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A lot of people tend to type up posts about being single and how they don't like it... I mean surely there are positive points about being single.
- You don't feel guilty for having a crush on more than one person
- You can dress how you want, go where you want, be who you want
- You can have close friends of the opposite sex without somebody getting jealous
Anymore?
- You don't feel guilty for having a crush on more than one person
- You can dress how you want, go where you want, be who you want
- You can have close friends of the opposite sex without somebody getting jealous
Anymore?
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You don't have to buy Christmas and birthday presents for non existant partners
You don't feel guilty about being chatted up.
You don't have to answer to anyone about where you are going and what time you are going to be back.
Your friends don't worry that you are too shacked up in your own little lovers world to ask you out.
I agree with you, I loved being single and there are so many positive points about it. I would still love being single now apart from the fact that I met someone who makes me not want to be and I love being with him.
Anyway...I can do those last two even though I am in a relationship.
Hope that ramble made sense
i always like to have an interest though! someone to text and meet up with. but thats different to a boyfriend.
Can home at 7am, pilled off ya noggin with no recriminations.
You don't have to cook two meals coz you're a veggie and he/she aint. Only joking Leigh
You don't get the duvet nicked.
You don't have to listen to someone else's snoring.
You don't get kicked in the night.
Another reason why I'm probably single!! But I won't back down and change drastically like this and I wouldn't expect them to.
I'm not speaking for anyone
i've never had this problem.
i like being single! but i do miss having 'someone'.
but yeh i agree, generally people are like 'omg i'm single omg i'm depressed omg quick die'.
You just need to meet someone you can do it with. It's fab. :yippe:
Spot on.
I can be completely selfish when I'm single and not feel guilty if I'm having an off day or want some me times.
I've got great mates so that 'special someone' thing isn't a problem for me, I've always got mates to talk to.
cant remember what it was like being single so i aint commenting haha
I wouldnt mind somewhat settling down though. Any others.
Have the whole bed to myself and sleep all sprawled out.
Can be fussy about potential partners, spend time on hobbies.
Don't get judged by your b/f like my ex didn't like it I got drunk, but now there's no one to tell me what to do. It's pretty good really.
I like...
Not having to worry about what I look like
Being able to go where I want,
Dancing with everyone,
Smoking as much as I want,
Sleeping when i want,
Not being nagged at,
Doing silly things,
Male attention,
Eating like a pig,
Watching what I want on TV,
Staying on the internet until I get bored,
Not having to be thoroughly pruned,
Having my own mind,
Saying what I want,
Not having to excuse myself,
Slobbing around in my PJ's til silly o clock,
Not feeling like I have to answer the phone or reply to text messages,
Not having to pretend I enjoy watching Shite like 'Friends' and 'Hollyoaks'..
Think I've finished for the minute...
You don't have to worry if your sex drives happen not to match at any given time
You don't have to put up with any PMT thrown your way
You don't turn into one of them irritating people who never shutup about their girlfriend/boyfriend
You can do whatever you want, go out wherever you want and arrive home at 3pm without having to explain yourself
You can whore yourself all you want
I like myself better when I'm single though, so I would say all that
For me, the advantages of being single are as follows:
* Feeling happy (because every relationship I've had so far has gone wrong and made me feel like shit)
* You cannot get hurt - After being cheated on time and time again, not having this paranoia around anymore is great.
* Fucking being able to have a bit of fun!
* Flirting - I always feel guilty flirting with other boys whilst in a relationship. Now, I can flirt when I want and as much as I want
* No committments - I do what I want anytime (exes in the past have told me what I can and can't do)
* You can dress how you want, drink what you want, go out as much as you want
* You can buy what you want without a significant other commenting
* More money!!! - You don't have to buy loads of presents all the time
* More time with your friends
* No relationship worries, no arguments, no upset, no paranoia.
* You don't have to sit through BORING films and do BORING boy stuff
* You don't have to look after your other half like they are a baby
* You don't have to share your bed
* Not having to text someone/ring someone all the time
* Not having to worry about what your other half is up to when they ignore you
* Not having to tell your other half what you are doing, who you are with, etc ALL THE TIME
* Going on lots of dates (oooo I have one on Tueeessdaaayyyy)
* You are completely independent - You make your own decisions that suit you and not your other half. You don't need to take anyone else into account.
I'm so so much happier on my own. This list could go on forever really.
I just can't be arsed with the whole relationship thing anymore. This is the longest peiod I've ever been single (5 months) and its been the best thing thats happened to me. Made me realise I don't need a man to be happy. Its taken me so long to realise it. Its fucking awesome being single though. I'm so glad I'm not that girl that goes ''OMG I'M SINGLE :crying:'' anymore tbh.
When the right boy comes along though, that doesn't mean I won't be happy in a relationship. I'm just not looking for a relationship and don't want one until after Uni.
Having said that, I do always seem to have more money when I'm single. Not because I spend loads on girls or anything, but you go out more, especially if your gf isn't part of your normal group of friends.
A friend of mine always has to put up with this from me...
I hate people like that.
Like it has already been said, quite a few of the things that have been mentioned can be done whilst in a relationship with someone.
you dont have to shave your legs etc. if you dont feel like it! = dont hav to worry abt being hairy period!
you can wear ur old granny pants when u feel like it!
u do what u want, when u want!...
your phones not attached to the rest of your body to see if he's texted/called..
you can enjoy being chatted up (= and not feel guilty abt getting that ego boost!)
you can ask guys our for drinks and say yes to guys who ask you out!
you can have a peaceful nights sleep and not worry abt the odd arm or leg that'll come flinging your way!
no more being paranoid about whether he stil likes u or not...
dont have to put up with his friends...specially painful if ur not on the same level as them n actualy hav to act different (pretending to be interested in playstation or xbox..wen al u want to do is read a good book/watch a movie) to get along with them...
...wow...n to think i was complaining abt being single...:D
Being single has its perks, the main one being the fact that your time is truly your own... and also that you don't have another person to consider in a lot of your decisions. There are huge advantages to both states of being, and of course whichever circumstance is yours is [hopefully!] going to be the more attractive proposition to you.
That said, I wouldn't swap the relationship I'm in now for all the wild, free single nights out in the world. It's the perfect combination of freedom and belonging and I flove it