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My mate didn't tell her that I'm interested in her, they just had a girly chat about families, relationships etc and it came out that way. Since my mate did the digging, the girl I fancy had continued to be the friendly person I've known her to be so perhaps all is not lost. Yet.
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No I'm not acting as if I love her. I think she's great but that's as far as it goes.
Do your own digging.
I do. I'm not happy at being single.
No
So you tell everyone that you're really unhappy?
No, because I'm not 'really unhappy'. I can't imagine a scenario along the lines of the following:
[Door-to-door salesman]:Good afternoon sir, how are you today?
[Booty]: Well actually I'm unhappy. Really unhappy. Because I'm single.
No, that doesn't happen. But if someone asks me if I'm looking for a relationship then of course I'll say that I am - but with the right person obviously.
When someone asks how you are, its not polite to actually go and tell them.
If you're too cowardly to go and ask her directly you're pretty much snookered anyway.
Ohhhhhhhhhhh, your mate is a girlllllllllll, that changes the whole situation. But actually, this time I agree with Kermit, take his advice to heart.
I speak from the heart - always have always will. I don't believe in garnishing a story or anything like that. If someone asks how I am then ovbiously I'm not going to say "well I've got a boil on my left arse cheek the size of a marble which hurts plus my piles are playing up again" but if someone asks me a specific question such as "How's the love life" then I'll answer something along the lines of "non-existent" which gives the impression there's a gap which needs filling (not in a sexual way of course :no: ) without sounding desperate.
I wouldn't call it cowardly - I don't have a problem in asking women out - but because she's at work it makes things complicated. If she was a neighbour or someone I'd met in another situation then this wouldn't be a factor.
Sounds like it could be a polite way of saying she ain't interested in you. She got a fit sister?
What did this mate actually say?
Well no-one has told her I fancy her.
To me or her?
If you really like her, just go for it, what have you got to lose? Don't get someone else to go upto her for you, because it is infact being cowardly. If you get rejected, so what? Its not the end of the world, shes not going to totally ignore you and stop speaking to you just because just doesnt want to go out with you. Start speaking/flirting with her, so if she gets the picture that you like her, see if she sends any signals back maybe, then gradually work your way in...
Understand?