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Right this is gonna sound really stupid to a lot of people but I got this one little problem thats sprung into a major problem. I got contact lenses about a year ago, and i thought it would give me confidence to go out, meet girls etc. But I have this perception that it has made my nose look HUGE and thus really ugly. Plus the fact that most girls had me down as a geek when I had glasses, this hasnt changed. Although I am supposed to have a dry sense of humor, which a lot of girls supposedly like, I am really shy and find it hard to start conversations. I have tried internet relationships but they dont work.
Any help much appreciated
Any help much appreciated
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Whenever you doubt yourself or your abilities just think to yourself "what have i got to lose?". You'll realise that it cant be much and do it anyway. Thanks to my new attittude I started going up to random strangers at college and talking to them! And because they were new as well they were glad to have someone to talk to.
Just remember, you have a lot to offer, if somebody, be it a girl or otherwise, just think "fuck em, I dont need em." and say it to them as well, let them know how much of a bitch/bastard you think they are, you'll feel secure in the knowledge that they feel shitty and you are on top of the world.
I hope I've helped you, good luck.
relationships arent the only thing in life
beleive me they are over rated
in this shit world, for every iota of happiness you get, you pay back 10 iotas of unhappiness later
trust me
DONT TRY INTERNET RELATIONSHIPS.
With your new found confidence, why do yuo need them???
REMEMBER
"What have I got to lose???"
right. secondly, online relationships. i think its a mistake to agree to go out with each other before meeting, you just cant do that. well, i know you CAN and people have fallen in love over the net. i met my boyf (ex!!!) on the net in a chat room, we talked for a while then met, simple as that. so if talking to people on the internet makes you feel more comfortable about meeting people, you should do it. even if you dont meet them, or dont have a relationship with them. i have some excellent friends ive met on the internet and never met in real life. it may just give you the confidence you need to meet people and talk to them in your everyday life if you are already accustomed to making new friends and talking over the net.
whatever you feel about your appearance and insecurities about your nose, most other people arent goign to notice. i have a thing about having a fat stomach and flabby thighs... and i have various complexes about different parts of me at different times, most people think i am mad as im size 10 or 12 and they think im imagining it. it doesnt make it any less real for me, so i know where you're coming from.
so you should just try and be yourself, dont pretend to be somethign you're not, thats infinitely more attractive than putting on an act, and girls can see through it, later if not sooner.
anyway good luck mojo <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
p.s.
whowhere, i didnt have a relationsip till the end of year 11 either, and ive only ever had the one, and got off with one other person before that. i was also perceived as a "square".. im losing that image now as im more outgoing and confidant, probably due to the relationship, amongst other things.
but your attitude of "fuck em" is a good one to have, if people cant treat you with respect and if they dotn like you, well its their loss isnt it?
It's better to regret things you've done than things you haven't.
i think its all about being cool and looking as if you don't give a damn either way, stop trying too hard!!!
i had issues with wearing glasses myself and got contacts about 2 years ago but find that it doesn't really make that much difference. i suppose its a bit different for girls though.
i hope this is a bit of help and you get what i mean. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
luv and peace m8 xxx
i'm not denying that women are stupid; God made them to match the men.
I know a lot of girls who go crazy over glasses, but none who actually see them as a repellant, but basically, just do what makes you feel most comfortable <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
LIFE: Quite interesting in parts, but no substitute for the real thing
Anyway, I had no respect for myself but when I left school I took up kickboxing. My confidence started to grow almost straight away. I started college and made lots of new friends. My confidence grew and I'm not as shy anymore. I'm still shy around new people but I am getting there!
I know I'm not the ideal person to preach this as I find it difficult myself but don't worry about what other people think about you! if they don't like you then tough shit! Its there problem! Lot's of people will like you, unless your a complete arse whole which I'm sure your not!
Don't take life seriously because you can't come out of it alive
Don't take life seriously because you can't come out of it alive
I'd find you irresistable <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"> J/K!!
Don't take life seriously because you can't come out of it alive
Nor would I...they bite! And so do swans! And sheep attack me in big groups and dogs generally don't like me!
Oh yeah, and cat's usually take a swipe at me as well!
I didn't lose my mind, it was mine to give away.
Typo there obvioulsy...you accidently put "j/k" Broken. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
I didn't lose my mind, it was mine to give away.
oh yeah! Thanks for pointing that out <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
Don't take life seriously because you can't come out of it alive
hmmm... u into bestiality Turtle by n e chance???
he went in the animals 2 by 2
hoorah hoorah
...or something like that anyway, i spose no one else knows the noah's ark song, cuh, u kids nowadays
LIFE: Quite interesting in parts, but no substitute for the real thing
I love that story!!!!! Didn't the ark hit an Ice Berg and they all died. But there was a romance between a sheep & goat.
Don't take life seriously because you can't come out of it alive
Roflol MB. Funnily enough, I'm not into sexual relations. Unless of course you count my gf. Ooh, that one was below the belt, and completely not true. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif">
I've not lost my mind it's inserted elsewhere - hence the limp.