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met a new guy....advice needed on going out, etc
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well....good start to xmas, i met a lovely guy last nite! he asked for my number+txt me as soon as i left the party! Now, my question is, is it too forward for me to txt him tomo and ask to see him 1 nite this week - just the 2 of us?? or will it freak him out? Blah, im not good with men, but really like him.....so please give me advice!
thanx
L+C
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L+C
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It will not freak him out. Text him and ask him out.
good luck.
or is the cinema too cliche? not sure where else i cud suggest on a date? (trying to avoid alcohol) any other ideas of places 2 go on a first date?
L+C
NO! Just do the decision making out of your tummy. Wondering if you should let him wait for a few days is because so many people are miserable.
"omg, why wont he/she call me?"
"omg, I need to wait longer!!! but I'd like to call him."
a pub is nice too, you don't need to drink alcohol, or not much at least.
cinema is a nice idea too, but make it more concrete.
Ask him if he wants to mee up (which he wants eitherwise) and if yes if (for example) wednesday the 27th was ok with him? tell him you will call him up on 27th afternoon.
Well, I'd wish somebody would be after me for ANY KIND of motive :razz:
don't complain.
If you take it easy and don't let him in your panties, you'll easily sort out the guys who are interested in you and therefore have patience, or those who'll fuck off again.
That's one of the 'playing a game' thing again. Just act out of your tummy L+C. If you want to ask him out, do so and don't wait for him to do it. Moreoever DID I kind of ask out a girl, and we did go out, but there wasn't any positive or negative input. If you know what I mean. I don't know how it should be going on now. Is she waiting for me to ask her out? Is she not interested, because she's not doing anything for it?
Cut that crap out, it's difficult already as it is.
You like the person? Ask him/her out, and don't wait for anyone to take initiative.
+ about the men being in control. Being in control and being clueless what to do are 2 different things. It's a really beautiful thing if a girl aks YOU out, because then you know, she really wants to go out with you, and you really feel appreciated (oh yea! we men have feelings too!!). Moreoever it is a sign of taking the next step for the man, it's about interaction of the two parties.
well, assuming things go well, that sounds like a nice suggestion 4 another date! im not good with all this+ i tend to read too much into things+worry alot
ok guys, another Q - first date to cinema outfits?
Ideas for dates: go to pub, go to arcade, ice skating, bowling, dinner, fun fair, party, even just for a walk in the park. You'll soon find out if he's only after one thing, just hold back and if he's only after sex he will soon stop texting/calling.
That's what I was implying. Interacting, in the sense that the girl makes metaphorical steps towards the boy is not running after him and has never driven anyone off o0
/edit: every guy is flattered when he talks up/asks out a girl and feels affection coming from her back. That's what it's all about. You can't go wrong if you don't cling or spam him with txts or something like that now.
Are you one of those whose too scared of losing face by asking a guy so will only go out with a guy if they get asked? Just curious, as I know some girls like that, but they think it's perfectly fine for a guy to look like a plonker when he asks a girl out
And as for the cinema outfit; smart casual with a small amount of make up i.e. lip gloss / mascara and some lovely smelly stuff. I love it when a girl makes an effort .
It's not really about being scared...I have never asked a guy out, I prefer to drop hints, make it fairly obvious I am interested and then leave it up to them.
I'd be more interested if a girl took the initiative. I'm sick of this norm, that girls shouldn't feel inclined to ask a guy out. Come on, it's hard enough for us guys to do that, cut us some slack. :rolleyes: And it is sexy with straightforward girls, i have to say. :yes: