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....wouldn't it be better if we tried to get her to focus on sorting things out with her husband and forgetting this whole idea of cheating on him, rather than resorting to insults?
Please don't make me sounds like a mod again
no matter what anyone here says, she'll find a way to justify what she is doing/going to do
and her winding people up, or "getting them going" as she puts it, isn't gonna make anyone wanna help her :thumb:
What concerns me is that you seem more than proud about the fact you're cheating on your partner, and don't seem to show the slightest bit of shame.
*justathought*
And haven't you ever heard of not stepping down to their level .
If you want advice on how to go about committing adultery then find another board - I'm sure there's probably a specialist one out there. If you want advice on what to do about this older guy, I'd give up. You've said he's had affairs before and despite going into this with your eyes open, you're still likely to get hurt.
As for your relationship with your husband, I'm a tad confused. One minute you said that he wanted sex all the time since you got adult channels but in another post you say that he just sleeps and you don't do stuff anymore.
Welcome to the boards by the way. A very grand entrance you have made.
I would much rather discuss my situation with you than someone who is going resort to anger and yelling at me all the time. Ever since I started this post that is all she is doing at me.
Thanks for being so kind!!
Bloody mind readers, i was gonna say that !
This cretin can choose governments :nervous:
No-one's saying you can't talk to him, but do it when you're together. Don't try and force the affair into the everyday, because he's obviously not interested in that or he'd reply to your e-mails. If it's just sex then that shouldn't be a problem. If it's more than that, which it must be or you wouldn't have said you loved him, you need to tell him that and prepare for the fact that he'll probably cut and run. There's no use working yourself up over his 'mind games' when he's told you it's just about sex, yet you want something more than sex.
Well if you're going to carry on the discussion via PM you can't expect other people to keep up with it
And I wasn't exactly encouraging it, I assume she talks to him when they're together anyway, so in fact it was more like I was discouraging her from talking so much.
Basically.
Haven't you noticed how often your Mother was right though?
Don't you get the feeling that there is a consensus here that it's wrong and that you should work on your marriage.
Been there, done that, bought the t-shirt, worn the scars and trust me it's just not worth it.
Doesn't that say a lot to you then. That people older, wiser and with far more life experiences also think it's wrong?
As for having an affair. If it's just about sex, then you don't need to talk to this guy over emails etc. You meet up do the business and leave again simple as. Any more is more than just sex. I'm not perfect, I've cheated on partners before now and I've also been single and been with people who've been in relationships. The only thing I can say about those experiences is that they've all ended in hurt and suffering and the relationships splitting up. I can also say that from experience, people cheat when they have serious problems in their relationships.
You really should talk to you husband about the issues. If you don't have time to talk to him, then write him a letter stating maturely your problems and feelings. You can ask him to then either find time to talk to you about the letter or reply to you. It isn't the best way of conducting a relationship, but at least it's a start if you get some communication.
I can't work out what the actual problems you have with your husband is. You say in one thread that your husband never wants sex, and yet in this thread you say he wants it all the time now you have the porn channels. Him wanting sex in this way, may not feel 100% fair to you, but surely if what you want is "hard cock" then that is better than nothing and surely should satisfy your desires.
You've also got to think about how if this guy is so much older than you, is he only straying because he's flattered that a 28 year old would want to have sex with him and find him attractive. It could explain the games you feel he is playing. He's keeping you chasing, all the time boosting his confidence and making him more and more big headed. This to me would make me feel far more used than my partner watching some porn and then wanting a good hard f*ck.
I'm sure you do have other issues with your relationship that you aren't wanting to share because it really does seem from what you've said so far, that other than a slight shortage of time together and different sex drives there isn't a great deal wrong for you. Having an affair to me in this situation just seems to be an easy way out to stop you having to confront any problems you are having, but in the end you will have to confront them and having an affair, especially just for sex, will make you feel worthless and used and leave you depressed and upset.
Says it all....:rolleyes:
what the heck are you trying to say. I dont get it??:banghead: :banghead:
Just drop it. You are coming across as more stupid