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OK, MY WORST FEAR CAME TRUE!!

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
Ok, well i had a biopsy, and fuck it, its malignant, its bloody cancerous! i found out 2day, i just broke down. Im soooooo depressed now, what the hell do i do, i dont wanna tell people cause they think that im infectious or somin, months before my GCSE's, and its large, the tumour, what the hell do i do to stay positive, i feel like killing myself right now!

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'm really sorry to hear that Chris, but you know you did the right thing finding out. Have you discussed treatments yet? I think people will know that cancer's not infectious, you shouldn't worry too much about that.

    I think you should talk to your school and at least let them know what's happening - they will take it into account if you do do your GCSE's. If you are going to need a lot of treatment, there's no way you should do them though. Your school will understand.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ((((((((((((((((chris))))))))))))))))

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    {{{{{{{{{{Chris}}}}}}}}}
    Don't know what to say other than I'm sorry to hear of your tragic news and good luck with the treatment. I know I speak on behalf of the rest of us here, if there's anything we can do to help, just ask.

    Take care {{{{{{{{Chris}}}}}}

    Luk

    The river is wide and oh so deep. I've been walking around in tears, No answers arethere to get. Cause between this world and eternity there is a face I hope to see
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Chris mate you poor guy.

    Shit, I feel really bad for you. We're here if you want us and always will be. What did hte doc say about treatment?

    Best of luck, you can get through it.

    I guess the best thing to do to stay positive is to look at the hope that you have - that it can be cured because of the wonders of modern medicin. I had an uncle who had cancer a few years back. He got through it, and he's the same person he was before.

    Although I'm not religious, the farewell "God speed" seems to be the most appropiate message for you at the moment.

    God speed Chris.

    I've not lost my mind it's inserted elsewhere - hence the limp.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well, i just wanna do my gcse's, all the hard work, and im sooooo busy at the moment, im a lead part in our school play, my whole lifeis going to be on hold. Why me, my life was so good, now i gotta tell my mates, there is gonna be a shock, i aint told them anything about this yet. well im off to look into nothing and think about my life and hwere i have gone worng
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    {{{{{{{chris}}}}}}}} we're all here for you, you know that. whenever you need to talk, or be completely fucked off, or anything. and i wish i could hug you for real right now. i really truly do.
    im thinking about you.
    love
    kayls xox
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    fuckin heck, how big is the growth.
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    oh my god chris, im so sorry to hear that <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

    (((((((((((chris))))))))))

    i had a friend with leukaemia, he found out just before his GCSEs too, well about easter time id say. he ended up not taking them coz of all the treatment he was having, well i think he did a couple.. and then he came back the next year when he was better again to make up the rest. we didnt really talk much since year 10, but i spent loadsa time with him in year 9. it was so horrible finding out, our tutor told us once and everyone was so upset for him, i dont think people will react badly to your news if my class's reaction is anything to go by. everyone was really cool about it anyway.

    what did your doc say about treatment? there are ways of beating it, you gotta stay positive, just think of how good everything will be after your gcses, after youve beaten it, and when you go on and do everything in your life that you want to do.

    you'll get through this <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    If you don't know where you're going, you'll probably end up somewhere else.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I dont know what to say...but sorry Chris (((((((((((Chris))))))))))))) you can get through this.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    (((chirs))) best of luck mate, Im truly sorry to hear this.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    {{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Chris}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}
    I'm really sorry about this Chris!!! You know that everybody here at thesite will be here to offer you support and advice when you need it!!!! You'll have to get yahoo and come in a conference and we'll all cheer you up m8!!!!

    Take care!!! My ID is just_a_lonely_cook and I'm there most evenings now!

    Don't take life seriously because you can't come out of it alive
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Sorry to hear that Chris,
    What did the doc say about treatment? Theres always hope Chris, and with luck youll bounce back from this temporary problem and life will be back to normal. Just remember we are here for you.
    Electro
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    (((((((((((((((chris))))))))))))))))

    i am so sorry Chris. i don't know what to say. We are all here 4u, let us know how ur feelin, we wil support u, and with the right treatment it will go away.

