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gettin hit
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well here goes it all started a while back wen we had a row, bottom line is i went phsyco on him just petty slpppin around his arm then he slaps me around the face! few nights back he was winding me up non stop then i flipped and stated shouting we mad up and then i started messing around and he couldnt take it so he hit me i hit him back so he kicked me in the arm! is it my fault because i hit him first or does it not make it right for him 2 hit me back!!! i dont know what to do he scares me but i dont want to lose him as im in the wrong!
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If you're scared of him, you should seriously consider why you're with him, imo.
You both need to have a serious word and both agree to stop.
If he doesn't stop I'd get out of there straight away. You must stop too.
Nor the other way round.
Youre both in the wrong and its dodgy ground. You both need to stop.
You hit and you'll get hit.
Well, in my opinion it's very poor to hit a woman, but fuck you hit first, what did you expect? He buying you some flowers.
Yes, Yes, I know every court on this side of the planet blames the man, but seriously, what did you even think?
There are some circumstances where I'd have no problem - such a recieving a kick in the knackers.
depends... if she thought she was "cute" by doing it... well, I give her a lecture.
If a girl smashes a beer bottle and charges me, I have no qualms with giving her a haymaker.
especially if it was unjustified
Treat others how you expect to be treated yourself. Hit them, expect it back. If they hit you out of the blue, then you should walk.
People only usually resort to this level when they can't think of anything believable left to say!
That in itself can be rewarding
Agreed.
I also agree that if someone (whether it's a man or a woman) hitd you, then you can hit them back.
acting like a pair of 5 year olds isn't going to get you anywhere
yeah. I didn't say it's less painful/disturbing then, but I meant in a "cute/funny" way, like a tittytwister. I had a girl gave me a kick there when I was in a straddle (hope this is the right word) in PE to expand the muscles, because she thought "haha, look... how funny he is rolling on the ground."
When we played Völkerball (everyone hold on now, the definition of "Völkerball" in english is according to a dictionary the following: game for two teams where the object is to hit an opponent with a ball and thus put him out of the game [sport.]), I fucking decked that hoe tho.
Well that's her problem. If she gives you a slap on your arm you probably won't be giving her 4 knuckles to the jawbone, but still. If she resorts to hitting and aims anywhere on the face, she will have to expect that the man does not particularly try to be tender.
Although saying that not too long ago I took a right hook and had a wine bottle thrown at me by a girl and I just grabbed her and threw her away from me, well done me lol
What did you do to deserve that? :chin:
I agree with the concensus that you're both as bad as each other. If you both cut it out it'll be fine. Make love, not war
Just stop hitting him!
No, but it does mean that the person who hits first should button it instead of trying to claim that they are a victim of DV with the moral high ground.
IMO if you hit someone whatever their gender, you've no right not to expect them to hit you back.
You should not be hitting him, and he should not hit you.
Fair enough, if people are angry, some can only take so much frustration, but for gods sake, hit a wall or pillow, not eachother.
I dont believe it hitting anyone (male/female) and if your hitting him first, your probably making him more angry and provoking him to hit you.
So both of you pack it in and get some counselling!