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Miscarriage - my 9months of hell
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Well i'll start this from the beginning, may take a while so bare with me please.
I found out i was pregnantlast year. Strangely enough, i wasnt scared or worried, but i was happy, as i knew it felt right. At my 6week scan, i found out i was carrying two healthy tiny foetuses.I was so happy that everything was fine.
I went for my 7week scan and found out i had lost them both. But there was more bad news.
One of my ovaries had developed a lump.
Two days later i went to have my D&C operation to remove the foetuses. I was meant to be in and out in the day, but something went wrong and i ended up in hospital for nearly a week. They had damaged my the other fallobian tube. I waited til january this year for more tests to be carried out (by this time i had split with my ex and had moved back in with my parents). They had fears then that the lump maybe cancerous and the fallobian tube so badly damaged, that my both my ovaries and tubes may have had to be removed. I had gone from carrying two babies, to not being abe to have kids at all, in the matter of months.
In the beginning of march i went through several minor operations, to remove the tissue growth cells (the lump) and to try and reconstruct my tube. anway, I went for a check up on the 28th of march, the day my twins were due, they confirmed that the lump had been removed and my tube was no longer damaged, and that i would be able to have kids.
I just wanna say to any1 thats been thru a miscarriage etc, there is hope for all of us out there, and im living proof of it, but whatever you do, dont give up <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
I found out i was pregnantlast year. Strangely enough, i wasnt scared or worried, but i was happy, as i knew it felt right. At my 6week scan, i found out i was carrying two healthy tiny foetuses.I was so happy that everything was fine.
I went for my 7week scan and found out i had lost them both. But there was more bad news.
One of my ovaries had developed a lump.
Two days later i went to have my D&C operation to remove the foetuses. I was meant to be in and out in the day, but something went wrong and i ended up in hospital for nearly a week. They had damaged my the other fallobian tube. I waited til january this year for more tests to be carried out (by this time i had split with my ex and had moved back in with my parents). They had fears then that the lump maybe cancerous and the fallobian tube so badly damaged, that my both my ovaries and tubes may have had to be removed. I had gone from carrying two babies, to not being abe to have kids at all, in the matter of months.
In the beginning of march i went through several minor operations, to remove the tissue growth cells (the lump) and to try and reconstruct my tube. anway, I went for a check up on the 28th of march, the day my twins were due, they confirmed that the lump had been removed and my tube was no longer damaged, and that i would be able to have kids.
I just wanna say to any1 thats been thru a miscarriage etc, there is hope for all of us out there, and im living proof of it, but whatever you do, dont give up <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
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I hope everything is going well for you now. <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
Yeah things are all ok now.
I had to tell every1 my story, as so many young girls go thru miscarriages every year. My case was really bad, and i just hope that no1 else has to go through that.
There is one thing i forgot to mention. Ive not told my boyfriend that ive been through all of this. Is it a good idea to tell him or should i just keep quiet?
If it is a serious relationship, I would consider telling him if you feel comfortable with it.
It's through with sharing life experiences that we can become closer to people. The past is past, but in many cases it can be relevant to the way we are now.
If you do tell him, he may not know what to say. As long as you are able to show him how it affected you and how you are coping now, he should be able to learn from that and be a useful support.
He'll need your reassurance just as much as you need his I should imagine.
It could well bring you closer together, but don't feel you HAVE to tell him.
Only you can really know whether it is the right time with the right person.
Good luck with it, I sincerely hope it works out for you.
Keep us posted with how it's going. <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
if i were you i would tell your bf what you have been through. but like it has already been said he probably will not know what to say, and this may come across like he is not bothered (i have learned this from past experiences)
you did not mention much about how you felt about the actual loss of your babies (sorry if i sound heartless i dont mean to <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> ) my mum lost a baby when she was about 6/7 months pregnant you see.
i just hope that everything works out for you hun, take care xxx
Luckily i had a great team of nurses at the hospital, who specialise in helping younger mums cope through pregnancies and miscarriages. They even helped me organise a memorial for the twins at the hospital chapel, and still now i have a scan picture of them at my bedside, so i never forget them.
Anyway, i have decided to tell my bf when the time is right. He deserves to know what ive gone through. Il keep you all posted on how things go <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">
And I agree that you should tell your bf when you feel it is right. Only you can judge whether it is serious enough to go into.