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Do you think... talking about problems
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what do you think of openly talking about ones problems to others, particularly those whom youre not very familiar with, for instance, a hairdresser.
when one is asked "how are you?", what do you think of giving a "not good" answer and talk about the matter?
what kind of problems do you think would or would not be nice to talk about?
i think most people are too polite not to talk about ones problems, hence, keep things bottled up.
when one is asked "how are you?", what do you think of giving a "not good" answer and talk about the matter?
what kind of problems do you think would or would not be nice to talk about?
i think most people are too polite not to talk about ones problems, hence, keep things bottled up.
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If someone just asked how I was in passing, I'd always come back with something like 'fine' or 'not bad' or good', but say if it were the hairdresser and you're there for a while, there are some things I'd chat about, and some I wouldn't. Very personal things are a no-no, but i would talk about more general things, like if I were having problems buying/selling a house. I would like to think most people know instinctively what things are ok to share, and which people REALLY don't want to know about.
Sometimes I find it much easier to talk about problems with a complete stranger - they don't know the other people involved, they don't really care and it is good to get it off your chest. It does depend on what it is though.
I would never go into detail with a not-friend about some issues in my life, even tho I am known to have my emotions spillt everywhere among the place.
However, the question "How are you?" is not normally an invitation from someone to tell them all your problems. You could drop some small hints and if they seem receptive then confess all
The great thing about strangers is that you're unlikely to see them again and they have no emotions or involvement in you or your "problem".
I suppose being on here is kind of like what you're talking about - confiding in strangers - it is a LOT easier sometimes than telling all to someone you know well and see often.
Spot on. I just solve this problem by not asking them at all.
Ha. Ooh, you're a hard woman