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Hello every one
Right ive been on here before as a couple of other names (try to guess what ones, just look for the ones with very few posts mostly in the part of the forum and aint been on for ages) the reason for the new name is how i feel and also cos i cant be bothered to find my old passwords cos my computer deleted the store thingie. so im gona use this from now on. also none of u will probably remember me either.
Right first off im 17, Male and from the london area. i go to a college and am learning computer and art stuff cos i wana work in the computer games industry designing art work in games and stuff. im hoping to put a few computer drawn pictures on the internet soon, what do u all think? um ive been visiting here for about a year reading posts and stuff, i found the site from a post card at the cinema, whioch u fill in the front and give to a boy/girl who u fancie, and its got tick boxes on it, anyone remember them? um duno what else to put about myself, but ive got a problem which is seriously ruining my life.
i'll try to put paragraphs in but forgive me if i forget cos i just type away and forget how to set it all out, thanxs for your patients.
Well my problem is, actually my name, 'lonely in life' cos thats how i feel. right now ive lost 2 g/f's in the space of a month with my total number of g/f's being about 4 or 5. ud think a number that small id be able to remember but i get messed around so much i forget who i actually truly went out with.
all my mates are dropping me like flys next to one of them blue ring things u find in bakerys.
my best mates are telling me to FUK, Piss and go off etc.
my mum aint talking to me
right think thats about it for problems. i read a post before about blokes being too nice and i definatly know how he feels, girls dump me cos im to nice, the reason why they dump me is because they want me to be mean to them and i can never stop being nice to them, but as soon as i do the littlest thing wrong i get told to get on my bike anyways. every girl that has dumped me has told me they love me. i guess its true when people say that the people you love the most will hurt you the most. but i duno what to do about girls, ive never had a g/f close to where i live, ive always had to travel for an hour + to where my g/f is. ive never had a local one. i duno how to be more what girls want. im always being told im perfect or so sweet, or cute or loverly and so adorable they would go out with me inseconds but they never do, or if they do they dumop me a few weeks later cos they cant handel how nice i am. i just want a g/f to like me for who i am and not dump me cos im to nice. my last g/f dumped me last week, but she still wants to kiss me and change her clothes when she goes to bed if she stays round my house, she stays round cos she is a good mate now. but im confused, she dont want to be my g/f but still wants to kiss me and be naked in front of me.
Firneds are dropping me so quickly. ive realised how few mates i actually have. i dont find it hard to make friends, i can chat to anyone stright away, not in a chatting up way but in a friendly wanting to know them and not their tits kinda way. but they aint mates i see out side of college, just talk to them inside or at the bus stop. but mates i do see outta college are dropping me so quickly, not seeing me, or telling me to F off cos i did a little thing wrong or taking out all there stress and anger out on me when i dont deserve it. they are all telling me to not talk to them ever again. ive had 3 people tx me telling me to leave them alone for ever, at this rate i'll have none soon.
mum aint talking to me but i duno y and not that bothered cos right now i do want to be on my own. i duno why im even writing this post, i guess i just want a bit of cheering up or to let out my problems seeing as no one else is interested or maybe people could help me into girls thoughts or something.
Im very sorry for the length of this post as i find it hard to get everything out i want in short sentaces, i find it hard writing my thoughts down, but i'll be very greatful to anyone who replies to this.
Thank you very much
If you have 3 friends, you are a rich man, no matter how much money you have.
Right ive been on here before as a couple of other names (try to guess what ones, just look for the ones with very few posts mostly in the part of the forum and aint been on for ages) the reason for the new name is how i feel and also cos i cant be bothered to find my old passwords cos my computer deleted the store thingie. so im gona use this from now on. also none of u will probably remember me either.
Right first off im 17, Male and from the london area. i go to a college and am learning computer and art stuff cos i wana work in the computer games industry designing art work in games and stuff. im hoping to put a few computer drawn pictures on the internet soon, what do u all think? um ive been visiting here for about a year reading posts and stuff, i found the site from a post card at the cinema, whioch u fill in the front and give to a boy/girl who u fancie, and its got tick boxes on it, anyone remember them? um duno what else to put about myself, but ive got a problem which is seriously ruining my life.
i'll try to put paragraphs in but forgive me if i forget cos i just type away and forget how to set it all out, thanxs for your patients.
