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No Sex!! :(

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
First up, just wanted to say hi to everyone....I'm new to posting on the boards!! :wave:

And now down to the problem.....I'm not getting any!! :crying: It's starting to get me down...it's been nearly 8 MONTHS now, people.....8 MONTHS!!!! And I've got quite a high sex drive....and there's only so much of this 'unintentional' celibacy business a person can take.....

...granted, I had a bit of a drunken fumble with a friend a couple of months ago, but that barely counts now, does it?!?

Think part of the problem is that there's a bloke I sort of see, but only a few times a year because he lives far away....he's really great in bed though, so it's worth the wait every time!! But we text/talk a few times a week normally, which I'm actually beginning to find quite frustrating...anyway...that's sort of an aside...suppose I don't really have a proper question to ask you all, just wanted to vent!!!

If I don't have sex soon, think I might explode!!!:shocking: But don't fancy just pulling a complete random, but have come to the conclusion that a proper 'relationship' type thing isn't really for me either....sooo...suppose if I was to ask you lot a question, it'd be....how do I go about getting (and keeping) a healthy, casual, sort of relationship?? And how do I weather this 'dry spell' (pun intended!) in the mean time??

Any ideas/advice?? Thanks!! :thumb:

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    HanHan wrote: »

    Any ideas/advice?? Thanks!! :thumb:

    A big dildo.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    :yeees: Spose I walked into that one (so to speak)!! :lol:

    Problem is....I'm more of a 'real man or nothing' kind of girl.....just don't see how a big piece of dayglo pink plastic could do it for me!! Call me old fashioned.....:angel:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I suppose there's added benefits for having an actual person.

    Personally, I'd reccomend a one-night stand but I'm a fella and you've already ruled that out so don't really have a clue.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yerascrote wrote: »
    Personally, I'd reccomend a one-night stand but I'm a fella and you've already ruled that out so don't really have a clue.

    Lol i'm a girl and i'd also recommend that :p

    I don't see what your options are really. I would have said get a vibrator otherwise, but seeing as you want a bloke thats bout the only way your gonna get it.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well you need sex, you just want it.

    I guess your choices are:

    1) get a vibe - probably more satisfying then a dildo
    2) this guy you see on and off - see him more, have a relationship with him
    3) One night stand
    4) Find a friend to be you fuck buddy
    5) Find a guy and have a relationship with him.
    6) hold out for the right person
    7) become a porn star.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yeah...I don't see what my options are either!!!!!

    Looks like it's been simplified down to...big dildo or one night stand!!! :lol:

    :chin: Reckon it's off for a spot of Russian 'one night stand' roulette for me then.....:nervous:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Doomsday wrote: »
    well you need sex, you just want it.

    I guess your choices are:

    1) get a vibe - probably more satisfying then a dildo
    2) this guy you see on and off - see him more, have a relationship with him
    3) One night stand
    4) Find a friend to be you fuck buddy
    5) Find a guy and have a relationship with him.
    6) hold out for the right person
    7) become a porn star.

    Ha ha ha!!! Oooo...suddenly lots of options...I like it!!!

    Trust me though...after 8 months, that want becomes a need.....only human after all!!!

    Hmm...think I'll start off with options 1 2 & 7......;)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    haha nice!!

    Well its still a want but I see your point.

    Good luck with it, tell me what your star name will be so I can check you out in the future ;)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I've had no sex for nine months now. I've got used to it now, seeing as I'm not really into casual sex I'm coping quite well. Just get a rabbit or something similar, does the trick for me.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Suppose on the upside..the longest I've been without was 9 months too...and the first time I had sex after that was amazing!!!! :crazyeyes

    Just have to look forward to that again too I guess......every cloud has a silver lining and all that......:yes:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    At this rate its going to be a lot longer then nine months before I get laid again. If it goes over a year I wouldnt be surprised at all.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Is it hard to go without sex for that long? I said i'd not have sex for the whole of 2007, and the first 27 days haven't been too bad!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Depends what your sex drive is like. Mine doesnt tend to be that high so I can cope pretty well. I didnt want sex for the first 5-6 months and even though I get days when I'm really horny I have ways of dealing with it.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    LacyMay wrote: »
    I said i'd not have sex for the whole of 2007, and the first 27 days haven't been too bad!

