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which suggests she`s being a brat
if they just sent her to school, she would settle down in a few weeks, but they aint even tried that, they just label her as having depression and keep her home
How do you know they haven't tried that? It's November now, that child could have been throwing up everyday since the beginning of September. That's quite a long time to watch your child be ill for, you're telling me, after 8 weeks, you'd still send your puking four-year old to school every day? =/
Erm why you talking out of your arse? We're giving our opinions, not definite statements. Try reading the thread again.
thats what happened with me
she doesnt like going? tough....she has to learn, we all gotta do things we dont like
i spent years in clothes from the "spare clothes" box because i would throw up on myself so i could go home
"She's just feeling really low because she can't see her mates, she's grown a bond with them as lots of young people do in their early years and now this affects that bond, it doesn't mean that she is now depressed and needs medication."
That sounds pretty definite to me.
"She isn't depressed, she's unhappy about not being able to be with her friends."
As does that.
If you can't debate without swearing at people, don't debate at all.
Yah, but that's you. and YOUR parents. What worked for you might not work for that little girl...
I'm not saying they're right to take her out of school, perhaps they could have stuck with it longer, but at the end of the day, you don't know how long or how hard they've tried. I don't think I could watch my kid be sick every day.
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If you read my first post you'll see I've already said it is my opinion. I don't have to say "I think" or "it is my opinion" everytime I have one. Catch a grip of yourself you intolerable dipsomaniac.
keep her out of school forever because she doesnt know the other kids?
the longer they have her out of school, the harder it`ll be to get her to go back in because she`s so used to being at home with mummy
and as for your information, it didnt work, i cried n barfed almost right up until i left high school
but i STILL had to go
The other thing is, of course, that children and adults alike cope differently and are able to cope with different levels of stress and being unsettled. While most kids would just buckle down and get on with it, some can't/won't/both.
I don't think it's as straightforward as brattish behaviour, really.
and LittleAli, I dunno what they'll do. I guess they'll have to send her to school eventually, but I don't know, perhaps they'll try counselling? Fook knows, but you're right, the kid DOES have to go to school, sooner rather than later.
and about your barfing, did you see a counsillor or anything? Cause it's kinda bad that you had to go through that for so long O_O
i dont think its harsh at all, she has been unsettled, lots of kids go through it, including me
taking her out of school is not the way to go
i cried and threw up from nursery all the way up to year 8 of high school
i went through it, and i`m here to tell the tale, i wasnt molly coddled (sp) or taken out of school because school is somewhere i had to go
I just don't think the psychology of throwing them in at the deep end and letting them get on with it works for every child, by any stretch of the imagination. I think it might even have adverse effects on some. It certainly won't help to foster an understanding attitude to other people's problems and unwillingness to do things, which I personally feel it is important to have.
Maybe if you or your parents had tried some different methods to make you happier, OTHER THAN taking you out of school, you woulda had a better experience?
Idk, I mostly liked school. I just know I wouldn't have liked hating it. Well duh, but you get me. I would've wanted to make it better.
Maybe you're one of those people that "just get on with things." I'm not though
but as i keep saying, keepin her home wont solve anything, in my opinion it`ll make her worse
maybe they should send her in half days, or let her mum go in a couple of days a week
all in all, i really dont think she has depression, she`s going what most kids go through when they start a new school, its a big change, we all had to do it
once i was there and knew i had to stay there, i dealt with it
I think maybe (s)he misunderstood your point. I also thought you meant just send her to school, but half days/mum going in sounds like a good idea.
Then again, might just unsettle her more when they try cutting down the mum visits and increasing the half days to full days
Kids are so difficult sometimes
Only, we don't have to go to school. Only if a child is registered at a school do they have to go to one. Take them off the register and they can stay home. Seems to me that (as one possiblilty), this kiddy has realised that she can act a certain way and get to stay home, and stay with mummy too. aslong as it continues to work, then she'll continue to do it. Of course, I could be wrong, she could be depressed, but then, even if she is what is the solution and what is the desired outcome? I assume the desired outcome for her parents is for her to go to school, so she shouuld go to school.
yes, thats what i`ve been saying ......
For ome weird reason, the first 6 weeks of primary school first year are half days, which is stupid when quite a few kids are used to going to nursery for full day.