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Waiting for sex without being a tease
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I would suggest telling him how far you want to go for now and then he is clear on whats going on, taking away the teasing element. He should be OK with this, and if he isn't then tell him he can fuck off!!
Also say right I am quite happy to do this and this with him but don't want to have intercourse or whatever it is. It is a bit cruel to keep him in anticipation, explain and decide between you.
Communication is the key!
I wish somebody would explain me all of those little female secrets one day.
Act with what you are comfortable with. you don't have to put out if you don't want to, and he has to respect that.
When you know you like somebody and you sort of think they might like you (and when you think something is maybe gonna happen) then you've got to sort of live for the moment. Not saying shagging spoils it, but sometimes waiting just makes it extra, extra special when it does happen, haha.
All I can advise take a lot of cold showers.
What 'bits of other stuff' are you doing? Are you e.g. giving him a hand job, without actually finishing him off, because he might see that as teasing.
Aye. That's basically like you finding out your pet puppy has just been run over and you go to him for a cuddle and to cry on his shoulder and he just says "Awesome!" and high fives you. Not cool.
That's one hell of a talented puppy!
Very important lesson for successful relationships: never believe anything you read in women's magazines!
You have sex with him when you feel ready. Not when you feel like you should, not when he says you should, and not when Cosmo tells you you should.
Because some menopausal trout writing for a magazine miles away obviously knows what's best for you and your boyfriend better than you do...
There are no hard-and-fast rules. Just go with what you feel is the right thing to do. No-one should tell you what to do but if you're being deliberately teasing like jacking him off but not finishing him off then that is clearly unfair.
what's talented about gettin run over?
or did i miss somethin?
I think its because of the way its been typed!!!
Sounds as tho she went to the puupy for a cuddle and got the fhigh five off the pup!!! I kinda thought it read like that anyway!!!
Yeah... that's the way I read it, hence the daft comment. :yes:
I'm not sure 'knowing when to stop' is important - it's what Kaff said
screw magazines. In an act of forensic/scientific research georg and me bought a lot of girl magazines and analyzed them. In the end we wanted to build a time machine, travel back in time and kill the inventor of the girly magazine. They instruct you how you have to act and behave to make a man woo for you, but it's usually bullshit and makes you and most men absolutely miserable. Don't buy into them, please.