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Flirting

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
What exactly do guys want girls to do when they flirt? Cos a lot of my mates have sed they get confused about wot the blokes actually want from them.

So ne1 out there who can shed sum light onto the situation please do <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

Cheers

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    erm dunno. if i knew i probably wouldn't be sitting at home in front of my computer right now, with no boyfriend. ah well

    There's a girl in my mirror
    I wonder who she is
    Sometimes I think I know her
    Sometimes I really wish I did
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Be sexy, in a non-sexy way, be nice, in a non-nice way, be provocative in a non-provocative way and make him feel wanted in a non-wanting way. Oh and above all, make him feel needed. (Of course, in a non-needed way.)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    What's flirting ?? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/rolleyes.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Snoop:
    Be sexy, in a non-sexy way, be nice, in a non-nice way, be provocative in a non-provocative way and make him feel wanted in a non-wanting way. Oh and above all, make him feel needed. (Of course, in a non-needed way.)

    yikes snoop, if you find a girl that has all these powers, marry her. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    heaven scent -- i think that if you "know" ur flirting, then it really takes the fun out of it. it's not something you turn on or off.

    just start talking to someone, and you'll pretty quick if you have a connection or not. and if you do, the flirting comes pretty naturally. so i guess i wanna know i have a connection and that flirting is a product of that. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Blokes tend to be extremely NICE!!! sometimes scarely nice!!! but if he nice before hand it's hard to tell and then they start going all crude on you (which isn't them) and then i get freaked out!!!


    This doesn't make sense but it will to me and the male involved
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Like Calvin says, if you're thinking about flirting it's not going to work. I only realise I've been doing it afterwards because the guy has responded to it. I think when you're flirting you're basically saying to him "I think you're cute, check me out", and the guy is going to react accordingly if he likes what he sees.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanx for the replies peeps! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    Keep 'em coming if ya can <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i've been told that i'm a terrible flirt and i don't notice most of the time. in my experience, my flirting has generally worked, too... (not to be boastful or anything <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; )
    i generally just smile a lot... all the stereotypical eyelash batting and head-tilting and stuff like that...
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey guys, it's pretty simple, if you like a person...go up and start a conversation wheather your at a bar or in school. If you want to flirt, definitly smile and joke around, flirting to me is supposed to be fun, so laugh and play around. Don't be nervous if you are just remeber your on earth to have fun and not to be serious all the time, give yourself a break
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Flirting is a pile of pants...its like chasing a bloke and making out they r some kind of god and woth u chasing. Dont waste your time...just talk normally and have a normal conversation. In my oppinion all the batting your eyelids and wiggling your hips makes u look like a wally!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by LIN:
    Hey guys, it's pretty simple, if you like a person...go up and start a conversation wheather your at a bar or in school. If you want to flirt, definitly smile and joke around, flirting to me is supposed to be fun, so laugh and play around. Don't be nervous if you are just remeber your on earth to have fun and not to be serious all the time, give yourself a break

    can there be any more perfect advice than this??? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; very good lin

    Look into these tired eyes. See something you might recognise.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    In my oppinion all the batting your eyelids and wiggling your hips makes u look like a wally!

    hehe, yeah, if you're not subtle about it. the point isn't to shove yourself in the guy's face, but to seem interested. body language is important, but it's even more important to not overdo it!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    What exactly do guys want girls to do when they flirt? Cos a lot of my mates have sed they get confused about wot the blokes actually want from them.

    So ne1 out there who can shed sum light onto the situation please do <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    Alright Heaven Scent a lil advice from america..flirting..hmmm..there isn't much to it, and it's not about giving the guy, or bloke whatever they are, what they want it's about having fun and striking his fancy. Flirting is about having fun, so smile, laugh and joke around, don't go up to a guy all nervous and serious cause if you do then i can tell you that it wont work out.

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    (hi lin... nice to see another person from the US here <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; ... i'm moving to yellow springs, OH in a couple months... just thought i'd add that in. )
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    DO NOTHING. if you can be yourself, thats a far more attractive characteristic than the ability to dance, bat your eyelids or whatever. call me old-fashioned, but flirting is a deception - making yourself out to be someting you arent, someting different. be happy with yourself, and dont feel the need to try any harder - that shows true confidence, not the ability to fart about doin anything else.

    P.S. i know that sounds like an absolute crock of shite, but thats about the most rational i could make it sound <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    what the hell is a bloke?! and..flirt enough to let him no that u kinda like him..but then be 'hard to get'..ya know?!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    lol.

    gurlie and lin, if you haven't noticed, this is a u.k. based site. us non-british folks are in the minority.

    a bloke is their work for guy or dude. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    we're gonna have to work harder to get american vernacular to be a larger part of the group vocabulary. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    although "dude" seems to be taking hold around the boards. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;


    [This message has been edited by Calvin (edited 03-06-2001).]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    dun laff at me punk!! i'll beat u up!!
    nah..juss playin..thx for clearin that up..
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Calvin:
    lol.

    gurlie and lin, if you haven't noticed, this is a u.k. based site. us non-british folks are in the minority.

    a bloke is their work for guy or dude. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    we're gonna have to work harder to get american vernacular to be a larger part of the group vocabulary. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    although "dude" seems to be taking hold around the boards. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    Hey calvin - thanx for the updat - but a lil newsflash - i knew tat, its quite simple tofigure out. But thanks anyway!! You sound really nice

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Flirting is fun! hee hee hee
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by LIN:
    Originally posted by Calvin:

    Hey calvin - thanx for the updat - but a lil newsflash - i knew tat, its quite simple tofigure out. But thanks anyway!! You sound really nice


    i'd like to think i am. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    and sorry to you and gurlie. i was just trying to help. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    see you two around the boards.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    DUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUDE.

    ahem. *redoes hair* anyways <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    LIN, dont be rude. Girlie, i had something to say but i can't for the life of me remember what.

    Calvin - stand up for urself man! Jeash! some peepole! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt; [email protected] <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

    Look into these tired eyes. See something you might recognise.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by amadee:
    i've been told that i'm a terrible flirt and i don't notice most of the time. in my experience, my flirting has generally worked, too... (not to be boastful or anything <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; )
    i generally just smile a lot... all the stereotypical eyelash batting and head-tilting and stuff like that...


    i read this reaply and said to my mate that souds like some one i know ME!!!!!!

    your right if you keep smileing and be happy you uaslly can't fail!
    but don't be to much of a bimbo or guys will think your just out 4 a quickey in the loo's!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally Posted By thedevilherself:
    i read this reaply and said to my mate that souds like some one i know ME!!!!!!
    your right if you keep smileing and be happy you uaslly can't fail!
    but don't be to much of a bimbo or guys will think your just out 4 a quickey in the loo's!

    I'm not a bimbo at all... actually, I piss people off a lot by ranting about politics or economics or something similar, out of the blue... that's why when I flirt I'm super flirty, to balance it all out <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;




    Your cycles have bled into ones supposed to be my own
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Keep the replies coming guys <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; Cheers
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Drifter:
    erm dunno. if i knew i probably wouldn't be sitting at home in front of my computer right now, with no boyfriend. ah well


    ((((Drifer))))

    I'd go out with you. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt; (thats a non flirtatious wink)

    Well me personally can see how flirting is fun in a way but really can't see the point. Its like your playing a game. It would just make me feel like saying "Look, do you want me or not for christ sake!!".

    People tend to naturally flirt a little bit with the opposite sex, its natural and doesnt need to be thought about unless its hurting someone. It can also be a face put on by shy people.

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