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Sorry if I sound slightly self obsessed here. I'm really not.
How can you change people's perceptiosn of you?
I know that people see me as a bit dim. The kind of girl who says something so stupid..You have to say 'awh' to. Do you know what I mean? I'm shite at explaining. I know for a fact that I'm not thick and sometimes I do say a thick thing, just to get a laugh but then people think that it's actually me.
The easy thing is to drop the 'make people laugh by saying something dumb' routine but it's kinda difficult. I think it's a habit. Sometimes I get mad when my friends joke about me being stupid. I'm not. Just not 'on the ball' all the time maybe. For example if someone is talking and they'll ask me a question usually I'll say 'what?' and they'll laugh but the truth is I wasn't actually listening to them.
There are no easy solutions and I hope someone doesn't take the piss out of this post. I'm bad at explaning things and mainly wanted a bit of a rant.
How can you change people's perceptiosn of you?
I know that people see me as a bit dim. The kind of girl who says something so stupid..You have to say 'awh' to. Do you know what I mean? I'm shite at explaining. I know for a fact that I'm not thick and sometimes I do say a thick thing, just to get a laugh but then people think that it's actually me.
The easy thing is to drop the 'make people laugh by saying something dumb' routine but it's kinda difficult. I think it's a habit. Sometimes I get mad when my friends joke about me being stupid. I'm not. Just not 'on the ball' all the time maybe. For example if someone is talking and they'll ask me a question usually I'll say 'what?' and they'll laugh but the truth is I wasn't actually listening to them.
There are no easy solutions and I hope someone doesn't take the piss out of this post. I'm bad at explaning things and mainly wanted a bit of a rant.
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Do people think you are slow too then?
Yeah. I thought I had a hearing problem and went for checks but they say my ears are fine and dandy. So can't use that as an excuse. Poo
I have that at work, love the people there to bits, some of them are good mates of mine but because they all know that I do drugs and I messed up a bit in my first year of college (not because I'm not intelligent and got grades but because I bunked all the time and was caught selling/doing drugs e.t.c) but I've got this reputation as this junky who always gets everything wrong and I sort of play upon it to get a laugh out of everyone as in I'll ask a stupid question but sometimes I'm actually trying to be serious and I'm not a stupid person at all I actually got good grades at school and everything, but everyone sort of laughs and assumes I forgot what was just said and assumes I don't really know what I'm doing at work and that they need to help, and you just feel like saying "Look fuck off, I know what the fuck I'm doing, I do know what the fuck is going, I do understand everything, I only joke around with you, I'm not actually stupid at all, it doesn't make any difference whether I do drugs or not!"
I don't know how to change their perceptions either though...
Yeah pill, sometimes I want to yell 'I'm not stupid I'm just playing on it for cheap laughs!' but that doesn't sound so dramatic and I'll sound like a bit of a knobber anyway because I CAN be dim but I don't want to be known for it.
There's no easy way of changing peoples perception of you. Saying 'pardon' instead of what, would probably make people think you misheard more instead of it maybe being perceived as a "What (do you mean)?" sorta what. I suppose sometimes you just need to be serious, or follow any joking stupidity with, "No but seriously I think...".
But otherwise, that's 'you' to them. I doubt people think you're dumb! Probably just comical, not simple just in your own world sometimes??
On the other hand I feel stupid among some people. I talk to them and when reconsidering I just said I felt like I worded it wrong or chose unfitting vocabulary. Sometimes I speak rather incoherent because I forget certain vocabs and feel like I am leaving a daft impression.
You shouldn't worry too much about it rachael, the friends making fun of you isn't probably the nicest thing, but I'd bet nobody of them is speaking behind your back about how stupid you are, or something, they are just winding you up. People tend to do that, it's like a "running gag".
If those people really thought you were stupid, they wouldn't hang out with you. Nobody wants to hang out with stupid people.
Bear with it, and keep in mind:
1st think
2nd speak
You are at Uni doing a degree, you shouldn't worry about "being" stupid.
chin up, gal...
I think people at work were on about holidays the other day and were speaking about America. I'm sort of drifting off and the next thing I know somebodys asking me about Amsterdam, and I was like "That's not in America is it?" but I think that's to do with speaking before I think more than anything. I'm just a bit slow sometimes.
People just laugh and aren't nasty about it though. I'd far rather be seen as intelligent and people respected me.
I wouldn't worry about it though, if anything it's your mates who aren't intelligent enough to get the sarcasm.
intellect is the best-distributed good on earth, everyone is convinced he has enough of it.
I will try to think and then speak in future. Or I'll just say no comment. Aha
I know people who're convinced they're thick, mainly because they've been told they are for a good part of their lives.
Edit - the above was a rant. Sorry Rachael, I can't think of any good advice to offer other than if you know you are smart, really KNOW it, as in have confidence in that by being who you are it will show through. What needs to show through is that confidence I mean.
but basically you can change peoples perceptions by altering how you bahave / speak to them, they get used to it, their perception changes. simple.
you shouldn't let other people's opinion of you get you down tho'
A friend of mine never had a girlfriend and is a pretty passive person. Lazy, passive about everything. His mother confronted him once if he's gay and seems to believe it. Another friend is amused by this, because 1st friends mother thinks her son is together with the other (amused one).
We wind him up too at times, but we know he's not gay, so it's just all in fun.
I will tell you about complex molecule structures and redox-disproportion reactions of benzoaldehyds
wheyy wheyy just got called. I'm picked up in 15 minutes to play footie. hold up need to pack my shit together...
ok, where did I stop? Yes, I will tell you some complex terms of some stuff and next time your friends laugh at you, because you said "what?" just say, "oh I am sorry I just calculated the equlibrium constant of the Cannizzaro-reaction of benzaldehyd to benzoalcohol and bezoeacid in my head to the 32 digit after the comma, sorry I got distracted. I guess you were just talking about some mundane and boring stuff which would've bored me anyway... <mumble some numbers quietly>."
THAT WILL SHOW those pricks.
Oh shizzle... franz is there to pick me up. on the runnnnnnnnl,wekojfj eiofjoe
*hugs*
What exactly does a Leicester accent sound like?!
Correct. It just makes you sound really dumb...!
Next time just tell them you were deep in contemplation and could they please repeat the question ..
or just tell them you were checking out some really fit bloke and weren't listening .. they'll probably be more interested in seeing the bloke ..
.. I know .. could you imagine what would happen if I used my powers for evil ...