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its stereotypical!
What I think you mean is you want a girl to show she's interested in you first, so you're in control and you don't have to put up with her mind games and shit, yeah?
I can't ever be arsed with dates and the whole mindfuck stuff that goes with it, I always find it better being with somebody that you just get on dead well with for a good while and stuff just sort of happens naturally (because I'm fussy), that way you never (well hardly ever) get nasty surprises that she's got some ex on the side or that :rolleyes:
But I'd say don't make a concious decision about it, just have a laugh and if something happens with someone then happy days :thumb:
Ok, well is this girl 19, too?
You can have all the best intentions and be at your most suave, attentive and charming on a date and still not get the end result you want for a whole variety of reasons. One of those being that she's still not over her ex, it's nothing you did or didn't do... just dust yourself off, chalk it up to experience and move onwards and upwards
On the subject of dating tips, AVOID falling into this trap like the plague. Being yourself is the only tip you really need, otherwise you're restricting your behaviour and attitude on the date to what you think fits in with this set of do and don't tips. Never a good thing, have faith in your own dating and social skills!
Never met a lassie who's done that, although I did get a vodka coke (glass included) right in the face once because my mate grabbed her backside and made it look like it was me
So long as you don't suddenly lunge in for the kiss or worse, then why the fuck would she smack you one?
no no no. read my posts above ^^^
and, i kissed her when i dropped her off
But i just feel like a mug.
I even asked Sammy what she thought was wrong with me, and she replied saying nothing at all, nothing what so ever! But its just the fact she wanted to keep her options open and she also likes her ex bf still. so not much i can do.
As for the date, it was 100% spot on. I could tell she was nervous, a few things happened lol, like erm, when i dropped her off, she tried saying something but it came out gobbledy gook!!! lol, she said "You probably didnt understand a word of that did you"?
lol i could help but smile and say "no". lol.
But i did really enjoy the date, was spot on, just wish she told me this before i took her out, im sure theres plenty more out there that will be grateful of me one day.
You see the thing is, women say its blokes that are the cunts, when i feel its the opposite, but everything that should happen to a women, is happening to me lol!
But it does
Yea good point, if you enjoyed your self then maybe you shouldn't feel like that money you spent went down the shitter.
Good. Glad you enjoyed it, take it for what it was and move on with a little bit more dating experience and the knowledge that you enjoyed each other's company, had a nice meal and have seen a new film.
It's bugger all to do with her - or any other girl - being "grateful [of you]", I'm sure she was very appreciative of the fact that you treated her to a lovely night out. But in all honesty, she owes you jack shit just because you laid out a little cash... I think she seems to have been fairly honest since the date that she's just not looking to be in a relationship with anyone in particular, including you.
You should be thinking: NEXT!
But the reason im confused is because she gaves me hints that she would possibly get with me, and that i would have a chance with her, then a couple of days later its all different.
oh well
Maybe she's playing games, maybe she changed her mind for no apparent reason, maybe (as I said before) going out with you made her realise that she's still hung up on her last relationship. I don't think she played you for a fool or anything like that, maybe she just thought it was a lot more casual and "no pressure" than you did. Don't twist yourself up in knots wondering about this girl, there are seriously plenty more fish in the sea when you're young, free and single :thumb:
Why do you want to know? Not that I'd tell you anyway...
n yea but briggi, ive had my fair share i just wanna be loved now lol
Exactly. The first time I go out with a girl, I frame it more as a friends thing. We're just hanging out, getting to know one another. I don't buy her fancy meals or anything.
Awww.
I used to be really against it, because one of my exes took the piss and made me bitter against women and the whole being a gentleman thing.
Got over that though.
anyway, she is immature. You need to be mature because that's how girls will prefer you.