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sex while sleeping?!
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Hi everyone.
My boyfriend has sex with me when he thinks I'm asleep.
He works nights so I'm usually in bed when he gets in. When he comes up to bed he'll get in and cuddle up to me from behind (me with my back to him). He'll usually get an erection and start doing the whole foreplay thing - kissing my neck or back lightly, fingering me etc. One night I was very tired (could barely keep my eyes open) so I decided to just pretend to be asleep. He carried on touching me, then pulled my knickers down and entered me!
He had sex with me, while I kept up the pretence of being asleep (not sure why I did that, I think it was to see how long he'd go for!), not moving or anything. After a bit he turned me over so I was on my front, spread my legs a bit wider then carried on thrusting into me. After about 10 minutes (I guess) and I hadn'ty responded to him whispering in my ear to wake up and give him a kiss, he gave up and went over to his side of the bed.
I think I fell asleep for real after that, then when I woke up I went to cuddle him, he turned over and started to kiss me...and I mentioned the sex while asleep thing, saying I'd woken up just before he got off me. He asked if I was upset by it or he'd thought he'd raped me, and I said no. Then he asked if I minded, and I said I didn't.
He doesn't wait for me to go to sleep before he has sex with me now or anything like that, but occasionally I'll pretend to be asleep and he'll have sex. Then I'll pretend to wake up and start moving my hips and having sex like normal. He doesn't know I'm pretending to be asleep obvioously, but is this a really weird thing to be doing?! It feels great...concentrating on staying still and not showing any signs of arousal seems to make the sensation of him inside me much more pleasurable, and he even gave me an orgasm one time! I've NEVER had an orgasm during sex, before or since (with anyone).
So what are everyone's opinions? Weird, or a harmless role-playing kind of thing?
My boyfriend has sex with me when he thinks I'm asleep.
He works nights so I'm usually in bed when he gets in. When he comes up to bed he'll get in and cuddle up to me from behind (me with my back to him). He'll usually get an erection and start doing the whole foreplay thing - kissing my neck or back lightly, fingering me etc. One night I was very tired (could barely keep my eyes open) so I decided to just pretend to be asleep. He carried on touching me, then pulled my knickers down and entered me!
He had sex with me, while I kept up the pretence of being asleep (not sure why I did that, I think it was to see how long he'd go for!), not moving or anything. After a bit he turned me over so I was on my front, spread my legs a bit wider then carried on thrusting into me. After about 10 minutes (I guess) and I hadn'ty responded to him whispering in my ear to wake up and give him a kiss, he gave up and went over to his side of the bed.
I think I fell asleep for real after that, then when I woke up I went to cuddle him, he turned over and started to kiss me...and I mentioned the sex while asleep thing, saying I'd woken up just before he got off me. He asked if I was upset by it or he'd thought he'd raped me, and I said no. Then he asked if I minded, and I said I didn't.
He doesn't wait for me to go to sleep before he has sex with me now or anything like that, but occasionally I'll pretend to be asleep and he'll have sex. Then I'll pretend to wake up and start moving my hips and having sex like normal. He doesn't know I'm pretending to be asleep obvioously, but is this a really weird thing to be doing?! It feels great...concentrating on staying still and not showing any signs of arousal seems to make the sensation of him inside me much more pleasurable, and he even gave me an orgasm one time! I've NEVER had an orgasm during sex, before or since (with anyone).
So what are everyone's opinions? Weird, or a harmless role-playing kind of thing?
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However, if you really do not mind him doing it then let him...but if you have a problem with it then tell him to stop.
I should imagine not as who can actually sleep through that. Not only just once, maybe you were passed out... but multiple times... and if so, I'd be worried that my girlfriend is such a heavy sleeper, there could be some health problems.
I just think that he must know your not sleeping... common sense and all, and being in a relationship you would have said no if it was not acceptable to you so he just takes it that you like it (and that your not relaly sleeping)
seriously
i doubt you`re doing a lot for his confidence
lol Agreed...
I suppose if of you're fine with it then it's your sex life... but yeah I think it's pretty wierd
It felt soooooooooo good
Hours later I remembered that it had happened, it was like a dream.
Me and my ex used to do that quite a bit. In the early hours of the morning. It was a great start to the day, as you'd wake up thinking "Now, did I have great sex during the night, or was it just a dream" We were both definitely awake when it happened though! :yeees:
I think its abit creepy tbh, I would have shook you first or thrown a glass of water on you to wake you up.
Just because she was tired it doesnt mean she didnt want it.
and when you`re "that exhausted that you cant keep your eyes open" i doubt you`d want sex....
He shouldn't have done it in the first place, but if it's triggered a new turn-on for you both, then yay for you?
Like you said, there are far weirder things going on in people's bedrooms.
don't stop something which benefits you because of what others may think, if your alright with it then theres no problem.
personally i think really sleepy sex can be great sometimes. and almost asleep lazy sex where he does all the work, just because you're tired doesnt mean you arent horny!