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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
HI all

Bascially, ive been on fluoxetine for nearly a month now but im still feeing very depressed and upset aswell as tried and being ill. i know there are side effects and it takes time to workbut i thought there would of been a significant difference. more recently i keep thinking bout taking an overdose. i know thats bad but i just dont know how to cope and deal with everything. my boyfriend knows allabout it but he finds it hard to support me in the way i need, and theonly friends i feel i can talk to properly are in different places to me because we are all away at uni.

just wondered if any of u had any suggesions of wat i can do would be much appreciated

thanx,
K

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by SpinSugarK:
    <STRONG>just wondered if any of u had any suggesions of wat i can do would be much appreciated</STRONG>
    You know this:

    1) Don't take an overdose
    2) Go back to your GP and discuss alternatives
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hello, well, Fluoxetine is great for a lot of people, but has disadvantages. It disinhibits and can make you more impulsive, not terribly good if you're prone to feel suicidal. Additionally, a SMALL number of people react badly to Fluoxetine, in that it can cause feelings of agression/violence, increased suicidal ideation and panic/anxiety. See your doctor to at least talk about your concerns. It may be that Fluoxetine just doesn't suit you - don't lose hope, because there are a multitude of other options drugwise. Ask your doctor about drugs like Venlafaxine (Effexor) and Mirtazapine (Zispin). These are antidepressants which have a more calming/anti-anxiety effect than the typical SSRI's. Do some research on the Internet, there's loads of info on different drug treatments, and being armed with knowledge/knowing your options will make you feel less helpless.

    As suggested above, I would also ask your doctor to refer you for some councelling. Talking through your problems/concerns/feelings can help to make you feel less isolated and will relieve some of the pressure you're feeling. Writing down your thoughts whenever you can is really helpful too in this respect.

    I know how impossible it can be to share these feelings with friends, and boyfriends. Unfortunately, the very nature of depression means that your close relationships are often affected, because it's natural to focus your anxieties on your immediate situation. Talking to someone objective, like a councellor, can help with this too as you won't feel so strongly the need for your partner to give you this kind of support.

    I would write more, but this message is already getting pretty long! If you want to mail me you are welcome to do so; by what you wrote I think I've dealt with a lot of the issues you're facing and I know easy it is to feel isolated by them.
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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hiya, welcome to TheSite <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="smile">

    Im on fluoxetine too, and it took probably about six weeks to two months for there to be any noticeable difference in my mood. Give the drugs time, and you will get better.

    But drgs alone wont get you better again, have you talked to your doctor about being referred to speak to a counsellor or psychotherapist? Maybe talk to your university counselling service, its worth a try <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="smile">

    I know how you feel (I self harm) so if you want any help or a friendl;y ear just drrop us an email <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="smile">

    Good luck!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hiya

    thanx all for ur advice!

    I decided to go and make an appointment at the uni councilling service today. going to see them on monday. also got a doc's appointment on monday after it too so that should help.

    im just worried about how much i tend to be relying on my bf. like i want to talk to him and be in contact with him all the time.when im around him i feel lots better. i dont know why im being like this. sorry just wondered if u know why im being like this

    Ty
    K x
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Dont worry abot relying on your bf, it doesnt make you a failure to need people around you who care. I rely on my gf a hell of a lot, and its a help, I dont know how bad Id be without her:-/

    If hes there for you, use him. It helps to not be alone, cos you cant get over depression alone.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanx again for the advice.

    This weekend hasnt been very good for me. on saturday mybf broke up with me, he said we werent getting on and he just couldnt support me right now. i can see his point cos ive been totally different recently, i dont know who i am nemore u know, and as for the support,well hes really screwed uphimself. hes got a lot of stuff from when he was younger at school that he had to cope with and really bad depression and i think bullying for a few years and i dont think hes properlydeltwith itso hes gonna go get some help.i think the best thing for us is to sort ourselves outand see where we stand in a bit of time.

    anyway, i wasfeeling reallydown and i started to take my migraine tablets (only paracetamol and codeine) and had taken a fair few, but not huge amounts, and then realised wot i was doing and told my friend so i had to go to a&e for 4 and something hrs,and have a blood test etc and be monitored. i know i didnt wanna die but it wasnt for attention, its just total dispair. I went to councilling today which helped to talk over stuff and i also saw the doctor who is refering me to a community psychiatric nurse so hopefully it should get me somewhere. as for the fluoxetine, he said i should stay on it for a bit longer cos it takestime to work but im going back in 2 weeks, if not b4 so ill see how itgoes.

    im also thinking bout going home for a few days cos i cant reallycope here at uni at the moment so i need the break.

    sorry if it was more of a rant than a proper post.

    Kt x
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hi again

    ive come home for a bit.im going back monday so im getting pampered for a bit now...well foodcooked for me and decent tv to watch and the car to go out in. its good to have got away from everything for a bit. i also talked to my mum bout everything the other day so thats helped so i can speak to her now too.

    dont really know wot to do bout the whole splitting up with bfthing tho, i really miss him and i dont know wot to do, cos itsreally not helping

    Ive got my appetite back now...Mmm, i can smell a lovely roast dinner cooking

    i just wish things would get better faster

    Kt
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yeah, I know how you feel <IMG SRC="frown.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> Keep taking the pills and things will get better (you wont feel complete despair most of the time) and also try and get some counselling. Maybe you should also ask your doctor about seeing a psychotherapist or some other professional.

    Im going through what you are- as Ive said before, I have a self-harming problem and depression- so if you want a chat email me or add me to msn ([email protected])

    Take care, and were here for you if you need to rant.

    *hugs*
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ditto me - if you want another shoulder/hug. my e-mail address is up there (damn keyboard has no up-pointing arrow). Don't do anything you'll regret babe!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think shift+6 is what your looking for <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon"> ^^^
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well, I dont have many problems, not involving this anyways...
    I was just reading thru this and I just want to say how touched I am.
    It just goes to show that some people do genuinely care and how sweet I think all you guys are...
    I know where to come when I need some advice

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    oh...and spinsugar? good luck with everything and hope you cheer up soon <IMG SRC="smile.gif" border="0" ALT="icon">xx
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    thanx everyone whos been really supportive and caring xx

    Just thought id let u know how it was going. it been a week today since my bf broke up with me and i dont know how imfeeling. im feeling better for being home and ive made small talk with my boyfriend if ive seen him online but nothing to discuss aynthing at all. the tablets are helping a bit but i keep feeling dispair,not knowing wot to do.its gonna be really hard going back to uni knowing i might see him aorund. imgonna write himaletter. i keep meaning to do it but i know its gonna make meupset so its gonna be hard.sorryi just thought idsay how i am

    Kt
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