Home Health & Wellbeing
If you need urgent support, call 999 or go to your nearest A&E. To contact our Crisis Messenger (open 24/7) text THEMIX to 85258.

depression...helping a friend...

Ok...any of the older members of the site will probably know that I've been suffering from depression and self harming for years, but things have got better since my overdose.

Anyway, recently, my friend has become depressed and she told me that she nearly took an overdose the other night and she talks about her depression an awful lot. Please don't get me wrong, I'm not trying to brush her off and I'm not saying she's whining or whatever, but last time I started worrying about a friend 24/7 it pushed me over the edge.

I am there for my friends, but sometimes I feel that this friend is trying to manipulate me. She'll ask me to do something, then if I say no then she'll start telling me how sad she feels when she's alone and I feel really guilty.

I don't know what to do...any advice before I worry myself back into depression?
Beep boop. I'm a bot.

Comments

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hey liberty --

    i don't think this friend of yours is manipulating you specifically. i think he or she is just caught up in their despression. i think they are taking the fact that you can't do everything they ask as a personal reflection of their problems. the thought process sounds to me like: "o great, u can't do this for me and that means i'm all alone." none of that has to do with you personally.

    and it sounds like you are very committed to your friends. i don't know how much time you do spend with this person, but might i suggest setting up a regular visit or phone call? this way you have a set level of responsibility you can handle, and that person knows he or she is going to have regular contact with you.

    just an idea. <IMG alt="image" alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;

    good luck liberty.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i know exactly whats its like liberty i posted a simliar topic here -
    http://www.thesite.org/ubb/Forum7/HTML/000140.html

    basically in the end, i spoke to a couple of his mates and just told them to be there 4 him etc. and it helped him a lot, i think he just needed the support of more people around him, and it strengthened his frienddships too.

    i hope this helps?

    There's a girl in my mirror
    I wonder who she is
    Sometimes I think I know her
    Sometimes I really wish I did
Sign In or Register to comment.