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I feel like im missing out quite a bit by not living in halls. :crying:
Everyone else ive spoken to seems to have developed these great friendships already with people they either live with or share their hall with and i'm just finding it quite hard to make conversation with people because we dont really have much in common. After the initial "hi im so and so whats you name/what course are you on/where are you living" ive got nothing to say after this...
Everyone else ive spoken to seems to have developed these great friendships already with people they either live with or share their hall with and i'm just finding it quite hard to make conversation with people because we dont really have much in common. After the initial "hi im so and so whats you name/what course are you on/where are you living" ive got nothing to say after this...
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there are loads fo things to talk about other than halls. i'm pretty sure you already know that! of course its hard at first. and whilst you're there worrying that you can't make as many friends because you're in halls, there are people actually in halls who are worrying that they're not fitting in or being left out of things. people in halls still have to make loads of effort because of the huge number of people living in one building.
im sure you know what to do, just keep being your sociable self and give it time. you've only been there a week or 2!
Erm, not necessarily.
The only 2 main people I am still in contact with are two of the girls I shared my flat with in first year. We stayed in university controlled flats, only 6 in the block and they are my best friends.
University is what you make of it. Speak to people on your course, people in the SU etc etc. I know of plenty people who werent in halls that didn't miss out. You just need to make a bit more of an effort.
Its more of a personal experience than a "making friends one.....by that i mean, you firgure out how to live on your own....thats how it is for me, but maybe im just a bit odd. lol
That's one of the problems living away from uni. Does your uni have a night bus? It probably won't take you home but might take you to somewhere you can more easily get home from. Another thing would be to get a sleeping bag and crash on friends floors for special events.
i thought uni was full of open minded people not jus narrow minded snobs ! (no offence anyone jus my opionion of my uni)
Yeh you probably missed out by not going to halls in terms of meeting new people but not the end of the world. There's the lectures and tutorials and also the night life aswell.
All my friends are from my course or the Union, my memories of halls largely centre around 40 people trying to share 4 toilets and 2 showers..
Maybe it varies from place to place. I cant wait to meet my new flatmates!
I know people who haven't lived in halls and have still made loads of mates.
When it comes to it, it's what you make it.
I finally have a styc rep though, 3 girls came to talk to me and said our house didn't have one, they didn't realise anyone lived here :rolleyes:. So hopefully, can make some friends soon - made friends with everyone in my house but they're hardworking nursing students, where are the hard partying theoretical physists??
I met some guys like night by sitting down next to them. Same today. I think it comes to down to just trying, repeatedly...
You won't find many of them, sorry mate! Best bet is to find other friends, it';s not a piece of piss, you will have to try!
Lol it was a joke from a film I watched. Apparently they are the worst ones for getting drunk
Going to a freshers event tonight which should be good... just have to see how it goes though!