Well my problem is, actually my name, 'lonely in life' cos thats how i feel. right now ive lost 2 g/f's in the space of a month with my total number of g/f's being about 4 or 5. ud think a number that small id be able to remember but i get messed around so much i forget who i actually truly went out with.
all my mates are dropping me like flys next to one of them blue ring things u find in bakerys.
my best mates are telling me to FUK, Piss and go off etc.
my mum aint talking to me
right think thats about it for problems. i read a post before about blokes being too nice and i definatly know how he feels, girls dump me cos im to nice, the reason why they dump me is because they want me to be mean to them and i can never stop being nice to them, but as soon as i do the littlest thing wrong i get told to get on my bike anyways. every girl that has dumped me has told me they love me. i guess its true when people say that the people you love the most will hurt you the most. but i duno what to do about girls, ive never had a g/f close to where i live, ive always had to travel for an hour + to where my g/f is. ive never had a local one. i duno how to be more what girls want. im always being told im perfect or so sweet, or cute or loverly and so adorable they would go out with me inseconds but they never do, or if they do they dumop me a few weeks later cos they cant handel how nice i am. i just want a g/f to like me for who i am and not dump me cos im to nice. my last g/f dumped me last week, but she still wants to kiss me and change her clothes when she goes to bed if she stays round my house, she stays round cos she is a good mate now. but im confused, she dont want to be my g/f but still wants to kiss me and be naked in front of me.
Firneds are dropping me so quickly. ive realised how few mates i actually have. i dont find it hard to make friends, i can chat to anyone stright away, not in a chatting up way but in a friendly wanting to know them and not their tits kinda way. but they aint mates i see out side of college, just talk to them inside or at the bus stop. but mates i do see outta college are dropping me so quickly, not seeing me, or telling me to F off cos i did a little thing wrong or taking out all there stress and anger out on me when i dont deserve it. they are all telling me to not talk to them ever again. ive had 3 people tx me telling me to leave them alone for ever, at this rate i'll have none soon.
mum aint talking to me but i duno y and not that bothered cos right now i do want to be on my own. i duno why im even writing this post, i guess i just want a bit of cheering up or to let out my problems seeing as no one else is interested or maybe people could help me into girls thoughts or something.
Im very sorry for the length of this post as i find it hard to get everything out i want in short sentaces, i find it hard writing my thoughts down, but i'll be very greatful to anyone who replies to this.
Thank you very much
If you have 3 friends, you are a rich man, no matter how much money you have.
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Im really sorry to hear things r pants for u and I wish I could offer some miracle cure but I cant really. I always used to feel that mates used me and treated me bad and men also. I always felt on my own and like I had nobody. But now Im more comfortable in myself I dont get that anymore. POeople still shit on me at times, but thats life and I tend to just let it go over my head now rather than be affected by it. When I get trerated bad now I just say to myself "they aint worth it anyway, and better to have seen their true colours sooner rather than later". I dont get down when someone hurts me now, I just get over it coz its the only way to not end up feeling lonely.
I hope thats been of some sort of help, sometimes its good to no that u aint the only one who has felt like this. Hopefully u wont b lonely now u r here, coz we r a great bunch and wont treat u bad either.
Take care!
sory to hear ur havin a shitty time, sumtimes life is shit aint it? But anyways, firstly - it's beta to b luved for who u r than puttin on a front wiv girls. Just b urself! There is sum1 out there 4 every1 <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
Secondly, did u ever consider that it mite be the distance thing that is makin the girls leave u? Sumtimes temptation can b 2 much. Hows about lookin closer to home?
Thirdly, did u do anything to provoke ur friends? if they left u with no reason then they are not real friends. But don't worry u have us now <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
Fourthly, don't apologise for the length of ur post - we don't care! its best to let out all ur feelings in the way that u want. Sumtimes just that helps.
Fifthly (is dat a word?!?), try to stay outta ya mums way 4 a little while, maybe shes jus stressed about something, it mite not even involve u. Every1 takes out their problems on people wen they don't mean 2.
