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Hardest-to-find mates. What do you reckon they are?Lovers,best,soul.I know my choice.

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I really want to start a topic about soul mates.What are your deinitions and have you got one or more?

My definition is someone who you feel at ease with totally to open up to and to just cry and moan to. You trust them more than anything or one else and feel only they can help you.

I personally dont have one. I am generally a person who finds it hard to open up so I probably will find it hard to find a soul mate.What do you think?
If you do have soul mates you are lucky. Soul mates are so important and it is so meaning ful to have such a lovely connection with someone. I would like to think it is my boyfriend or my closest friend but it aint. I still find it hard. I always keep my problems bottled up.

Do you reckon you, yourself are a soul mate to anyone. I do. My boyfriend reckons I am his soul mate and my close friends are so open to me. Whay do they find it so easy????

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  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    yes i do have one. even though ive never met him, that doesnt matter now and it hasnt mattered in the years that ive known him. but... you know, friendship isnt always enough lately <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt;

    my friends are usually shit to me. my "real life" friends this is btw. im always getting dumped on, taken advantage of, neglected, rejected, left out, ostracised, hated, that kinda thing. not just once, its happened with all the friends i've ever really had. and now the only person who really gives a shit about my from my school i just left is moving at the end of july, and so my time before uni, and the holidays, are doomed to be boring and lonely as shit. the people in my life dont know me that well, they dont know how i think, what i hate, what i like, nothing about who i really am.

    my friends on the internet, well they're better to me than people in "real life" ever have been. they're there for me when i need them, they say things to make me feel loved and cared about, they talk about nonsense with me sometimes, they cheer me up, everything friends should do. and im the best friend of 3 people, 2 of whom ive not yet met but probably will before the year is out.

    my first boyfriend and i were best friends, that was the core of our relationship, we were friends for months before we went out. he was the one i told everything to, who was always there for me. and he was in my life for 2 years almost. ive only got one person in my life who's been there longer than that, and who's been important to me the whole time ive known him too. i know we have a special bond, and that nothing or no one will get in the way, we will always be the most important thing to each other. and i know how special that is.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I'd like to think I have a soul mate, but like CHEEKy I find it difficult to open up to people. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; My best friend is the closest I get, really. I think I just find it hard to trust everything of me to someone else, which is how I envisage the soul mate thing. Being totally yourself with another person and them being totally themselves with you. I know that that's how you're supposed to be with a boyfriend, but even then (and I expect there's lots of people in the same boat!) I find I automatically put up a sort of wall <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/confused.gif"&gt; Oh well, I'll sort it out one day! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Emma, am i the 3rd friend you'll never meet then? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; lol

    Awww .. I'm not even a friend ?? <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/rolleyes.gif"&gt; hehe

    Yup, well i know all about the trials and tribulations of people on the net.

    But there's a distinction between friends they have online, and the friends they have in real life .... although online m8s tend to be more like themselves in real life rather than the nasty, spiteful, hurtful mates that live near them it's just that sorta 'will i ever meet them' thing that hangs over it .. one of the drawbacks of the net i guess !! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/eek.gif"&gt;

    Another pointless rant by me <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt;

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    [This message has been edited by Powerslave (edited 29-05-2001).]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    my best friend and i could talk about everything and had the greatest time together, but now she's all wrapped up in her boyfriend and i NEVER see or hear from her. i think her and her boyfriend are probably soul mates and we were almost soul mates <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; i think you meet lots of people in your life that you get along with well, some people more than others. sometimes things happen which change the friendship, sometimes things happen which strengthen it. i think everyone meets many, many potential soul mates and it's luck which ones stick and which ones don't.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    soulmates? not after what i was thinking about last night, which is too blah to go in to.

    best mates...not gonna say <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt; but i like to think some of them visit here sometimes.

    and, of course, calvin is my lover (y o y o did i have to to trivialise this thread!! ffs!)

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Turtle:

    and, of course, calvin is my lover (y o y o did i have to to trivialise this thread!! ffs!)


    having calvin as a lover is soooooo not trivial.
    even though i beg to differ, he's a one-woman kinda guy, which means youre out of the picture.
    and yes you did sound like a fookin dog!!!
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    *patronising*
    no dear, that was the dog outside ur window. u fool <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Possibly the origin of the phrase 'soul mate':

    "When asked, 'What is a friend?' he replied, 'One soul inhabiting two bodies'."

    (And a prize for anyone who knows who said it, too...)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i kinda have a soul-mate kinda thing goin on with my best friend. i can tell her anything, and vice versa. but, its one of those unspoken types - a lot of the time there is little need to actually say anything deep and meaningful to one another. this just lets us get on with the business of bein mates.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by dazed_dan:
    this just lets us get on with the business of bein mates.

    ya mean going out and gettin wankered?

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Turtle:
    ya mean going out and gettin wankered?


    Prrrrrrreeeeeeeecisely! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; lol
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by SusieLovesCalvin:
    having calvin as a lover is soooooo not trivial.
    even though i beg to differ, he's a one-woman kinda guy, which means youre out of the picture.
    and yes you did sound like a fookin dog!!!

    this is what having a soulmate is all about CHEEK-y. someone to bite turtle's head off when he's being cheeky. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    i've been very lucky to find mine in susie. we just get along. we miss each other when we don't talk for long periods, and all the bad things in the world just go away when we talk. all u long for a is a big hug and being able to fall asleep with her on the couch. and forever doesn't seem like enough time to spend together. that's my definition of soul mate. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    and for the record... i wouldn't touch turtle's shell with a ten foot pole. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    calvin...*sigh*... i sooooo know how you mean. the missing them when you dont talk to them for even like a day or two... everything melting away when you're talking to them... just wanting a big hug and to be in their arms for as long as physically possible. yes i so know what you mean.

    I love deadlines. I love the whooshing noise they make as they go by.
    ~ the late, great Douglas Adams
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    nice to know ur hopeless and believe in soulmates too gfm <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    here's hoping u land urs <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    thank you calvin <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; *fingers crossed*...

    I love deadlines. I love the whooshing noise they make as they go by.
    ~ the late, great Douglas Adams
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I believe in soulmates there's this guy lol knows things about me talk to him about anything lol somtimes i don't even have to say anything he just seems to know (stuff my best friend of 6 years doesn't know) and when he's hugging me it's the absolute best feeling in the world, and when he's not its the absolute worst does anyone know how to make this go away ? i mean is there a pill or something for it

    I know I'm not perfect but I can smile
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    A pill? You've got to be kidding me! Excuse me if this is a bit personal, but why would you even want to 'turn off' a relationship like that? We should all be so lucky as to find someone like you've described.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Youse are all describing lovers here. I know you can have a soul mate in a lover.
    But what about general best mates?
    People say friends are more important than lovers.Its different in a marriage thing-they should be equal then in a different way of course.
  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    who said anything about lovers? ive not even met the person im talking about.

    and the other person i was talking about who id probably meet before the end of the year, isnt a lover and isnt likely to become one either!

    kitty i so know what you mean, you dont even have to explain things in words, they just know. *sigh*

    ill go and write stuff in my livejournal soon about this now ive figured out who to choose specifically to see stuff <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    I love deadlines. I love the whooshing noise they make as they go by.
    ~ the late, great Douglas Adams
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by CHEEKy:
    Youse are all describing lovers here. I know you can have a soul mate in a lover.
    But what about general best mates?
    People say friends are more important than lovers.Its different in a marriage thing-they should be equal then in a different way of course.

    friends are more important then lovers and my best friend is the most important person in my life and i'm very sure she always wil be. and i take her forgranted sometimes just like she does me but i can't think of anyone being more important to me then her.


    I know I'm not perfect but I can smile
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    - no man/woman is ever worth your tears, and the only one who is will never make you cry.

    - if you love someone, put their name inside a circle, not a heart; hearts can break, circles are never-ending.

    - if my soulmate were to jump off a bridge, I wouldn't jump with him/her, I'd be at the bottom to catch him/her.

    - it takes an hour to like someone, a month to love someone, and a lifetime to forget someone.

    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by *~stellar~*:
    - no man/woman is ever worth your tears, and the only one who is will never make you cry.

    - if you love someone, put their name inside a circle, not a heart; hearts can break, circles are never-ending.

    - if my soulmate were to jump off a bridge, I wouldn't jump with him/her, I'd be at the bottom to catch him/her.

