Bleh... sick of uni (and quite possibly, life)

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,329 The Mix Honorary Guru
I'm just not really enoying university. I'm not unhappy, I'm just not enjoying it.

I think because I'm a bit older than other students then I have other interests and find it hard to relate. My course rarely challenges me intellectually, but I am worried I won't do as well on year two essays because of the shortage of books in my library.

Plus all my essays adn work are bunched up around the same day... So I have to somehow find the right books and then write the essays from them. I am glad I got an extention on one because learner support sorted it.

I just don't enjoy it anymore... I'm ready to get a job and start earning money.

Everyone is younger than me and enjoying not having respobsibilities, going out and getting pissed. I'm bored of that... In fact in general I'm bored of everything at the moment. I have eight million things on my shoulders, I have been betrayed bysomebody I considered a friend and screwed out of a grand (but I can't tell anyone), I have loads of plans and ideas, but I know nobody will support me in following them through, I'm just not really enjoying life at the moment...

I don't wanna quit uni as it's a career move, but if anybody has any advice I'd be happy to hear it. I don't really have anyone to talk to who'd understand in uni... To be honest after getting dickd around I don't really trust many people anymore.

In fact I hate people at the moment... I don't know why I'm doing human rights to help a backstabbng worthless race. Everyone's either bone fucking lazy, or out for themselves it seems...

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,329 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I guess the easiest answer would be to survive those years of college because they are only a small portion of your life but have the ability to effect it all. Lets face it also there are always going to be bad people in this world that we are going to run into. We cant let them effect us, if we did then they would be the winner. That is why you need to push foward. Then you can laugh when your making alot more money then her one day!.

    I know the feeling of having dreams and plans, I have been fighting through college and the hope of getting a great job to make the life of my love great, but since she passed away I lost my motivation also. Although I lost my motivation I know its just something that needs to be done. Im sorry I couldnt offer you anything inspiring but just the way life is you need to push foward for atleast a little while longer because this period of time is not even a large fraction of your entire life.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,329 The Mix Honorary Guru
    you're probably just going through a slump. i used to have them all the time, wondering why the hell i was studying french!!? and i hated my classes. i hated exams and i hated essays even more. but you've just got to get through it! because once its over it is a massive relief :D and you have your degree. the only bit i liked at uni was socialising actually...i'm so glad its all over!

    how many years do you have left?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,329 The Mix Honorary Guru
    MR, when I reached the third of year of my four year course at Uni, I was in a similar position. I'd lost interest in all that I did at Uni and just wanted to get away and earn some money. I knew that a degree would benefit me in the long run but I was making myself ill in the meantime. I thought about it really carefully and then arranged a meeting with the head of my faculty to discuss taking a gap year. It's not traditional to do it in the middle of your course but most unis will agree to a year (or possibly two). I was in danger of failing at the end of my third year but after a year out I eventually scrabbled together a high 2:2. I went back much more focused, made new friends (and kept some old ones), etc. I just basically sorted out my life but that year really helped me through.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,329 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanks guys...

    I haven't lost motivation, I'll always work really hard at everything (uni and extra curricular) that I do... I am just lost at the moment and deeply hurt.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,329 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanks guys...

    I haven't lost motivation, I'll always work really hard at everything (uni and extra curricular) that I do... I am just lost at the moment and deeply hurt.
    Wow. It's good that you still have motivation. I've read your other thread and maybe it's good that you have uni and extra curricular stuff to throw yourself in to. Work out what's right for you though. Don't just keep slogging on with Uni because you think you have to or it's the 'right' thing to do. Take a short break if that's what you need. I'm a big ambassador of the 'get away from things' method these days but you might be one of those people that are better just battling on through.

    I hope things get better for you soon though AND, if not, we're always here to listen.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,329 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Loopi wrote: »
    Don't just keep slogging on with Uni because you think you have to or it's the 'right' thing to do.
    :yes: - its a trap many people fall into.
    having said that though most of the studies you do in your first year are easy. by the end of it, you should find yourself being challenged more on an intellectual level. if you are just going through a phase, then stick at it. alternatively, take some time out, get into the real world and get some cash and perspective. university isn't for everyone although i know it is pushed a lot by a lot of different people. degrees can benefit you in the long run but so too does experience. but if its just that you are older and relate better to older people, why not get in with the mature students?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,329 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Loopi wrote: »
    Wow. It's good that you still have motivation. I've read your other thread and maybe it's good that you have uni and extra curricular stuff to throw yourself in to. Work out what's right for you though. Don't just keep slogging on with Uni because you think you have to or it's the 'right' thing to do. Take a short break if that's what you need. I'm a big ambassador of the 'get away from things' method these days but you might be one of those people that are better just battling on through.

    I hope things get better for you soon though AND, if not, we're always here to listen.
    I'll always have plenty of motivation and stacks of energy. I want to work inhuman rights, I feel I am able to benefit NGOs in that way and I won't stop until I'm sitting in a meeting with a shirt and tie discussing important human rightsy type stuff. I'm a second year and signing up for a sabbatical year to work for the university.

    I think, to be completely honest that I am just burnt out and feeling hurt from what that guy did (see reationships thread) ... I've spent the last three weeks near enough studying straight and have barely seen anyone. Maybe once all my exams are done and coursework, I'll go home for a weekend and play with the cat.

    As a first year uni is all fun and games. Second year it seems the reality of things, you have to work, the uni isn't as awsome as you'd hoped... Kicks in.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,329 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Uni isn't as great as I thought it would be either, but I am forcing myself to stay. Doing stuff outside as well. Going swimming next Tuesday if you are around then. Finding a lot of people around here narrow minded, rude and immature. Finding I enjoy writing my one essay and working as a volunteer in a shop to spending time stuck in a cramped studio. In reality I think I would be happier working in a desgin company or a gallery than being stuck at uni.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,329 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Keep at it, I agree with the others and I'm in the same place. Sorry I'm not on MSN to rant at but you can always email. xxxx
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,329 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Fairy wrote: »
    Uni isn't as great as I thought it would be either, but I am forcing myself to stay. Doing stuff outside as well. Going swimming next Tuesday if you are around then. Finding a lot of people around here narrow minded, rude and immature. Finding I enjoy writing my one essay and working as a volunteer in a shop to spending time stuck in a cramped studio. In reality I think I would be happier working in a desgin company or a gallery than being stuck at uni.

    Kingston is narrow minded? Seriously???

    And Tuesday, no idea what I'm up to... Am up for a swim tho.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,329 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Kingston is narrow minded? Seriously???

    And Tuesday, no idea what I'm up to... Am up for a swim tho.

    Maybe Ive just come across some of the wrong people.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,329 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Fairy wrote: »
    Maybe Ive just come across some of the wrong people.
    Yeah mate... Just gotta hang out with people like me more. :)
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