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24yo virgin - it has never gone in!
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I'm 24 and never had sex despite REPEATED opportunities. Since age 17 exactly the same thing has happened when I've tried to have sex. It quite simply won't go in. It is very hard, erect, but I simply can't push it in, it remains stuck at the entrance. It's fairly big but not to the point it shouldn't go in. I don't get it, I have no problem fingering, but the dick just can't push in. Several girls have said they don't understand why it didn't go in. I've lost a couple of good relationships over this because they got fed up and I'm at the end of my tether here.
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As a connoisseur of fine dicks, this I GOTTA see ... send me a pic!
Lubed up
get her to open her legs?
Has the girl always been ready, i.e. if you put your fingers inside her vagina does it feel wet and open up fairly easily? You should be able to get at least two fingers in before trying with your penis. Build up slowly, take your time. If the inside of her vagina feels hard and not fully lubriacted then you might need to spend a bit more time on foreplay to get her relaxed. As pearly said, you can also try some lubricant as that could make a big difference.
Position can also make a difference - be careful with how you try and insert your penis. If you're in the missionary position (you on top, her legs apart) you should try and get your pelvis as low as possible, so your penis is entering in the same direction as the angle of her vagina inside. There's no point trying to just go from above and push downwards, as this will just put more pressure on the outside and may feel uncomfortable for her.
Another thing I would suggest is when you are "at the entrance", don't just try and push it in straight away. First try using the head of your penis to move around and between her labia (lips). You might find there is less friction if you make sure to open the outer labia first, so you aren't just rubbing on the outer skin with your penis.
You'll get there eventually mate, don't worry!
Have you ever asked the female to try and guide it in, by ensuring its in the right place? A female has nearly as much control over penetration as the male.
He says its "fairly big" and has tried it with "several girls" ... surely most have tried to guide him in (unless they were ALL virgins and inexperienced) in which case, how can you be sure he will indeed "get there in the end' if 'several' girls were unable to assist him?
As I say, this I gotta see ...
Its getting really frustrating. I wish she would guide me, but she refuses. She guides me a little fingering and that works great.
Still I gonna keep trying, I sure we both turned on enough. So gonna keep trying and maybe 1 day it will just click!
Dont give up!
Dude, it's not that hard to find the hole. Can she not just lay on her back with her legs open and then go in, so your like kneeling when doing it? Or doggy style?
If you can't get low enough, you could try moving her to the base of the bed so you can stand or kneel on the floor while she lays on her back. That way your pelvis will automatically be lower so it might be easier to get it in.
You could also try doing it from behind her as you both lay on your sides facing the same direction (i.e. spoons)...you might find this an easier way.