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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
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okay hi havent posted in a while i know but now im back and unfortunately on a bad note.

ive just started to go out with my Xgf again but im really upset at the fact that she seems to have gone futher on the idea that shes fat and im trying to help her but she seems to be throwing up forcefully and im really upset about this but i dont know how to help her.

can someone help me im really really upse

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Really am sorry to hear that matey as Ive been there myself (except the problem was actually mine!). Its a difficult one really, and to b honest I wish I could say its one u can solve but I dont think it is. The best thing u can do is show her how much u care and expalin that she shouldnt hurt herself in this way. Do a bit of reading or something, then u can talk to her knowing more about the subject. Try and get her to seak help, go to the docters and ask to be referred to a counceller. Unfortunatly, the only way she will get better is if she helps herself, and thats not always what they want to do.
    Im afraid thats about all I can say really. Just give her support and help her by showiong her u care and that u will help her to get better if thats what she decides to do. I think its great that u r showing an interest by the way, a lot of blokes would just be rid of their girl straight away and not want anything to do with it. I think she will be more likely to sort herself out knowing she has u behind her <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">. Goodluck and I hope things work out ok.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Yeah that is upsetting. I had a good mate that was bulimic for a very long time. Unfortunately bulimia is a tough (psychological) disease to cure. Its possible, but to be honest, she probably won't be able to kick it on her own. It usually requires extensive counselling. It will probably be hard to convince her that that is what she needs, but you'll have to do anything in your power to get her into counselling. That might even mean telling her family and/or friends. Sounds harsh but its very damaging to one's body. In the meantime be ther for her, and even though she won't believe ya keep reinforcing that she's not overweight. GOOD LUCK!!

    Lolly -I think we were writting that almost the exact same time

    [This message has been edited by trancegrrl (edited 22-11-2000).]
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    They say that bulimia is associated with feeling powerless and anxious, just like with anorexia.

    The sooner u can help her to realise there is something wrong and get her into counselling, the better.

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    okay first of all can i say thanks to everyone who wrote stuff heres an update:

    my girlfriend was the 1st person to tell me that she might be bulimic and that she was scared. she doesnt want any councilling she just wants me to help so all this depends on me and i am going to help her if its the last thing i do...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Good on ya mate! Best thing u can do is just get as keyed up on the issue as u possibly can.

    Good luck to u both <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    take a look here http://eatingdisorders.about.com/health/eatingdisorders/cs/bulimia/index.htm
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by trancegrrl:
    Yeah that is upsetting. I had a good mate that was bulimic for a very long time. Unfortunately bulimia is a tough (psychological) disease to cure. Its possible, but to be honest, she probably won't be able to kick it on her own. It usually requires extensive counselling. It will probably be hard to convince her that that is what she needs, but you'll have to do anything in your power to get her into counselling. That might even mean telling her family and/or friends. Sounds harsh but its very damaging to one's body. In the meantime be ther for her, and even though she won't believe ya keep reinforcing that she's not overweight. GOOD LUCK!!

    Lolly -I think we were writting that almost the exact same time

    [This message has been edited by trancegrrl (edited 22-11-2000).]

    Ha ha ha, how very strange trancegrrl!

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I was annorexic ( if thats how you spell it)see that past tense, but the trouble is you never really get over it i am 7st 12lb nearly 19yrs and have a 12 month old baby.Still all i can think aboutis loosing weight but now i eat properly and concentrate on exercise. Top tip don't make food an issue.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I know its hard because one of my best mates was anorexic she went to healers and hypnotists to try and sort herself out.
    She was really thin and tried to kill herself once.
    Sometimes I just wanted to strangle her because it frustrated me how she would never eat and would say she was fat all the time, but I was always there for because I loved her.
    Im sure that your girlfriend feels so much better knowing that you are going to stick by and help her.
    So many guys would turn and run in the opposite direction if their girlfriend had a problem like this.

    Good luck to you both!
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