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  Former Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru

  April 2001

  Originally posted by sachit22:
  Dear all,
  I'm a 22 year old male and am still a virgin. I come from a relatively strict asian family and have spent most of my life in a academic male dominated environment. I'm quite shy and therefore don't meet as many women as I'd wish.
  I'm quite embarrassed of my lack of experience and therefore tend to shy away from any scarce opportunities that present themselves. It's driving me mad, as I'm hardly unattractive and command excellent career prospectives for my age.
  I'd be grateful for any constructive advice!
  Thanks,
  Sachit.

  
  hello sachit. welcome to thesite. i invite you to stay for a while as the people are good lot and can help you with anything.
  
  and i think i'm the most eminantly qualified here to help you with your situation. i too am and asian-american male and had a pretty strict asian-education upbringing.
  
  and i can tell you that the only way ur gonna get over your fears is to get out there. i have had the same problems you did in finding someone cause i was shy was didn't know how to act around women for most of my life. just don't let how your life has been to this point affect you forever. u can step out of that life.
  
  for me, when i went to uni, i found a good group of mates and started to go out with them to parties or pubs or where ever. you start getting over ur fears by simply talking to new people in those settings. u then start to realize that women are just people too. some will like you and some won't.
  
  the hear comes the tough part.. just go for it. i know it's hard to put urself out there when you don't feel like u have the experience to start relationships, but you're only going to get that experience if you begin to take some of those scarce opportunities u have. u will win some and u will lose some, but you won't get anywhere if you don't try.
  
  and being 22 is irrelevant. ur still plenty young and you have plenty of time to find someone.
  
  one bit of advice though: don't lead with your "excellent career opporunties", you really don't want a woman who wants to be with you because of that only. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"&gt;
  

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