Home Health & Wellbeing
Need support urgently? Head to this thread.

Paracetamol & Vodka - Perfect!

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
cassie doesnt know i am posting this - this is her sister

i am 19 and have only had 1 b/f which lasted 8days!! i am very unpopular at school and only have 1 good friend (although i hang around with 2others). i can usually talk 2 her bout anything but with this i cant. she is quite popular and has a body that every man wants!!

we r very close and she tells me everything bout her relationships. each time she does this, i cant help feeling more jealous of her. dont get me wrong - i want her 2 be happy b/c she deserves it!

but recently (this last year)i have been trying 2 end my life b/c it is sooooooooooo crap!! i have tried hanging myself / slitting my wrists (3times) / jumping off several tall buildings i dont know how many times and my next stop is an overdose!

my parents r yelling non-stop, my whole body is constantly aching, and my love life is non-existant (when all i am looking for is a little companionship that female friends cant give)! i dont even like going 2 bed on a night cos i cant face waking up the next day!

i really need sum help and advice b4 i seriously do sumthing i regret!

PLEASE HELP!!

Comments

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by cassie:
    <STRONG> jumping off several tall buildings i dont know how many times </STRONG>


    ermmmmmmmmmm, something doesn't add up here <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> care to explain how you wandered off each time ?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    For a start, if nothing else, talk to Cassie.

    Secondly, we're all here. And if you need to talk to us then you can, though I'd advise getting your own username, otherwise it's going to be very confusing.

    You talk about being depressed as if there's nothing that can be done. Think for a second about all the good things in your life, and make a list of all the best bits. Then see if you don't have a lot to live for.

    You're 19. Are you at uni, or working?

    There's plenty of time yet for boyfriends. I'm 19, I've only had one girlfriend. It doesn't matter, ok? No one judges on how many you've had; in fact, looking at some posts, the reverse could well be true.

    Again, I know about being brilliantly popular; it's not easy. I have ginger hair (sorry to spoil that one for you, folks) and I know that it's not easy. Make it easier on yourself and try and make some friends who do like you. That's quite daft, actually, and stupid advice, but hey.

    Relationships and being great looking aren't necessarily that perfect. She has loads of relationships; maybe things aren't that easy for her either? Don't be jealous; feel confident in yourself. Put it this way; girls who have lots of relationships are not necessarily the best girls to date, because they can often be not committed to a relationship.

    What I suggest is either talking this through with professional counsellors, I'm sure someone will put up a link to the numbers, or to your GP. They might be able to help with the aches, and the depression, and maybe make yourself feel ok about yourself, too.

    Do things that you enjoy; get a new haircut, or some clothes which are different than what you normally wear; and enjoy being single. I miss having a relationship too, but it has it's downsides, and it's not always all it's cracked up to be.

    Take care, and let us know how it goes.

    DJP
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    she's a fraud <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    What gives you the right to say that?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    nothing
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by eb:
    <STRONG>she's a fraud <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"></STRONG>

    Cudnt agree with you more!
    Either that or she had a rope tied to her jumping off those buildings! lol!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by eb:
    <STRONG>she's a fraud <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
    </STRONG>
    Originally posted by Sexy babe:
    <STRONG>Cudnt agree with you more!
    Either that or she had a rope tied to her jumping off those buildings! lol!</STRONG>
    Please don't ever go into counselling either of you <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">. It doesn't matter if 'cassie' is a fraud, some people reading this thread will have these problems and not have the courage to post it.

    DJP had good advice to give. A lot of people get depressed for a little while when things don't seem to be going right for them, but it doesn't mean there is no hope. Whether it is love-life probs or loneliness, whatever. Writing someone off like you two did is not helpful. Please think before you post.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    u can call me cecille (i'm cassie's sister)

    i cant talk 2 cassie cos we're not that close unfortunatly and i dont think that my younger sister wud want my troubles on her shoulder - she is usually a "self-help" kinda girl! she neva tells me stuff, i wish she wud!!

    my friend's not a fraud and every relationship she has shes commited 2 - its the lads that arent!

    the chances of making new friends in my city r slim 2 none!

    and bout the several tall buildings quote - i didnt jump but i came VERY close and i only did it once (sorry 2 mislead u all!)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Is it purely the absence of a relationship that's difficult on you, or is it more than that?

    And I would recommend that you sign up yourself, because then I won't get all confuseled!!!

    DJP
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Kentish:
    <STRONG>
    Please don't ever go into counselling either of you <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">. It doesn't matter if 'cassie' is a fraud, some people reading this thread will have these problems and not have the courage to post it.

