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I think that what he is trying to say (or at least in the logical way I read) is that we are all dominated by the ‘pleasure/pain’ theory and a life of hard work will result one day in the things we really want, NOT necessarily a woman but the promise that things will eventually pan out to a pleasant conclusion, a story with a happy ending. Of course that includes everything which goes with title like a large house, a swimming pool and a beautiful wife.. This medium differs from one person to the next and the goal posts of the definition of ‘hard work’ changes by the day but you see how the people who are working hard are working hard for a reason.
You cannot possibly all blame a man who wants something in return for all the hard work he has put in building his mini-empire. I completely confide in it when, everyday, I look outside of the window and see crime and petty thugs, people who have simply thrown their lives away (and please lets not get into a debate on the brining up of working class kids). Its perfectly acceptable to feel a little…..gutted….when we see folk like this have a greener lawn than us. Why should good karma dwell on the people who don’t deserve it?
Why should people who are 23 and who have never kissed a girl miss out on opportunities that many of us have taken for granted…
You deserve nothing.
You do seem to be a rather unpleasant person, and I would expect you to meet someone of the same calibre.
No... It seems you're the one who appears to think that women are shallow. Women are interested in more than just the money in your pocket. I don't know if you think this is true, or just have low self-esteem...
Hopefuly the girl you've been texting thinks you're a nice guy, rather than a sack of money.
In all fairness, you're not coming over very well here fella. I reckon the deal is you ain't never kissed a girl despite the age of 23, just like myself but because you're successful, you think you should be guaranteed to pull at will.
It doesn't work like that. I've got a mate who is 32, never had a girlfriend, never been laid and never kissed a girl and is even more successful than you. He doesn't get laid because he's a bit of an arrogant tosser.
My advice, and I'm no person to give it but I'm doing the same, is to change your attitude towards women.
I'm intimidated by women and think that pretty much all of them are better than I am and I'm not worthy, you're coming across the exact opposite.
Edit - Just noticed gender
Girls don't have jobby jabbers, though.
No, women should be attracted to who they want to be attracted to, not to what you want them to be attracted to so you can get laid.
Every woman is unique, every woman is attracted to different things.
A funny, caring and passionate person who works in a factory is more attractive than somebody who has none of these qualities but a good career.
Ambition is an admirable quality, but you don't just go for one quality in a person, it's all about chemistry. As for the social standing issue, maybe you are dating the wrong sorts of women and should go for somebody who is on a similar career level?
Oh and looks do count. You have to find somebody attractive to be with them.
Being arrogant and self-centred enough to say that you deserve a girlfriend because you "achieved" something is a detestable quality, and will repel many people. Considering a girlfriend a prize for your hard work will put most women off you.
*shrug*
Yeah to be fair that was harsh croci
Jomery, I think you'd do well to take on board what's being said her overall though.
I don't think anyone would dispute this:
But ambition by itself isn't going to win anyone their next squeeze I wouldn't have thought as Kermit and Namaste have also mentioned - at least not in the long run.
You say you have a current interest, so hope that works out.
You may find it's useful to take a look at TheSite's dealing with dates section for some pointers.