    I find it hard to believe anyone would earnestly make such a new year's resolution.. sounds tough to keep :D and why would you want to? :p
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I find it hard to believe anyone would earnestly make such a new year's resolution.. sounds tough to keep :D and why would you want to? :p

    Lol to see if i could do it.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hahahhaha to the above.

    Well its been over a year since I had full sex but about 2 or 3 months since I have had 3rd base as it were.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    LacyMay wrote: »
    Lol to see if i could do it.

    How boring. :p
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    How boring. :p

    Yeah i know but what can i do eh!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    LacyMay wrote: »
    Yeah i know but what can i do eh!

    ... don't make promises you don't want and need to keep? Sounds simple to me :p
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ... don't make promises you don't want and need to keep? Sounds simple to me :p

    But it's fun :(
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Fun?!? :confused:

    Hmmm...can imagine not having sex through choice is a bit different from just finding yourself without though.....it's only been 27 days for you, mind.....just let us know how long you last.....and if it's more than 6 months, be sure to let us know if it still feels so fun then!! :p
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    HanHan wrote: »
    Fun?!? :confused:

    Hmmm...can imagine not having sex through choice is a bit different from just finding yourself without though.....it's only been 27 days for you, mind.....just let us know how long you last.....and if it's more than 6 months, be sure to let us know if it still feels so fun then!! :p

    Yeah i'm all shagged out to be honest. I'm detoxing :p
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Argh!!!!!! No-one likes a bragger........:p ;)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Let me get this straight HanHan.

    You want sex as soon as possible but you don't want a vibe or complete starnger. Fair enough. In your OP though you say this:
    HanHan wrote: »
    there's a bloke I sort of see, but only a few times a year because he lives far away....he's really great in bed though, so it's worth the wait every time!! But we text/talk a few times a week normally, which I'm actually beginning to find quite frustrating...

    Why not go and find him?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yeah.....sounds simple hey?

    But he lives/works reaaallly far away, and tbh don't know if he'd be interested in anything more....obviously, if we only see each other a few times a year, it's a verrry casual arrangement!!

    But yeah...seems like the obvious answer to me too...think tbh my 'arrangement' with him is what's getting me most frustrated at the moment - he happily calls/texts a couple of times a week, but have tried slipping in to conversation that he might want to come & see me rather than just texting etc (which seems a bit pointless if that's *all* we're doing at the moment)....but he always just glosses over that.

    Highly confusing...it's not that he hasn't been to see me before, and I've been to see him, and he's obviously still interested enough to bother texting me...he doesn't have to do that, after all!! So don't really know what the prob is....

    Anyway....sorry....that's sort of part of the problem, but also beside the point, because what I have with him is ultra casual....think the way forward might be to start a casual relationship a little closer to home.....but how on earth do you go about doing this?? :confused:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i dunno, actually. i just say you head down to a club or whatever, and hook up, and then be done with it.

    that is if youre not willing to find a relationship.

    or you can try not to think about it. take your mind off the sex, or lack there of in your case. go with a friend to some sort of movie or just get out of the house.

    or, as previously suggested, get yourself a fuck buddy.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    HanHan wrote: »
    think the way forward might be to start a casual relationship a little closer to home.....but how on earth do you go about doing this?? :confused:
    How did you start the relationship with your current bloke? However it was, then I'd think same rules apply, don't they?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yeaahhh....it was a bit of a freak occurrence though tbh....involving a mini holiday & lots of alcohol....and think it probably helped I met him in the hotel bar where we were both staying!!!!! :hyper:

    Pretty straight forward situation there....no messing!! :thumb:

    So it was sort of a one night stand that happened to turn into more.....so yeah, thinking about it, I suppose that could happen again...might be worth a try....:)
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