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How to get sex life back?
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Lately for the last 5 weeks or so, it's been a bit rocky with my boyfriend. We've been arguing alot and I've considered breaking up with him a few times. I've been really stressed with my final year at university and stuff and I guess I take it out on him because I feel like I'm wasting time with him when I could be studying, especially since he's not a student and doesn't really understand.
Anyway, recently our sex life has taken a realllly big knock. We used to have sex every time we saw eachother but now it's like I just can't be bothered, I don't really want him to touch me but I feel like I have to. I don't understand because I do want to be with him and I do fancy him but my sex drive seems to have disappeared. He's started to get pissed off about it but I have to do it to keep him happy.
I think it's partly down to stress, being unsure about the relationship, and I've also been a bit down lately because I've never orgasmed and feel like I'm just never going to! I guess I've given up, but that doesn't really explain the situation as I 've been perfectly happy with my sex life with him for the past year or so.
So I guess I'm asking how do you get your sex life back on track if you're in a rut? I don't know what to do
Anyway, recently our sex life has taken a realllly big knock. We used to have sex every time we saw eachother but now it's like I just can't be bothered, I don't really want him to touch me but I feel like I have to. I don't understand because I do want to be with him and I do fancy him but my sex drive seems to have disappeared. He's started to get pissed off about it but I have to do it to keep him happy.
I think it's partly down to stress, being unsure about the relationship, and I've also been a bit down lately because I've never orgasmed and feel like I'm just never going to! I guess I've given up, but that doesn't really explain the situation as I 've been perfectly happy with my sex life with him for the past year or so.
So I guess I'm asking how do you get your sex life back on track if you're in a rut? I don't know what to do
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you could try taking a break because normally that works for me because i start missing people even if lately i havent been getting along that well with them but if you dont see them for a while you will want to see them so when you see them you'll be more happy
also it sounds like you need a break from studying as, although its good its not good for your health if it drags you down and you become depressed
you could try seeing a councillor about it, that may help
You can't expect to both be screaming down the house when you're knackered and stressed, it simply does not happen. If you take a time-out from it all and go away somewhere I would expect the sex will take off.
Pack your sexiest knickers, your whip and your fluffy handcuffs and go and book a weekend in a hotel somewhere. Your libido should come straight back.
I'd hardly say it was time to be calling in the marriage counsellors or scoffing the ADs. Now's as good a time as any to learn that a relationship needs work, and it isn't all plain sailing. If you learn to recognise the times when its hard, and learn how to work through it, you'll be fine.
and when you are stressed, your sex life will undoubtably suffer.
as kermit said, you just need to make some time for yourselfs and the rest really will follow.
and just because you've got a lot on and you don't feel up for it everytime you see you bf, doesn't mean that you need counselling :rolleyes: . ~ you really need to sort it out between yourselfs... spend a little quality time together, and your relationship should take care of itself.
If the sex is really that important to you though maybe you should ask yourself if its really gonna work out long term if your finding it difficult now.. wait till you get married lol.