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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Littleali wrote:
    you really need to grow up
    Erm, no offence to you because I know where you're coming from, BUT...

    ....wouldn't it be better if we tried to get her to focus on sorting things out with her husband and forgetting this whole idea of cheating on him, rather than resorting to insults?

    Please don't make me sounds like a mod again :(
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    dd38ll wrote:
    Kinda seeing this guy. He is alot old than me and we are both married to different people!! We have done some things but not anything major. He emails me and tells me all these things he wants to do to me and then when I see him in person he is a chicken. I shouldn't say he is a chicken. Maybe he just is a little uncomfortable getting it on in the car. I dont know. Then when I email him he acts like it a bother to write me back and he never answers my questions. When I ask him serious questions he just laughs it off and plays games with my head. So my question is this!!

    How do I come out and tell him that he needs to smarten up. I have put the guilt trip on him and it doesn't work. I stop emailing him for a week and he never sends me anything to see what is up. He is making me crazy!! He is also one of men you just can't say no to because he just drives ya wild. The bad thing is he knows how to play me. If I send him a long email that tells him off he sends me one back being all sweet and talking dirty to me and I give in. What do I do?????:banghead: :banghead:
    If You have any feelings for Your Husband You probally would'nt have played away, it seems to Me Your Marriage is over.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You Go Girl
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If You have any feelings for Your Husband You probally would'nt have played away, it seems to Me Your Marriage is over.
    Do try and read the rest of the thread before you reply :yeees:.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Franki wrote:
    Erm, no offence to you because I know where you're coming from, BUT...

    ....wouldn't it be better if we tried to get her to focus on sorting things out with her husband and forgetting this whole idea of cheating on him, rather than resorting to insults?

    Please don't make me sounds like a mod again :(
    not really because for the last 4 pages we`ve been trying to do that, she aint interested in anything we say, so whats the point?

    no matter what anyone here says, she'll find a way to justify what she is doing/going to do

    and her winding people up, or "getting them going" as she puts it, isn't gonna make anyone wanna help her :thumb:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    dd38ll wrote:
    no I just wanted to get you going and it worked. We do not have kids neither of us want any.
    What ever tickles your pickle.

    What concerns me is that you seem more than proud about the fact you're cheating on your partner, and don't seem to show the slightest bit of shame.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hey guys I seriously want you to talk to me about but I dont want to be yelled at all the time like I am talking to my mother or something!!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    dd38ll wrote:
    hey guys I seriously want you to talk to me about but I dont want to be yelled at all the time like I am talking to my mother or something!!!
    Okay, do You like icecream
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hell ya I love ice cream:shocking: :shocking:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Littleali wrote:
    not really because for the last 4 pages we`ve been trying to do that, she aint interested in anything we say, so whats the point?

    no matter what anyone here says, she'll find a way to justify what she is doing/going to do

    and her winding people up, or "getting them going" as she puts it, isn't gonna make anyone wanna help her :thumb:
    Because, correct me if I'm wrong, I was kinda getting somewhere. Fuck knows why she was listening to me instead of you, but resorting to insults probably had a small part to play in it. Maybe her marriage is really shit, which, much as it doesn't condone what she's thinking of doing, can't be a particularly pleasant experience. I don't think shouting her down as being a rubbish wife is doing much to help, particularly when, to me, her husband doesn't seem to be the pick of the bunch either.

    *justathought*

    And haven't you ever heard of not stepping down to their level ;).
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Oh dear god. Erm. No offence but I don't think that you're going to find the answers that you're looking for on this board. We all have our vices; none of use are perfect; we're also quite into morals and such like though.

    If you want advice on how to go about committing adultery then find another board - I'm sure there's probably a specialist one out there. If you want advice on what to do about this older guy, I'd give up. You've said he's had affairs before and despite going into this with your eyes open, you're still likely to get hurt.

    As for your relationship with your husband, I'm a tad confused. One minute you said that he wanted sex all the time since you got adult channels but in another post you say that he just sleeps and you don't do stuff anymore.

    Welcome to the boards by the way. A very grand entrance you have made.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    franki,

    I would much rather discuss my situation with you than someone who is going resort to anger and yelling at me all the time. Ever since I started this post that is all she is doing at me.

    Thanks for being so kind!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    PM me if you want to talk to me, I'll be happy to help if you're willing to listen.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    how do I do that???
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Click on my name, it'll come up with an option which says "Send Private Message".
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Loopi wrote:
    As for your relationship with your husband, I'm a tad confused. One minute you said that he wanted sex all the time since you got adult channels but in another post you say that he just sleeps and you don't do stuff anymore.