    DJP had good advice to give. A lot of people get depressed for a little while when things don't seem to be going right for them, but it doesn't mean there is no hope. Whether it is love-life probs or loneliness, whatever. Writing someone off like you two did is not helpful. Please think before you post.</STRONG>

    fair enough, i'll take it back, but this is clearly somebody who is lying and it pisses me off, nobody can fail to commit suicide that many times if they genuinely want to.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    eb, don't be such an idiot.

    There are people who can, and do, fail because the knife wasn't sharp enough, or someone found them, or they misjudged the angle to cut.

    Doesn't mean the intention's not there. And sometimes, as you'd know if you'd ever thought about it, it is as much a cry for help as a real intent to end life.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by DJP:
    <STRONG>eb, don't be such an idiot.

    There are people who can, and do, fail because the knife wasn't sharp enough, or someone found them, or they misjudged the angle to cut.

    Doesn't mean the intention's not there. And sometimes, as you'd know if you'd ever thought about it, it is as much a cry for help as a real intent to end life.</STRONG>
    !! i have tried hanging myself / slitting my wrists (3times) / jumping off several tall buildings i dont know how many times and my next stop is an overdose!

    Quite clearly she doesn't actually want to kill herself otherwise she would of. If its a cry for help why doesn't she get her arse down to her doctor ? These people wallow about in self pity expecting people to help them when they can't be bothered to help themselves <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    I know i must sound an absolute **** , but i'm getting increasingly pissed off with attention seeking pillocks who waste peoples time, if she has a problem get to the doctors and discuss it, if not stop wandering about trying to hang themselves.

    Aslo why is she / you still at school aged 19 ?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Cecille here

    eb - each time i try 2 end my life sumthing stops me and i dont know what it is so it looks like for the moment i am safe!

    n e way what do u know bout my life - u dont live it - u dont see what i see - u dont have ur dad accusing his wife of having an affair with ur uncle do u? how do u think that makes me feel!?! i have no 1 2 talk 2 which is y i came on here!usually i can handle bottling this up but on a bad day things get on top of me and BOOM... i lose control... u shud not judge people...

    AND U SHUD NOT THINK THAT JUST COS U HAVENT GONE THROUGH ANYTHING LIKE THIS, THAT U UNDERSTAND HOW I FEEL COS U DONT!!!!!
    <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey, both of you.

    Let's calm, and make peace.

    eb, are you convinced? The boards exist to help people, you know that, yo're old enough and wise enough. Okay, so even I wasn't sure, but now I am, and I'll support her.

    Cecille, you calm too. Don't be provoked by this. I know it's hard, but anger won't help you. I do think that if it's a family problem, you should discuss it with Cassie, and that the two of you can try and help each other, more than we can, because, as you say; we don't live your life.

    Cecille, I don't think you actually want to commit suicide, I think you don't know what else to do; that's why you stop. Controlling your emotions is fine, and if you want to take it out on someone, take it out on me, because I understand about anger, ok? You want to shout, scream type murder at me, fine, go ahead if it makes it better.

    Let's not have a war, shall we?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    O.k i'm sorry Cecille, i take it back, its obvious i have no real need to post what i have and i'll shut up and disappear from this thread.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hi there,

    Sounds like you are having a really hard time at the moment. There's something here that you might like to read:
    http://www.thesite.org/info/health/depression/feeling_suicidal.html
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hope you manage to sort yourself out a bit cecille <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
    i know your family problems must be so hard to cope with,but you will get through it and you will be a much stronger person for your experiences.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    HEY GUYS

    this is cassie - i didnt realise cecille was posting on here! thanx 4 the advice u have given her, it sounds 2 me like she needs it! i didnt realise - i mean i know she is withdrawn but i didnt realise that our homelife was getting her down that much!!!

    anyway i'm gonna talk 2 her and sort it out with her ok. i feel like she should come and talk 2 me when she has a problem but as she said she seems 2 think i dont want 2 listen.

    anyway thanx again

    <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="tongue.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="biggrin.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by eb:
    <STRONG>nobody can fail to commit suicide that many times if they genuinely want to.</STRONG>
    Shut the fuck up you ignorant piece of shit? Have you any idea what it is liek to be so depressed you slice your arm up with razor blades, to be so unhappy with life that you wake up every morning wishing you hadnt? Have you any idea what it is like to be so alone and despairing that you stand on top of bridges wondering if you should just jump and end it all, to be so bad that you want to take an overdose to die?

