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I don't think there is anything wrong with it!
:yes:
Although the happiest moment of my life was when I woke up and my then girlfriend was giving me the best blowjob in the world. Life won't get better than that, ever
I'm surprised so many people find it weird!
What exactly is wrong with it? If you wake up horny then why not? Nice to wake up to some fun Good start to the day!!
Well maybe he was just hoping she'd wake up?
:chin:
And I find it odd that so many people find this creepy and dodgy, yet being woken up with sex is something that so many people find a turn-on.
I don't really see very much wrong with it.
Ofcourse I wouldnt have memory of it, or put it down to another dream.
Surely if she didn't want it she'd have made him aware? You're really annoying, and I suspect a little naive (which I saying something coming from me), people don't all act the same way, sometimes you do something just to see what would happen, and you end up liking it, which clearly the OP does. Just because it's not the way you'd do it doesn't mean that someone is lying, which seems to be your basic premise.
I can't think of many ways to be woken up that I'd enjoy more than that.
Why would she?
Because you would have? How patronising.
For some people its a turn-on to have sex in a situation where the usual boundaries aren't there.
Are you trying to tell the OP (who says she enjoys the sex) that she doesn't want it?
Lol, I tryed to have sex with my ex boyfriend while he was falling asleep, he didn't mind, But, I did find it a bit of a turn-off once he started snoring half way through!!
Yeah, the boyfriends mentioned being woke up with something lke this before. Not necessarily sex, but I doubt he'd say no.
Tbh, if you both enjoyed it, and it's not a regular thing, then I don't see the harm. Might be quite fun, if we haven't tried it, who are us lot to judge it as anything bad?
my point is....why would u pretend to be asleep if you wanted it? why wouldnt you at least make him aware you were awake?
why wouldnt you make an effort and join in if you were horny?
a lot of people have echoed what i said, if you dont agree, fair enough, but plenty of people have, some even going as far to say it`s borderline rape, so dont lower the tone to personal insults because you dont agree with what i said, that to me is annoying
she asked for opinions, i gave mine, some people agreed, some didnt, but to pick my post out of everyone elses seems a bit childish
Thats alot for a 21 y/o.
Because she said she enjoyed it more pretending to be asleep... :thumb:
the baby can wait though..... :thumb:
but she asked for opinions, i gave mine and i dont appreciate being insulted for it :thumb:
I know, I wasnt getting involved... just making a point :thumb:
(whats with all the thumbs up!? lol)
haha x
err...i have a foundaton degree and a bachelors degree
one n ICT and E-business and one in information systems
Back on topic.
I pretty much agree with:
What I'd be asking myself is... that first time it happened, when you said you were pretending to be asleep and waiting to see how far it would go - how did you feel about it? It sounds like you're pretty happy with how things are now, but it's important, in any sexual relationship to make your boundaries clear so that neither person feels in anyway violated by the other. In that first instance, it sounds like it was ok in the end, but the outcome could have been really bad. All the best
btw - littleali - I think the reason that people pin-pointed your posts over others is that you didn't seem to take into account the progression of the OPs experience and feelings. While many people agree in the first instance that the boyfriends actions were questionable, there certainly seems to be evidence of a mutual understanding about each other's sexual needs and desires since. There wasn't anything to suggest that pretending to be asleep would make her boyfriend feel undesirable - in fact the opposite effect was implied. However, there's a difference between challenging someone's view and being out of order - insults= crap discussion. So leave it out guys.
fair enough i would've thought he would've spoken to her about it first... but if there's pleasure and your both ok with it then why not?
Few hours later and one asks "did we have sex last night?"
Absolutely. I've had some of my most emotionally satisfying sex that way