    Bloody mind readers, i was gonna say that ! ;)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think the OP proves quite categorically that universal suffrage is a bad idea.

    This cretin can choose governments :nervous:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    what the hell are you talking about????
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    dd38ll wrote:
    It's just sex!!!:heart::heart::heart::heart:
    dd38ll wrote:
    do you like to talk to people you fuck??? Well I do!!!

    No-one's saying you can't talk to him, but do it when you're together. Don't try and force the affair into the everyday, because he's obviously not interested in that or he'd reply to your e-mails. If it's just sex then that shouldn't be a problem. If it's more than that, which it must be or you wouldn't have said you loved him, you need to tell him that and prepare for the fact that he'll probably cut and run. There's no use working yourself up over his 'mind games' when he's told you it's just about sex, yet you want something more than sex.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    wildchild wrote:
    No-one's saying you can't talk to him, but do it when you're together. Don't try and force the affair into the everyday, because he's obviously not interested in that or he'd reply to your e-mails. If it's just sex then that shouldn't be a problem. If it's more than that, which it must be or you wouldn't have said you loved him, you need to tell him that and prepare for the fact that he'll probably cut and run. There's no use working yourself up over his 'mind games' when he's told you it's just about sex, yet you want something more than sex.
    Don't encourage her to talk to him, when I've just told her not to, please (although I'm aware you didn't know that) :p.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Franki wrote:
    Don't encourage her to talk to him, when I've just told her not to, please (although I'm aware you didn't know that) :p.

    Well if you're going to carry on the discussion via PM you can't expect other people to keep up with it :p

    And I wasn't exactly encouraging it, I assume she talks to him when they're together anyway, so in fact it was more like I was discouraging her from talking so much.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hahaha. I just told her to talk to her husband, and not talk to this other guy.

    Basically.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    dd38ll wrote:
    hey guys I seriously want you to talk to me about but I dont want to be yelled at all the time like I am talking to my mother or something!!!

    Haven't you noticed how often your Mother was right though?

    Don't you get the feeling that there is a consensus here that it's wrong and that you should work on your marriage.

    Been there, done that, bought the t-shirt, worn the scars and trust me it's just not worth it.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeah I get it. Okay I know it's wrong!!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well my mother would kick my but if she really knew the truth!!!:razz:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    dd38ll wrote: »
    well my mother would kick my but if she really knew the truth!!!:razz:

    Doesn't that say a lot to you then. That people older, wiser and with far more life experiences also think it's wrong?

    As for having an affair. If it's just about sex, then you don't need to talk to this guy over emails etc. You meet up do the business and leave again simple as. Any more is more than just sex. I'm not perfect, I've cheated on partners before now and I've also been single and been with people who've been in relationships. The only thing I can say about those experiences is that they've all ended in hurt and suffering and the relationships splitting up. I can also say that from experience, people cheat when they have serious problems in their relationships.

    You really should talk to you husband about the issues. If you don't have time to talk to him, then write him a letter stating maturely your problems and feelings. You can ask him to then either find time to talk to you about the letter or reply to you. It isn't the best way of conducting a relationship, but at least it's a start if you get some communication.

    I can't work out what the actual problems you have with your husband is. You say in one thread that your husband never wants sex, and yet in this thread you say he wants it all the time now you have the porn channels. Him wanting sex in this way, may not feel 100% fair to you, but surely if what you want is "hard cock" then that is better than nothing and surely should satisfy your desires.

    You've also got to think about how if this guy is so much older than you, is he only straying because he's flattered that a 28 year old would want to have sex with him and find him attractive. It could explain the games you feel he is playing. He's keeping you chasing, all the time boosting his confidence and making him more and more big headed. This to me would make me feel far more used than my partner watching some porn and then wanting a good hard f*ck.

    I'm sure you do have other issues with your relationship that you aren't wanting to share because it really does seem from what you've said so far, that other than a slight shortage of time together and different sex drives there isn't a great deal wrong for you. Having an affair to me in this situation just seems to be an easy way out to stop you having to confront any problems you are having, but in the end you will have to confront them and having an affair, especially just for sex, will make you feel worthless and used and leave you depressed and upset.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Kermit wrote: »
    I think the OP proves quite categorically that universal suffrage is a bad idea.

    This cretin can choose governments :nervous:
    dd38ll wrote: »
    what the hell are you talking about????

    :lol: Says it all....:rolleyes:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Kermit

    what the heck are you trying to say. I dont get it??:banghead: :banghead:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    could you talk so everyone understands what u are saying
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    dd38ll wrote: »
    could you talk so everyone understands what u are saying

    Just drop it. You are coming across as more stupid
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