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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
Hey. Recently i've been getting really low and i was diagnosed with an eating disorder a few months back. I've been cutting myself for a while and at first i just cut my wrists. Now its moved onto my whole arms and ive got a couple of bad scars. I cant tell my friends forever that 'my cat attacked me'. My best mate thinks ive stopped. I cant talk to anyone about it but some of my friends see my cuts but dont realise and go 'ohh how did u do that? have u been at it with the razor?' and i just wanna yell 'yeh i have!' but i cant. Just wondered if anyone can help me out or is/has been in my situation. Sorry for being so morbid.
Lotsa luv xxx <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Plenty of us have been/are in that situation.
    Are you currently receiving help for your eating problems? This should be brought up with someone, you can stop doing it with some support.
    On a somewhat related insensitive note - the scars left are not pretty. The longer it goes on the harder it can be to stop and the more regrets about it you may have when you are older.

    S/I is a coping mechanism (so say the dramatics) and you need to learn new ways to deal with your problem - and you can.
    Swallow your pride/fear/cat excuses and talk to someone, please.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You may find these links helpful: you are not alone

    Self Harm

    Case Study: self harm

    I know it's difficult to talk to friends or family about something like this, but you may find it easier to cope with if it is all out in the open. You will then have to be honest with yourself about why you do it, and it will give you the opportunity to talk through the reasons with people you know well.

    Don't forget your GP, who may want to refer you to a specialist counsellor to help you discuss things.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Im the person featured in the second of those links, so I know and understand how you feel. Try and speak to a doctor or counsellor about how you feel, depression is an illness that can be treated like any other.

    For now, try and distract yourself when you feel so upset you want to cut. try and do something else like have a relxing bath or punch pillows or something like that to release your hurt without wanting to harm yourself.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    God, i really feel for you... I started last year, and i went on anti-depressants, and then came off them again, and this weekend started again <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> and i tried so hard not to <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> - i had a bit of a manic moment. All i can say (from my experience of trying NOT to do it), is try and distract yourself - go for a long, hard walk (don't wander - push yourself), or like Kermit said, punch something. Good luck, do go to your GP, there are things that they can set in motion to help you. We're all here for you if you want to talk, ok? S. x
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Ive been in the same situation too. i used to scratch my self with sewing needles until i bled. i would also punch wall and smash things around. All this was down to stress from lack of confidence, family problems, and feeling like a complete loser. Now, ive discovered smoking and marilyn manson and whenever im stressed i would go for a walk and have a fag to relax, turn up marilyn full blast and light an insence stick. Not that im promoting smoking its bad for u kiddys.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    No, I wouldnt recommend smoking either.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Really feel for you. Isn't there anyone close you can confide in???
    Like everyone else has said you're not alone, we all care enough to talk to you. But you really need to see someone professional, and Anti-Depressants are only a short term cure. Talking the step to help yourself is the hardest thing, but once youv'e done this everything else will seem easy.
    Good luck and I truely hope you sort this out, from the bottom of my heart
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    aw thanx peeps its nice to have people who can actually help me as opposed to my mates who go "you have to stop doing it, you don't need to bla bla bla" like they have a clue. anyway i still havent plucked up the courage to talk to a proffesional yet cos i think my mum would finally crack if she found out about this, and cos things just seem to be going right for a change and i havent had any 'manic moments' for a while. ill try kermit's advice out next time i do! thanks again, its really comforting for me.
    lotsa luv sponge xxx <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i have a lot of close friends but i daren't talk to them because i get a pathetic/sympathetic lecture, and none of my friends have ever been in my situation so cannot help in the slightest. my mum is suffering from severe depression so i daren't upset her further and my dad, well its just a no go area. people have already started to call me an attention seeker because they have no idea, so the only real confidants i have are y'all. ill keep trying though.
    thanks for all your encouragement it means a lot to me. sponge xxx
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    someone very close to me died...i went into drugs, trouble...anything to get away from it all.
    also since i was little if i thought about anything i would worry (well, kinda worry) about whatever i thought about even if it was perfectly good etc...got worse and just after my 17th birthday i couldnt leave the house, eat, sleep, think...messed up my life bad now because of it...slicin myself etc and i was finally listened to by my mum and she took me to a few doctor people who give me meds for some kinda harsh anxiety...they work ok but i cant be on pills the rest of my life so i stopped and now its getting worse rather than toughening my mind up.

    i think that although someone can go as far as to kill you, we are our own deadliest enemy coz we fuck ourselves up with our minds if we want and we dont need poles and gangs to do ourselves in

    ~dappa
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    My cousin is going throught the same thing now. She cuts herself and people say she is an attention seeker. I don't really understand her but there we go. I know how hard it can be to stop though once you are going at it fully it can be hard. She smokes to help her but like RainbowFairy says i wouldn't advise it. Best thing to do it try and take your mind off it whenh you feel like it. And talk to a professional. My cousin is seeing a councellor about it. Like i said if you need to talk i am here or you can PM my cousin Tek-ila <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> Good luck sweetie <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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