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Falling for
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Right, I seem to be doing what I always swore I wouldn't. Rapidly falling for the guy I'm currently sleeping with.
Has been 'friends with benefits' for ages now, which we were both enjoying and suited both of us. Since I moved home from uni though we get more opportunities to see each other and I'm falling for him.
Silly Girl :banghead:
Has been 'friends with benefits' for ages now, which we were both enjoying and suited both of us. Since I moved home from uni though we get more opportunities to see each other and I'm falling for him.
Silly Girl :banghead:
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i think, it might just be me, that its pretty much impossible to be just friends with benefits. when you sleep with someone its usually such a close physical thing theres gotta be some feelings involved. even if its purely lust.
It has worked very well in the past, good mates who care about each other but aren't interested in the commitment involved in a relationship.
Grrr. I shall keep thinking.
If he's already doing a few more 'couplely' type things with you, maybe you could just suggest a few more. Like go out together places and just spend time together not having sex. If that all goes well, and you still reckon you really like him you could make the suggestion. But the biggie is if he says no, you probs wouldn't be able to continue the 'friends with benefits' situation. But if he's a good friend, I doubt you'd lose him completely
Okay, I know what you're saying. Yeah, I suppose if you do wanna take it further, there are risks involved. But who ever got anywhere without taking risks? Like Kate said anyway, I doubt you'd totally lose his friendship. And just think what you stand to gain. How great would it be to be in a relationship with such a good friend and somebody you already know so well and are so comfortable with? Again, like what has already been said, do more coupley things like meals out and stuff, gradually build it up, and see how it goes...
He's suggested going away for a night or two somewhere when I'm properly better so might wait and see if that actually happens and how things go in the lead up to that and while we're there, and talk to him while we're away.
:thumb: sounds like a plan
and going away for a couple of nights already sounds like a bit more than a sex buddies thing
Yeah. Sounds romantic to me...
Hell even if I pull a girl who I don't even know in a club, I end up thinking I have feelings for her.
:yes: same pretty much. especially if they were a friend already, I think I'd be in a similar situation to Scary Monster
please go out with me
orig poster: i'd play it by ear good luck with it.
I'm sure something could be arranged :flirt:
lol
yeah, same I always think: if you can seperate the feeling completely from it, it's just an advanced wank. Since I inherited the hormones of a 13 year old, I rather leave that be
So, watch out girls :P I'm the guy who texts you the day after asking you how you are and trying to arrange a cup of coffee in your vicinity
Yeah, or I'm putty in the bouncers hands!!
I just read the thread from the main page
Falling For
and in the second line (if you disregard the "by")
sophia...
awww, falling for sophia. Something everyone of us was guilty of at some time
my ghostwriter sitting behind me is worth every penny.
:razz:
I can rarely be bothered with girls I don't know when clubbing, i'd far rather enjoy the time out with my mates. Same in the uni - i'd rather chat to girls who're my friends than look for someone to go home with.
On topic though, I definitely think it sounds like he thinks it's more than 'friends with benefits' too... or wants it to be anyway...
Stone cold sober hindsight realises that as you both enjoyed it might as well try it again sometime and one fondle leads to another!
yeah... if you make little hints like, "brrr, it's cold can i slip under your warm blankets?" and it's an accept, it's already have the rent.
If the other one is not interested in you, you'd realize pretty easily, when you subtly dig...
See I just wouldn't be able to do that with one of my close female friends for a few reasons. Number one, it would just seem so wierd! Number two, I wouldn't be able to not fall for them and keep it as just sex. Number three, I'd be scared of it ruining our friendship.