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Man Trouble - What else!!
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Right you guys I need some advice.
I have been seeing this guy for about 5 months now and we get on really well there's real chemistry between us which is very hard to find. It's been a casual relationship and I've been with other blokes during the 5 months.
The thing is The last couple of times I've spoken to him he's told me that he loves me, but he's been pissed up or stoned when he's said it, so I don't know whether to believe it. Also he keeps asking me what I want from our relationship but won't tell me what he wants. I've told him that I'd like us to be a couple.
He also never rings when he say's he will he doesn't always answer my calls and now his phones out of service so I cant get hold of him and I'm waiting for his phone call!!
I get the impression he doesn't feel as strongly for me as I do for him. My head is seriously screwed up at the moment.
The thing is if he hadn't turned round and said he loved me it would of been ok cause we would have just carried on as we had been. I really don't know what to do. Any ideas??
My friends are telling me to get rid of him and that he's treating me like shit. I know he's not exactly treating me brilliantly but when we are together or talking on the phone we have a great time and we get on so well. I really don't want to lose him as a friend because we are good mates.
I've sort of decided that maybe we should just be friends. What do you lot think about friends having sex - no strings?? I'm just thinking whether or not I can handle the no strings bit. Although we haven't really got a relationship as it stands cause he doesn't live in the same town as me so we see each other about twice a month. But do talk at least 3 times a week.
HELP! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif"> Hope all that made sense?
I have been seeing this guy for about 5 months now and we get on really well there's real chemistry between us which is very hard to find. It's been a casual relationship and I've been with other blokes during the 5 months.
The thing is The last couple of times I've spoken to him he's told me that he loves me, but he's been pissed up or stoned when he's said it, so I don't know whether to believe it. Also he keeps asking me what I want from our relationship but won't tell me what he wants. I've told him that I'd like us to be a couple.
He also never rings when he say's he will he doesn't always answer my calls and now his phones out of service so I cant get hold of him and I'm waiting for his phone call!!
I get the impression he doesn't feel as strongly for me as I do for him. My head is seriously screwed up at the moment.
The thing is if he hadn't turned round and said he loved me it would of been ok cause we would have just carried on as we had been. I really don't know what to do. Any ideas??
My friends are telling me to get rid of him and that he's treating me like shit. I know he's not exactly treating me brilliantly but when we are together or talking on the phone we have a great time and we get on so well. I really don't want to lose him as a friend because we are good mates.
I've sort of decided that maybe we should just be friends. What do you lot think about friends having sex - no strings?? I'm just thinking whether or not I can handle the no strings bit. Although we haven't really got a relationship as it stands cause he doesn't live in the same town as me so we see each other about twice a month. But do talk at least 3 times a week.
HELP! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif"> Hope all that made sense?
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If you want a "boyfriend/girlfriend" or close relationship, then "just friends" is a term I would avoid, it's crap, I've been to the just friends situation and it's confusing, never works and results in a lot of heart-ache. If you have feelings for each other don't deny them or lie to yourselves about the relationship.
"Sex- no strings", really bad idea in my book, sex is all about strings (that sounds kinky), your just going to get hurt and confused. I doubt it would work out how you want, one person always wants more than the other in this situation.
Just be clear about what you want, stick to your decision. I reckon it's all or nothing, friend's with sex is a combination for disaster. You've been warned. If he 'loves' you then he needs to commit more, if not then tell him you want to stay as friends, without the sex.
Good luck.