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What to do when feeling bad but no one around to comfort?
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this may sound silly but, i wanted to buy a bird cage in ebay but missed the deadline, cuz i went out and got distracted. i feel bad cuz i feel like i couldve done better. i know im just beating myself down but perhaps its how i am.
is anyone else like this?
i try not to beat myself down but sometimes it just comes automatic. is there anything i can do to feel better?
cheers.
is anyone else like this?
i try not to beat myself down but sometimes it just comes automatic. is there anything i can do to feel better?
cheers.
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i see your point however tbh i dont have no friends so there is never anyone around. so i guess i dont have the luxury of not standing other people trying to comfort me.
cheers.
I feel ya on that one. I don't have any helpful advice, I'm trying to figure out the same thing. Sometimes I read.
if you wanna feel better, go out or ring up and talk to mates.
So I made a desition to ban myself from being negative... If I had a negative thought I had to say to myself 'that isn't true' and then think of something positive (even if I didn't really believe it, I had to say it to myself)...
And eventually the negative voice got quieter and it's easier to feel good about myself.
Still have bad days... I let myself feel down if I'm low... But then I stop and do something, like make a plan of how to change something if I feel it's going wrong.
For example, with the birdcage situation... I'm just think, how could I do it differently next time, and make a plan and move on.
I put on loud upbeat music and crazy-dance to make myself laugh if I need cheering up and no one is around too... that sometimes works. :razz:
I did that recently! i was feeling really crap with my social anxiety thing and was staying in on my own while my boyfriend went out. felt really lonely, so i whacked on the ramones (very loudly) and danced outrageously with tissues! It was ace fun they were like pom poms. Did all sorts of crazy stuff with them. I felt exhilirated because exercise is proven to lift mood, and it was also hillarious.
Just move on from the bird cage thing, it could of been crap or something anyway. Nobody is perfect and everyone gets distracted from the things they mean to do!
It really does help doesn't it!!! So good if you can make yourself laugh. Although not so good if someone walks in on you dancing like a loon and laughing manically... haha
cheers!