    - it takes an hour to like someone, a month to love someone, and a lifetime to forget someone.

    <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;


    You've made my heart melt especially with the cirle-heart business and the first one-thats a great thought.
    I cant get over it!!!!!
    They are great thoughts.

  • Girl-From-MarsGirl-From-Mars Posts: 2,822 Boards Guru
    awwww stellar, thats really good <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    I love deadlines. I love the whooshing noise they make as they go by.
    ~ the late, great Douglas Adams
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Calvin:
    nice to know ur hopeless and believe in soulmates too gfm <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    here's hoping u land urs <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;


    CALVIN we americans know our shit! I have this friend about 250 miles away and we used to talk fro hours at least 4/7 times a wekk, now i hardly even get an email from him, i miss him so much! hes my bud but i love him!

  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Calvin:
    this is what having a soulmate is all about CHEEK-y. someone to bite turtle's head off when he's being cheeky. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    i've been very lucky to find mine in susie. we just get along. we miss each other when we don't talk for long periods, and all the bad things in the world just go away when we talk. all u long for a is a big hug and being able to fall asleep with her on the couch. and forever doesn't seem like enough time to spend together. that's my definition of soul mate. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    and for the record... i wouldn't touch turtle's shell with a ten foot pole. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/tongue.gif"&gt;

    HEY CALVIN, I DONT KNOW SUSIE BUT YOU 2 SEEM PERFECT! AND AS FOR TURTLE YOU SUCK ASS <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; DUDE - LEARN TO BE A LIL SENSATIVE OR DONT WRITE ON SOMETHING THAT IS! PEOPLE LIKE CALVING AND SUSIE AND I RULE THIS PAGE! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/cool.gif"&gt;

    AS FOR YOU CHEEKy, SOUL MATES ARE FRIEDNS WHO MAKE PROMISES TO BE FRIENDS FOR EVER AND KEEP THAT PROMISE.



    [This message has been edited by LIN (edited 08-06-2001).]
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hey lin --

    susie and i appreciate the sentiments you've posted.

    but turtle is also right. he and i are always messing with each other cause we're just having fun. he's really a decent guy and a respected member of thesite. i can understand why you or other new people would think he's mean or in sensitive, but he's not. take the time to get to know him personally before you make a judgement like that.

    and he's reasonable too. if you think he's crossed the line... tell him personally instead of posting it.. he's been known to apologize and scale things back.

    and if he really bothers you, just skip his posts and keep giving the good advice you've been giving lin. cause i'd like to see you be a respected member around here too.

    shellhead --
    i know ur were mad at the remarks lin made, but i think u went a little overboard and took things a bit personal. it's up to you, but i think you might want to apologise cause some of it was pretty harsh.

    and just so you know, i like messing with ya. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt; and apparently you have a fan club around here now, so i think u know where u stand around here. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    guys -- can we shake and make up? please?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i never thought i would have a soulmate because i am quite shy and don't really open up to people either. But i finally found mine and its so wonderful! <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt; <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    There's a girl in my mirror
    I wonder who she is
    Sometimes I think I know her
    Sometimes I really wish I did
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by Calvin:
    hey lin --

    susie and i appreciate the sentiments you've posted.

    but turtle is also right. he and i are always messing with each other cause we're just having fun. he's really a decent guy and a respected member of thesite. i can understand why you or other new people would think he's mean or in sensitive, but he's not. take the time to get to know him personally before you make a judgement like that.

    and he's reasonable too. if you think he's crossed the line... tell him personally instead of posting it.. he's been known to apologize and scale things back.

    and if he really bothers you, just skip his posts and keep giving the good advice you've been giving lin. cause i'd like to see you be a respected member around here too.

    shellhead --
    i know ur were mad at the remarks lin made, but i think u went a little overboard and took things a bit personal. it's up to you, but i think you might want to apologise cause some of it was pretty harsh.

    and just so you know, i like messing with ya. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt; and apparently you have a fan club around here now, so i think u know where u stand around here. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;

    guys -- can we shake and make up? please?

    have done, well, sorta <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/biggrin.gif"&gt; as usual, ur level head prevails.

    Look into these tired eyes. See something you might recognise.
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