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Most men dont know the meaning of platonic friendships.
Harsh but true.
I have so many straight girl friends who complain about the same thing ... which is why so many of them say a gay man is a girl's best friend. We assist them in understanding the mail psyche all the way to what shoes to wear.
Hardly any of my girl mates are my type at all (well except my exes I’m still mates with) and except this one other girl who’s a bit special, but even that’s at the stage now where I wouldn’t really want to ruin the friendship.
I can see how a girl would feel betrayed if she thought she had a good friendship with a bloke and it turned out he only wanted in her pants all along.
I always liked them first for who they were and I never wanted to be friends with them just to shag them but they always never just rejected me, they were always fucking cruel about it. They'd hate me or mock me or ignore me or just try and hurt me.
thats what sucks.
so I think guys can get the raw deal.
belive me I wish I had!
I am weak tho, even when they did shit to me I still went back and wanted to be their friend.
still do in some cases...
Most of my exes come back saying sorry for the shit that went down and we try and be friends, but it's never the same. I'd never be able to be as open or have the same closeness as we did when we were friends in the first place.
That's why I always think really carefully before taking things further now, but it's made me realise the value of a really good friendship, y'know?
yeah. It just sucks that they have to be so nasty with it.
I mean so what if you fancy them? Why should you be punished for liking them and saying so?
what if you never said anything and it turned out if u had got together it would have been awesome you know?
I reckon I am gonna be prety careful form now on about saying how I feel to femaile friends or even girls in general.
Just get my heartbroken all the time.
:banghead: See, now its comments like this that you girls make which make shy decent blokes not want to even attempt asking. So they like you but you not them, if you were really friends to start with then you would just say im flattered but sorry i dont feel the same way. Not try and make out like they just commited some injustice against you.
Where was Fairy's quote taken from coz I can't find it
There's nothing wrong with it, but if you make a habit of turning friendship into something more then it can give off the wrong vibe to other girls.
Just concentrate on the friendship thing first, don't turn round with a big declaration of feelings or anything because it makes things difficult. If somethings gonna happen then it'll happen in it's own time.
Meh, that just means they were twats to begin with. That sort of reaction means that you can just get on with it and know you were probably better off without her. It's when they're really nice about it that the worst.
Very true!
Now if he just wants to get in your pants, well, he's just a jackass. But a legitimate, growing attraction is hardly anything to be scolded over.
It was pussykatty and it was on the first page towards the bottom
This has led to various misunderstandings at times, and some disappointed men (god knows how they found me attractive, I do not look good whilst doing Scouty stuff) but I've also had 2 amazing boyfriends out of it, and some of my closest, most trusted friends.