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low low self esteem
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so basically... i think i'm really ugly. i know i'm not because my boyfriend tells me i'm not. but sometimes i just worry and get paranoid that i'm not pretty enough to go out with certain groups of friends.
before going out, sometimes i'll make myself really upset because i dont have anything to wear/dont think i look good in what i am wearing.
i was wondering if anyone here before was the same? or is still the same but has some idea of how to change that?
i NEED to change this.
it would help too if i knew what kinda style i wanted to follow, or if i had some idea of how id like to look. but ive tried loads of different ones and i really still dont know.
is there anywhere/way/one that can help??
thank you!!
before going out, sometimes i'll make myself really upset because i dont have anything to wear/dont think i look good in what i am wearing.
i was wondering if anyone here before was the same? or is still the same but has some idea of how to change that?
i NEED to change this.
it would help too if i knew what kinda style i wanted to follow, or if i had some idea of how id like to look. but ive tried loads of different ones and i really still dont know.
is there anywhere/way/one that can help??
thank you!!
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However, even though I still get low I do have a shit load of confidence but when it falls I turn to my mum, she always boosts me up.
You get a lot more friendly attention when you have confidence.
Do youhave anyone that really gives you a boost?
I feel great when my boyfriend's around, like the most beautiful girl in the world. but most of the time when he's gone i feel horrible, and i feel that other people think that about me too.
meh...
also how old are you? i'm 22 and in the past couple of years especially i have really come into my own style and figure. i mean occassionally i'll have a fat day but i'll mostly feel great. whereas when i was younger up until about 20 i didn't really know what clothes to wear and i was constantly yo-yo dieting. so i guess part of it is just age.
Tbh I should have low self-esteem by the way that I look, according to the comments I've had in the past (somebody once stopped me inthe street to call me ugly and I've had people shout at me from cars ect) but I just think that if somebody has an issue with my appearance it's their own issue, not mine.
Beauty is an equivocal term, only you can get close to defining what you believe it is.
If somebody is so shallow as to think any of you lovely ladies is not beautiful, they're not deserving of you, simpe as.
And don't compare yourself to other people, it's not healthy. People love you for who you are.
But it's so hard. People are forever telling me (even random girls) how hot my boyfriend is. He never gets that from anyone, and that makes me feel pretty bleh...
And Lipsy, I'm 19, coming up for 20 so I guess then I'm just at that age that's pissing me off! Heh... Whereas my boyfriend is almost 21 so he's far more comfortable with his lovely figure and himself.
But I always go shopping on my own. I'm too scared to go shopping with friends. Just in case I really like something that they all hate.
My other boyfriends used to tell me what to wear and how to dress but my current boyfriend likes me to do that for myself, ya know? So it's like discovering myself all over again which is pretty weird. If that makes sense?
problem is knowing even what i want to where, or what i want to look like. i spend HOURS browsing.
is it just low self esteem with regards to your whole appearance? or your body or face or the clothes you wear?
same with lipsy, i think as i'm getting older (well i'm only 21 but still older!) i'm much more comfortable in my own body. though sure i'd rather the middle age spread wasn't coming after me..
i dont like my face
my body's a bit bleh
and i dont even have a decent sense of style
nice clothes can make you look better and feel more confident but deep down they won't help. if you don't believe people when they compliment you, then new clothes won't help.
what don't you like about your face? do you wear make up and make the most of your features?
and same with your body - do you think you're overweight, is this what's making you happy? perhaps you could do some exercise if you don't do already. i know after i've been to the gym i feel much better about myself (not when i'm all red-faced and sweaty though!).
and what is a decent sense of style? we all like wearing different things and all have our own individual styles.
Not always definite that the clothes will fit properly though or look nice
Anyway you have changing rooms to change in, no one can see you.
I can imagine it'd be quite embarassing if you looked a complete twat
i have some nice clothes, but many of them i've bought in the sales. why don't you wait until january and see if there's anything nice you like? even if it's just a few little things it can make you feel more confident (though like i said in your cause i doubt it'd help - you need to address the root of the problem ).
i know it's a bit materialistic but i like wearing/owning nice clothes i.e. by more expensive labels.
I only tend to wear makeup when I go out. Everyone says they envy me cause I can go out without makeup and my skin still looks great. But I feel prettier when I wear makeup, or at least, just eye makeup. It's stupid, but I'm scared about what people might think if I suddenly start wearing makeup all the time. Meh.
I know I'm not overweight. By any stretch of the imagination. But I feel fat. I used to be quite underweight, and I liked that. My boyfriend insists that it's better that I have something to my figure rather than just skin, but sometimes I feel a bit tubby. I think if I toned my stomach a bit I'd feel better.
well it's not that i'm particularly self-conscious but when you're trying something on (especially jeans 'cause i'm really fussy!) it's nice to have a look by yourself without other people being able to see, too. if i wanted to go out of the cubicle and ask their advice then i would!
have you ever posted a picture of yourself on here?
i wasn't suggesting to wear make-up all the time but sometimes even just a bit of mascara can brighten your face up. and you're lucky if people compliment you on your skin! i have quite good skin but still get the occasional spot (i have a sensitive chin, apparantly!). :grump:
Yeah, I think I have... but no one noticed it!
Maybe I should?
is your self esteem really that bad though? as in does it stop you from going places? we all get low sometimes.
I came back from a lecture in tears because I was sure the girls along from me where laughing/talking about me. They might well have been, but that just goes to show you how I think about myself.
So...will I put something up on the photo thread?
you're just being silly now.
well, i've put up a couple of pictures. they're not great cause i don't really do photographs... but they're there nonetheless...
xo