if the hypothetical young female found herself pregnant and didn't know what to do or whether to tell her parents you'd happily spout off about her not talking properly? Or it makes you sad that people like her can have children? Or some equally belittling remark that I have come across (not from you, just referencing from memory) on here?
I don't think any of you would. Yea, if someone went on about Vista non stop you'd tell them to shut up in real life, but that's a different matter to insulting people - or more often just insinuating things about their character - when they only want advice.
Of course Crocidolite isn't going to shout at a young pregnant teenage girl for not knowing how to tell their mum... don't be ridiculous. He'll grumble about people with stupid wheely bags at the station and mime stabbing them with his umbrella but come on :rolleyes:
You're not exactly the least annoying person on these boards either.
Which I think is why thesite is a special case. People come here with problems - often difficult problems - they would find it difficult to talk about in real life. To be met with hostility in what should be a tolerant and reassuring environment; regardless of whether they type in text talk or they're pregnant at 13 because they were curious what sex feel like or some other unbelievable story, makes thesite pointless. It's just another random place then where you open yourself to the opinions of masses.
It's a public internet forum, so it can't be regulated properly. It won't be professional - as none of us are professionals really. We don't get paid by thesite to offer advice. Most of us come here to talk and to discuss things. There is nothing wrong with that. But at the same time, I think there should be a responsibility in us. A lot of us have been through things ourselves which is why we're here. We've learned from our experiences and taken advice others have given to us. So I feel it is our responsibility to offer kind and fair advice to everyone, regardless. If all you have is an opinion on the OP then fine, but posting that up goes against what thesite is here for. There are plenty of other forums on the internet where ripping into each other is fine, the norm even. Thesite isn't *just* a forum, it's run by a charity to help provide support for young people.
Not particularly. Anyway, it's not wrong.
I didn't imply that he was going to. I was using him as an example, that some of the extreme behaviours on this forum aren't acceptable, and just because the internet is there it shouldn't be any different. I didn't say he had said anything, or was going to say something like that.