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Dropping out/restarting the year
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As some of you may know I've had a couple of operations recently and am still recovering from the most recent one. Been on loads of pain killers and on and off high dose antibiotics and still can't really sit down which is obviously making keeping up with my uni work really difficult.
I'm having regular meetings with my tutor and when I saw her today she suggested considering degrading (the term my uni uses for dropping out and restarting the year next year) as I'm already way behind with work half way through term and things are hardly going to get any better (I'll be doing well to keep the back log the size it is without getting any worse).
From where I am at the moment restarting the year next year seems like the end of the world, like it would be a waste of a year and that I'd lose all my friends. My tutor etc have told me it's not like that, and that I'll get something out of the year even if it isn't a year towards my degree.
Has anyone done it? Any advice?
I'm having regular meetings with my tutor and when I saw her today she suggested considering degrading (the term my uni uses for dropping out and restarting the year next year) as I'm already way behind with work half way through term and things are hardly going to get any better (I'll be doing well to keep the back log the size it is without getting any worse).
From where I am at the moment restarting the year next year seems like the end of the world, like it would be a waste of a year and that I'd lose all my friends. My tutor etc have told me it's not like that, and that I'll get something out of the year even if it isn't a year towards my degree.
Has anyone done it? Any advice?
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restarting the year certainly wouldn't be the end of the world - especially not if it protects your health and you also come out with a better degree at the end of it.
don't worry about friends, you'll make new ones aswell as the ones you already have!
As said before, you wont lose your friends..youll make even more on top of the friends you've already made!
It isn't like being demoted or being separated from all your friends, and if your health is not up to it then I think its something you really should consider. You'll still keep those friends you have, and you will make more friends this time next year. It isn't a punishment, and whilst its always painted as "failing" to have to go again, if you're not capable of performing well then there is little point in flogging yourself further.
the other didnt do well 'cos he just didnt work hard enough, but that's another matter all together.
but as kermit said, you really need to think how your health will be next year, even if you do retake.
What's the major thing holding you back from degrading, the social side? I know I had a major struggle in my head over deferring coz I just wanted to get on with it, get my degree done, not let external things get in the way. But, I realised I'm not super human and prioritised my degree a little down the list, still on the list of must dos, but underneath family, poverty, and my health and sanity. If I had thought I would have been able to achieve anywhere near what I wanted, (or even just a pass tbh) I may well have pushed myself to finish the year though.
As for friends, I'm still friends with the people I should be! I get stabs of jealousy as some of them are graduating now and others will be graduating next year, still a year ahead of me. But, my degree is about me and comparing myself with others only makes me feel shitty so I try not to.
I guess what is holding me back is that I'd have to admit defeat, that these stupid operations and problems really have taken over my life, which I was quite determined not to let them do.
good luck