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I was taking into account his other posts, which are all the same as this and I do think he is a twat. But yeah, in P&D attacks on the person are bad. Whoops.
How about the example of teenage girls being attracted to blokes who have cars. I've know plenty of girls who have said the fact a bloke drives or has a nice car is important. I don't know many blokes who'd say that - they'd be far more intrested in how nice her arse is.
My sister got chatted up the other day and found out the bloke was an army captain, she said that's one of the the things that attracted her to him. Not because she wanted his money, but because she said that he's obviously successful.
I didn't say women arn't hard workers, just that they often find powerful men attractive. As a bloke I don't find girls with power any more or less attractive than those without.
EDIT: Lipsy got here sooner.
So men are just naturally more successful and society just reflects this correctly?
I'd say being a powerful woman would turn off a large number of blokes, in a lot of circumstances.
Somebody with power?
Not sure how many MPs, for example, you've met but there are many men in positions of power who exhibit many 'feminine' qualities (sorry can't find a better way of putting that) and don't exhibit 'masculine' qualities.
So if men in positions of power can be both feminine or masculine
But women must be masculine
What does that imply about gender equality?
I don't think it is. Empathy Compassion are all well and good in small quantities but you can't be powerful AND be a pushover.
I just think that men fit more easilly into that role, Maggie proved that women can do it too.
Because the strongest have always succeeded. Give me one example anywhere in the animal world where living creatures get the top through 'being nice'?
I know what you meant, I just threw in the idea that it might be the other way around. I didn't say I believed it nor that I didn't; just an idea to think on.
I'm hardly gonna start naming names (which again shows a little the need for people to pretend to have certain qualities), but I'm just making the point that it plays into a certain sexist attitude to imply that people have to be ruthless or macho to succeed. Meeting people who are very successful it's often strange to realise that this isn't always the case, by any measure - but it's implied that it is.
Which tends to reinforces the myth that it's men who are successful as a majority not due to oppression, subdugation and disenfranchisment but through nature.
Who says that ruthlessness and agression are simply male qualities?
They're human qualities, that both men AND women are free to exhibit.
Group bonding and pack loyalty are all seen as successful models of animal survival - only very few creatures live alone with social bonding. The term 'survival of the fittest' wasn't used by Darwin or modern evolutionary scientists - in fact recent studies have shown that evolutionary development often encourages more empathic and supportive behaviour.
'Survival of the fittest' was actually the term used by Herbert Spencer who believed that poor people were destined to work in factories or mills, shouldn't be properly educated and should never be given any support - rather left to die if they couldn't survive themselves.
That level of industrial cruelty has never exsisted in nature, and the term was popularised not because of any evidence but because it suited mill owners as an excuse to justify the mass deaths in their workhouses.
Sorry, know that - just taking something to a final point
(I need a synonym for 'qualities'. Traits?)