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The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched - they must be felt with the heart.
well said broken heart.
and with regard to my earlier comment - sorry but i believe anything other than total honesty about things when you're trying to get a girls interest is wrong.
I don't buy all this man of mystery stuff, i'm not going to pretend to be something i'm not just to try and pull especially as i'm not interested in casual relationships.
I'll just be myself thank you that way girls know exactly what they are falling for right from that start and that way they can never be
We never meant otherwise - it's suicide in terms of relationships to pretend to be something your not.
The problem is, a lot of (including nice) people tend not to take a second look at people who come across as being nice but not necessarily much else. You can even get to know them quite well (or love them) and they may not 'notice' you in that sense. Acting in a slightly more extrovert or unusual way can get you noticed in that sense <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif">
Like I said, this doesn't have to be about pulling and casual sex (I don't like them either), it's about getting someone you're interested in to notice you. And as far as your actions are concerned, it's like the difference between standing tall or huddling in a corner: let (make) them see who you are or you'll never get noticed.
Particularly at 16-20 (and often beyond) people tend to be quite short sighted at spotting people who aren't standing up demanding to be noticed. It doesn't have to be mystery, or keeping people hanging and unsure of your intentions, or being the funniest guy around, or the best looking. Let people know who and what you are, not just by being simply friendly to them, and don't just focus on the person you're interested in (in terms of getting noticed, not romantically). If their friends and friendship group notice you, they'll find it easier to be interested in you.
The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched - they must be felt with the heart.
Not everyone wants to get close with someone sometimes its nice to have sex with no attachments.
I know i have had a lot of one night stands but i have never led any one on to believe it would be anything more than that.
I think as long as we are honest with people and let them know what we want from them, then we are doing nothing wrong if they go along with you and want the same thing.
[This message has been edited by Spirit (edited 30-11-2000).]
LOL. Is this true? I see "his town, his world, his life" for his location.
Harry is very definitely on the boat.
Yep, especially since I was just joking <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/frown.gif"> But you are right anyway. If I wasn't joking, that still wouldn't make me a jerk. There are females about that feel the same way I was pretending to feel, as you have just indicated.
Harry is very definitely on the boat.
I had the same problem as you have stated, I liked alot of girls but they only like me as a friend.
I had my first girlfriend when I was 17 which lasted all of 3 weeks.
Then I met my sisters boyfriends sister and she was gorgeous, we was in a pub so I asked her if she wanted to have a game of pool and she said yes, and from this we arranged to go out and after about 2-3 months of going out as friends, I decided to make a move and as her out so after a couple of beers (dutch courage) i asked her and she said no, I just want o be friends (I was gutted), we still saw each other in the pub on Friday nigths but were not as close as we was. Then I thought oh sod it, I asked her if she wanted a game of pool and then we remembered all the good laughs we had wneh we went out together, had a few drink together and we were flirting with each other all night and when she left I asked her out again and she gave me a big kiss and said YES!!!!.
What I am trying to say is that'll you will meet a lass that likes you for you and that is the most important thing.
All the best
NuttyLad <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
I could drink 10 kegs of lager and still not have the guts to ask anyone out!
The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched - they must be felt with the heart.
Well no, your guts would probably be all over the floor. <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
Didn't you say in a different thread somewhere that you turned down an American girl a few years back? Surely you must realise on some level that girls can be interested in you and find you attractive?
I think maybe you just need to change your attitude to yourself and love yourself a bit more first - realise you're great, and other people will suddenly notice it too (honestly). Obviously don't go too far or you'll turn into an arrogant, vain twat who looks in a mirror all day <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"> (just being silly).
Simple question: can you talk to girls who you're not attracted to?
Yea I can to some extent! I feel more comfortable talking to people I'm not attracted to. I can talk to people I'm attracted to after I get to know them but i don't get the guts to ask them out!
I almost asked a girl out about six months ago. We got on really well and we were always messing around in lessons. My mates knew I liked her and I admitted to my mates i did. Then what do they do in lesson? They take the piss out of us saying we love each other and all that.
Then I found out she had a boyfriend but she deliberately said "It doesn't always matter if your with someone cause sometimes a better guy comes along who you may like more" or something like that. While she was staring at me. I just went red and looked away. My bottle went then and i knew she would have said yes if I had asked her out but I just couldn't pluck up the courage.
I think I need more confidence than anything!
The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched - they must be felt with the heart.
Go on man, do it! Ask her out! Could u e-mail her if it's too embarrassing face2face and explain how you feel about it all (love+embarassment)? Carefully so you don't get hurt just in case? Go on, it's worth a try. (Or is it no longer appropriate? Maybe there's someone else... SO ASK HER OUT INSTEAD <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/wink.gif"> )
[This message has been edited by JB (edited 02-12-2000).]
Well I left college in March and we don't see each other as much now I've gone back cause we do different courses! We just say hi when we see each other
The best and most beautiful things in the world cannot be seen or even touched - they must be felt with the heart.