    (((((((((((((((chris))))))))))))))))

    Love and hugs @ ya

    The more sand that escapes through the hourglass of time, the clearer we should be able to see through it.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well the treatment, im having chemotherapy, i dunno when i stary im seeing a specialist next week. I tried to sleep, but i cant, i wont sleep 2night, my mum started crying, she is very emotionl, i had to reassure her that i will get trhough this, so that helped me belive that i can get through it,my mates will be there for me.
    im gonna enjoy myslef for as long as i can, well dont be all sympathetic, im goona beat this bitch, and i will win cause i always do, i dunno if i actually brlieve this but it sounds the right thing to say. thanks for the support guys, ill get the net on my laptop in hospital so i can talk to u guys. im shit scared, but ill fight it, and ill return and take the world by storm! im speaking crap cause im nervous, but it makes me feel better. well speak to u soon guys!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by chrishot4u:
    im goona beat this bitch, and i will win cause i always do, i dunno if i actually brlieve this but it sounds the right thing to say. thanks for the support guys, ill get the net on my laptop in hospital so i can talk to u guys. im shit scared, but ill fight it, and ill return and take the world by storm! im speaking crap cause im nervous, but it makes me feel better. well speak to u soon guys!

    just take it in ur stride

    i know u'll fight it, and come out a stronger person than b4 coz of it. <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    (((((chris)))))


    The more sand that escapes through the hourglass of time, the clearer we should be able to see through it.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I dont know what to say because it has all already been said.

    Baisicly, think positive-you will get thru this, we are always here for u if u need us..... For probably the first time in my life i think im speachless.

    Im so sorry.

    (((((chris)))))

    Julia

    xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I dont know what to say because it has all already been said.

    Baisicly, think positive-you will get thru this, we are always here for u if u need us..... For probably the first time in my life i think im speachless.

    Im so sorry.

    (((((chris)))))

    Julia

    xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

    "I just want to feel safe in my own skin. I just want to be happy again." -Dido
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by chrishot4u:
    Well, i just wanna do my gcse's, all the hard work, and im sooooo busy at the moment, im a lead part in our school play, my whole lifeis going to be on hold. Why me, my life was so good, now i gotta tell my mates, there is gonna be a shock, i aint told them anything about this yet. well im off to look into nothing and think about my life and hwere i have gone worng

    Sorry I haven't replied b4 Chris, I've been offline for a couple of days.

    {{{{{{{{Chris}}}}}}}}}}

    You know you've got mates here & there's often someone to talk to on ICQ or Yahoo 24 hrs a day!! What's your ID?

    You can always do your GCSEs later, you have to concentrate on getting rid of the cancer first. It's amazing what they can do these days. My Dad had bladder cancer recently & it's gone now <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    Try (& I know it will be difficult) to stay as happy and unstressed as you possibly can, I understand that that can make a difference.

    I'm sorry if I've missed you telling us, but when do you go in? I know that this is gonna sound daft, but if you can tell us, & we all send you good thoughts at the same time, who knows what that might achieve. Even if you think it's daft, there's no harm in doing it, is there & you'll know that we are all thinking about you at the same time <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    It's important to stay possitive, as I'm sure you know & you must never wonder what you have done to deserve this. Shit happens, it could happen to any one of us.

    If friends distance themselves from you, it won't be because they think it is infectious. People often find it difficult to cope with cancer in their friends, it brings it so much closer to home. Try to forgive them, I doubt if it will be a concious decision on their part, it's a difficult time for them too.

    Try to stay as "normal" as possible & try not to shut people out. It'll make it easier for them to support you whenever you need it.

    Keep us informed chris & I look forward to your posts on here for a VERY LONG time <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    J9




    [This message has been edited by j9 (edited 24-01-2001).]
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