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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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Can some girls just never have an orgasm?

I have tried everything to try and cum and nothing works.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ~kaz~ wrote:
    Can some girls just never have an orgasm?

    I have tried everything to try and cum and nothing works.
    I think its more wanting to that stops you. If you know what I mean.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yeah I know what you mean but after so long the feeling of wanting to is hard to go away
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Just relax more and go with the flow.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    The Law wrote:
    Just relax more and go with the flow.
    Relax in your mind but I always finds it helps to tense your pelvic floor muscles when you want to come.

    OP, do you masturbate?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I do masturbate and I have tried a vibrator but nothing helps.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    does it feel like you're building up to something and then it never happens? or does it just feel nice but never builds up?

    how long have you been trying for? months years?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    just feels nice but never builds up to anything, would be since I started having sex so years :(
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    a lot of it is psychological for a woman. maybe next time you should tell yourself this feels good, now its feeling better, now even better and see if it has an effect. try different techniques too with your fingers
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    its def not phyiscal then?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well if it feels nice then i doubt its physical. if it was then i would think you wouldn't really feel anything at all. a large percentage of it.. maybe 70%, is psychological. you have to be in the right frame of mind and think its goin to happen.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    How offtern do you masterbate? if you only do it once a month it maybe your body just not knowing what to do if you know what i mean?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i find much of it with me is thinking sexy thoughts..that tends to get me going. :yum:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Women are really weird. I'd feel so bad if I couldn't make a lady orgasm. It's like trying to beat Zelda. You have all of the pieces and you think you've done everything, but you need to do two more things in order to complete your quest. With us men it's easy. It's like one of those carnival games. Just fill up the balloon until it goes pop and you're done.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    junker wrote:
    Women are really weird. I'd feel so bad if I couldn't make a lady orgasm. It's like trying to beat Zelda. You have all of the pieces and you think you've done everything, but you need to do two more things in order to complete your quest. With us men it's easy. It's like one of those carnival games. Just fill up the balloon until it goes pop and you're done.

    :lol::lol::lol::lol::lol::lol:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    junker wrote:
    Women are really weird. I'd feel so bad if I couldn't make a lady orgasm. It's like trying to beat Zelda. You have all of the pieces and you think you've done everything, but you need to do two more things in order to complete your quest. With us men it's easy. It's like one of those carnival games. Just fill up the balloon until it goes pop and you're done.

    Interesting way of looking at things
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Slightly off topic here but I have never known a lesbian that has not had an orgasm ... I guess they must be getting something right. :chin:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ~kaz~ wrote:
    just feels nice but never builds up to anything, would be since I started having sex so years :(


    I felt like how you did for ages...everything was nice but it never built up to anything. Then I tried going on top with my partner and it happened - up until then I had always done missionary and thought it was the only thing to do. So I dunno, when it happened I was really relaxed and I was turned on etc so I guess you could try different positions?!
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Done different positions
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    ~kaz~ wrote:
    Done different positions

    Don't feel like you're alone, I'm exactly the same and I've practically given up :crying:
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Teagan wrote:
    Slightly off topic here but I have never known a lesbian that has not had an orgasm ... I guess they must be getting something right. :chin:

    I can't say that surprises me... it must be easier to get something right if you've at least got something similar to practice on in the beginning...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    VinylVicky wrote:
    I always finds it helps to tense your pelvic floor muscles when you want to come.
    yeah this works for me aswell
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    **helen****helen** Deactivated Posts: 9,235 Supreme Poster
    ~kaz~ wrote:
    its def not phyiscal then?

    Obviously there's a physical element - but reaching one is far more psychological imo.

    You mention you already masturbate - but you might find this article from Net Doctor helps you to get the most out of it.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Try getting a little tipsy to maybe chase away any subconsious guilty thoughts? What sort of orgasm are you trying to have, g-spot, clitoral, anal, nipple??? Work on your clit because this is the easiest. Do it yourself so you learn and understand what feels good, and then teach your partner to do what you like. Watch some soft porn to get you in the mood and start your mind thinking sensual thoughts.

    Good luck.
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