    Most depressed people dont *want* to die, they want to live, but they dont see any hope of them living. So death is the only way of stopping the perpetual pain. When you have to be put on a high dose of Prozac just to protect yourself from yourself, and have to be referred to psychotherapists specialising in severe self-harming and personality disorders, and still want to be not alive, then get back to me. Until then I will regard you as an ignorant fuck who should go shove his head up his arse to stop both ends from talking shit.

    I dount this person is lying, she probably thought about it but lacked the courage to actually do it...you have no idea how fucking desperate a person has to be to contemplate suicide, and how brave they have to be to actually commit it. If for some reason this particluar person *is* lying, so what? Other people in the same position wont be...just remember this place is more than your own personal ego-trip.

    Cunt.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Kermit:
    <STRONG>
    Shut the fuck up you ignorant piece of shit? Have you any idea what it is liek to be so depressed you slice your arm up with razor blades, to be so unhappy with life that you wake up every morning wishing you hadnt? Have you any idea what it is like to be so alone and despairing that you stand on top of bridges wondering if you should just jump and end it all, to be so bad that you want to take an overdose to die?

    Most depressed people dont *want* to die, they want to live, but they dont see any hope of them living. So death is the only way of stopping the perpetual pain. When you have to be put on a high dose of Prozac just to protect yourself from yourself, and have to be referred to psychotherapists specialising in severe self-harming and personality disorders, and still want to be not alive, then get back to me. Until then I will regard you as an ignorant fuck who should go shove his head up his arse to stop both ends from talking shit.

    I dount this person is lying, she probably thought about it but lacked the courage to actually do it...you have no idea how fucking desperate a person has to be to contemplate suicide, and how brave they have to be to actually commit it. If for some reason this particluar person *is* lying, so what? Other people in the same position wont be...just remember this place is more than your own personal ego-trip.

    Cunt.</STRONG>

    Kermit, firstly i said sorry o.k ? i admitted i was wrong, no need for you stick your pennies worth in
    <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    Secondly i'm not going to continue my argument, you clealy haven't read properly or if you have you've mis-understood my point, the quote you used i stick by. If the girl is depressed she should visit her doctor, she obviously doesn't want to commit suicide, and i'm not alone in my thoughts, there was a small fallout whilst this argument took place on messenger and pm's, i would rather leave it now for the good of everybody as i stated, can you not be big enough to do likewise ?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    You dont get it do you?

    Maybe this might help you understand why I take it so personally. And why you need to learn about life before opening your useless trap.

    [edited becuase the link was incorrect]

    [ 25-04-2002: Message edited by: Kermit ]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Whoever that is, you or somebody else just backs up my argument as they have looked for help, as apposed to trying to chuck themsleves of a building several times <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">

    edited because kermit edited his <IMG SRC="confused.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> !

    [ 25-04-2002: Message edited by: eb ]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    eb i dunno if your high or what but shut up if you stick by your view thats your business but it aint wanted or needed in this thread.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by beatnu:
    <STRONG>eb i dunno if your high or what but shut up if you stick by your view thats your business but it aint wanted or needed in this thread.</STRONG>
    posted by eb:<STRONG> O.k i'm sorry Cecille, i take it back, its obvious i have no real need to post what i have and i'll shut up and disappear from this thread. </STRONG>

    I know <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> But Kermit feels the need to continue something which i feel would be better left alone, and you could benefit from reading the whole thread before you are equally guilty of what you are preaching <IMG SRC="wink.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Gaah, Ill stop even trying to be intelligent now.

    If thats an apology Im a German.

    I hope none of your friends get this illness, cos theyll be fucked knowing you.

    Im not keeping anything stirred up, the thread was new when I posted and it disgusted me.

    And, yes, I think you are a c*nt.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i have read it and all you have done is accuse cassie's sister of being a liar when you dont have a clue so lets just leave it at that. you are the one in the wrong not me or kermit
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by cassie:
    <STRONG>anyway i'm gonna talk 2 her and sort it out with her ok. i feel like she should come and talk 2 me when she has a problem but as she said she seems 2 think i dont want 2 listen
    </STRONG>
    cassie, I'm really pleased that you have found out cecille's true feelings, even if you found out via this forum!

    This kind of thing is exactly what sisters are for, and talking to each other about your feelings is a simple way to get a handle on your stresses and worries.

    I hope things work out for you both <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
    Originally posted by beatnu:
    <STRONG>you are the one in the wrong not me or kermit</STRONG>
    Out. Butt.
    Rearrange <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    let me think ........no

    No rearanging needed here
    TOSSER <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> <IMG SRC="mad.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Right, that's enough from everyone. Treat each other with a bit more respect please. I know it's a very emotive subject and feelings are running high, but still....
Sign In or Register to comment.