I hope that this has been of some help to you. Just remember we're always here if u wanna talk bout ur problems <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
One more thing -
i remember those cinema postcards - i picked 1 up! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
Another turning point, a fork stuck in the road. Time grabs you by the wrist, directs you where to go.
Don't worry about the length of your posts! We get more of an idea whats wrong if you give us more details rather than a brief outline <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
Have you done anything to give your friends any reason what so ever for them to treat you like this? If you haven't done anything then do you really need them as a friend?
Your mum will forgive you cause its what they do!
If you are nice with the women you date and they treat you like crap then its their loss and another womans gain <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"> There will be someone out there who will be happy with you for a long long time. Maybe life.
If your patient then you will find someone who will appreciate your kindness and the love you have to offer! Good luck andkeep us up to date <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
Don't take life seriously because you can't come out of it alive
Ok L-i-L, let me make you feel a little bit better. Im 17, I live down South. Im hoping to go to Universtiy late next year in Middlesex (well more north London really) but thats where the good things end.
Out of the past 6 girls I have tried for, guess what my success rate is? 0/6. The common excuse is.. "Were such good friends, I dont want to ruin it" "Im not ready for a relationship" and the classic "Its not you... it's me" and do you know what happened EVERY time? 2 Days later they would be parading around on front of me with their new boyfriend. about a year and a month ago, my friend screwed me over by getting it on with the girl I fancied for a while.. in the same room! The 2 girls who I have had the most feelings for have been told about my feelings by a person who I hate (one day when I was off school with Flu) and another, who just 'let it slip'. So I am girlfriend-less, I am not sure if I have any real friends, maybe one or 2, but like you the rest are just acquaintances. My home life sucks.. u say your mum doesn't talk to you.. mine died back in '98, 6 days after my 15th birthday. What a fun time my life has been!!
When I went up to Middlesex University for my Interview, all this happened:
1) Late Train
2) Wrong Train ticket
3) Delayed Tube
4) Bag stolen (temporarily)
5) Wrong bus (somebody gave me the wrong number bus)
6) Wrong directions
7) Witnessed an Italian gentleman have a heart-attack,
8) Wrong directions (again)
9) Wrong bus (Again)
10) Wrong Directions (YET AGAIN!!!)
11) I end up almost 3 hours late for my interview!
( I guess the silver lining is that they want me to come to that university, so its not all bad)
This is just a few things that have gone wrong. Just trying to make you feel better. Which I feel is my job in life!
DK
I never said I loved you...
However I will fuck you...
until someone better comes along!!!!
ur rite, every cloud dus av a silver linin.
u mus b pretty gud if the uni stil wants u! That day musta bin hell.
Sorry to hear bout ur mum.
u wil find a gr8 girl 1 day, who wil love u for who u r, u wait and see <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
Another turning point, a fork stuck in the road. Time grabs you by the wrist, directs you where to go.
I never said I loved you...
However I will fuck you...
until someone better comes along!!!!
Im sorry to hear about all that stuff thats happened to you DK. i really duno what to say as every single person always says it will get better, but in your mind you know it wont (even thought it may, i duno) well at least i know there is someone else out there in similar troubles.
Well a few friends have made up with me, but one girl simply wont make up, i supposidly said something and now she hates me and wont talk to me till i remember what i said. i cannot for the life in me remember what i said. so now ive truly lost a mate, thing is i txed her saying sorry and stuff and she said i forgive you in a reply. but just now i called her and her mate came to the phone and asked who i was (after her mum went to get her) and said shes very busy with homework, bye and hung up. i really duno what to do or believe anymore.
thanxs for everyone who said i'll have friends here, i appriciate it but im sure u will all understand this, its just not the same. your all faceless, sure ur personality will shine through but i will never truly get to know u, or be loved by any of you. i really duno what to do any more and right now i just want to kill myself, i know i wont as i couldnt go through with it, someone once said its a permantent solution to a simple problem, or something like that i cannot remember the eact words. i really duno wot to do no more. no one really truly cares for me, ive been in college and only two people have bothered asking if i was ok, one wouldnt shut up asking me when i told him to leave me alone and only asked me whats up cos his g/f was worried shed said something wrong to me. the other person was really nice and asks me generally if im alright cos she can tell, but no one can really help me. i just feel like crying right now, i probably will. every day at college someone has said my eyes look read, to much crying i guess.
