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How Long Would They Get?
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If you had a new boy/girlfriend, you really liked them, got on, everything was hunky dory, and you slept with them and they were shit, how long would you give them to improve? Would you dump them soon after that, or would you give them a bit of time to get into the swing of things with you and see how things go? Or would you keep them as a boy/girlfriend but suggest an open relationship? 
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if they're shit coz they lasted 2 minutes.. well i would need to give them another try anyway to see if it was just nerves or soemthing.
all in all i would give them a bit of time to "get into the swing of things"
anyway answer your own question
it soooooooooooooooooooooooo is
if you really like someone, amazing sex is a small price to pay surely?
or is that just me?
...plus its always fun playing with people minds !! :razz:
So probably a few weeks, but if I was giving guidance (in a nice way of course) and they weren't listening to it, not much longer.
also, if its there 1st time (almost first time) they probably wouldnt be very good.
maybe tell them how you like it and things so they can make it more enjoyable for you
A person judges you on your ability in bed (except you are really arousing like a wooden plank) is generelly not very interesting for me and should get lost.
I try to work with my partner on the sex life, but if it does not work AT all, then I will have to decide if I love the person enough so I don't care about the sex.
It's hard decision tho, since sex is a vital part of a relationship - imho.
I'd probably see it as "our" problem and talk it out. If a few weeks down the line it was obvious we weren't sexually compatible then it'd probably be best to end it.
Agree, you need to talk it though. Is the problem that you are not telling your partner what you like, so they are 'flying blind' so to speak? If you guide them to what works for you, then the sex will improve overnight. If on the otherhand you just think "oh that was shite" then you are really doing yourself and your partner a disservice and should expect nothing better than shite sex.
Shallow at all?
If they were totally shite and yet fully confident in how fantastic they were then I'd probably have a quiet word in their lughole and if they didn't aknowledge that it hadn't been super-fantastic then I'd cut them loose sharpish. Life's too short to tolerate crap sex with a partner who's not willing to listen and learn. But then even the most experienced of blokes can suffer from extreme nerves/performance-related anxiety so one do-over at least is necessary... in the interests of fairness, of course :thumb:
One guy I was with, I slept with mostly because I was getting bored and thought it would bring new life. He got cramp, I lost whatever motivation to do it I had, and spent the whole time watching the TV over his shoulder. We broke up 5 days later. Yeh.
But other people I would want to try and guide them, and I'd want to see if it was just a one-time thing.
Not that I've needed to since XD.
:yes: Agreed.
But back to the original question: a month to whip them into shape? :razz:
On a more serious note...
We've got a when he's crap in bed article with some useful tips for people who find themselves in the situation. However, a long overdue 'when she's crap in bed article' is planned for the New Year!
Love > Sex