i dont know what the **** to do anymore, no one truly cares, got no proper mates at college, except maybe one who cares but i hardly see her, got no mates out of college who care except my ex who then gets upset and im the one who is saying sorry for making her upset cos she made me upset. and another who i hardly ever see and is telling me to just do what i got to do, sounds like they can be bothered no more. maybe i should just end it. doubt to many people will notice me going except mum and dad maybe... but thats about it. theres so much more wrong but i find it hard to write it all down without being asked questions which i can answer. i guess all im using this boared for is to just get my feelings out, dont do much thought really.
Thank you for all that replied, for taking your time out of your lifes to care about someone u have never met
Lonely - In - Life
have you read the other posts on suicide? i think they're in health. i think it would be good for you to read them to see all sides.
if its any consolation, ive been there. felt like i had no friends, been bullied verbally for years and the people i thought were my friends who i sat with and talked to in school actually werent and didnt care less, ive often thought what would happen if ij ust went missing one day, either run away or kill myself. and who would actually miss me. at one point i didnt think anyone actually would, apart from my mum, coz my dad was makign my life miserable too.
now ive realised all the people in school who were nasty to me and who didnt be a friend to me when i thought thats what i was being to them and had been for like years, that they dont matter,that they're not worth it, they're shallow, selfish people that i dont want to spend any more time with than i have to. this is a very hard thing to think without having other friends.
when i was at my lowest we got the internet and i started making friends on it by instant messages and chat rooms. i made a really good friend, not as good in comparison to some that i have now, but to me he was everything. he lived in america, there wasnt anything romantic goign on, just someone to listen to me, to write long emails to which i would get a reply from someone who cared about me. i went on to make 2 really amazing friends on the internet, who love me as a friend and for who i am. so it isnt true that none of us will end up caring about you or loving you, its possible.
i know its not the same having friends on the internet than in real life. my 2 best friends on the net i have never met. it wouldnt matter to the friendship if i did or not, i know they'll always be there for me. try going into chat rooms and finding people with the same interests as you to talk to, you may find a really good friend. i know this isnt an ideal solution, try being outgoing and friendly and talk to people in school. if you have acquantainces in school its better than having no one, as long as you know theyre not the best friends in the world and dont rely on them too much, just someone to talk to and say hello to and talk about trivial things with.
you will find people to be good friends with you, if not now then in the future, university for example. and you find people in the most unlikely places and at the most unlikely times. there is always hope, dont give up <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
If you don't know where you're going, you'll probably end up somewhere else.
DK
I never said I loved you...
However I will fuck you...
until someone better comes along!!!!
Of course u can hav sum of my hope DK, here u go -
*sprinkles him in hopeful fairy dust* <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
Lonely-in-life - it seems like u need a bit of hope 2. Things will get better if only u look @ all the good things u'v got. when i get depressed i think about how much stuff i have got compared to ppl living on the streets, people struggling to make a living every day, people who are starving. I'm not trying to make u feel like u don't have a right to be depressed, because u do, but if u think about all the stuff that u do have, sumtimes it can make things better.
Try it, it might work.
Another turning point, a fork stuck in the road. Time grabs you by the wrist, directs you where to go.
I'm lucky I have quite a few good friends and i'm good at making new ones, but thats mostly due to my talent in life (Which is i can tell when someone has a problem they need to talk about) which is also my biggest curse - i mean how many girls want to go out with a guy who knows all their deepest darkest secrets.
As for my family even though we live in the same house we're not on speaking terms - we've learned as long as we don't talk to each other too much we don't fight.
Sometimes it helps to know that there's someone out there going through similar crap as you it makes you feel less alone, If ever you want to talk, my email addy's in my profile
Why do you like playing around with my, Narrow scope of reality?
I can feel it all start slipping, I think i'm breaking down.