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Not a much talked about problem for guys...
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Hey, newbie here! :wave:
Basically, I have a problem. I find it very hard to ejectualte when me and my girlfriend do stuff... handjobs and blowjobs I eventually do but I can't seem to during sex... which my girlfriend worries about because she thinks shes doing something wrong. Which she isn't, she puts soo much effort in and even does stuff I find hot while masturbating, but it still doesnt work. I also get quite sore after doing stuff because it takes so long, and I think my foreskin might be a bit tight too because it hurts when its pulled back and while I have sex..
In a way its great because I can make my girl cum first (and second and third...) but she wants me to cum too and its hurting her slightly... plus I want to cum too!
Just some lifestyle stuff
I masturbate alot, a few times a day although I cut down majorly for a week or so before seeing my girl
I don't drink that often but when I do I binge
I'm overweight but still quite fit since I play rugby
Any help would be appreciated guys and girls. Cheers.
Basically, I have a problem. I find it very hard to ejectualte when me and my girlfriend do stuff... handjobs and blowjobs I eventually do but I can't seem to during sex... which my girlfriend worries about because she thinks shes doing something wrong. Which she isn't, she puts soo much effort in and even does stuff I find hot while masturbating, but it still doesnt work. I also get quite sore after doing stuff because it takes so long, and I think my foreskin might be a bit tight too because it hurts when its pulled back and while I have sex..
In a way its great because I can make my girl cum first (and second and third...) but she wants me to cum too and its hurting her slightly... plus I want to cum too!
Just some lifestyle stuff
I masturbate alot, a few times a day although I cut down majorly for a week or so before seeing my girl
I don't drink that often but when I do I binge
I'm overweight but still quite fit since I play rugby
Any help would be appreciated guys and girls. Cheers.
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But, he was different to you in that he never masturbates, he thinks it's disgusting, and he's also relatively skinny. He doesn't drink *lots* but does it regularly so *shrugs*.
Just make sure your girlfriend can see how much you're enjoying it, even if you don't cum. That always made me feel better, watching his face. It made me realise I wasn't doing anything wrong.
I want to come because its the most basic way of showing her I enjoyed myself, and plus it's the best part of a bloke in general.
I wouldn't worry, and if you're thinking your girlfriend will be worried, then really REALLY make sure she can see you're enjoying yourself. It doesn't just need to be that you've cum, tbh.
Is there a way I could resenitize myself? I also found something about strecthing my foreskin on the main site here, so that could help too..
It doesn't help if you wear tight pants either, try wearing clothes that are looser...
Hope any of this makes sense to you...
The problem is with the whole not maturbating thing is that... I get horny alot. As in, alot. And it winds me up so much that I often do need to sort it out.:nervous:
Any tips to reduce that?
Also, play sports, do lots of exercise (as much as rugby players do - hehe, I know, i played in college).
You have to condition yourself in a way that whenever you get horny you divert yourself to something else. Get a punchbag, and kick the shit out of it. If you are tired, you won't be horny. And perhaps see your girl a bit more. Don't know how much she knows about your sex drive, perhaps tell her about it...
Also, as I am sure you know there are other ways to give her pleasure without penetration.
There are a number of good therapists that deal with sexual difficulties, maybe you can try a few sessions....
Also, it would be an idea to speak to a doctor about it coz i am sure there is some cream they can give you for desensitizing, i can't quite remember.
Don't do that. I mean you say you are cooked up often times. Don't masturbate before seeing your gal. For me at least the "being horny" thing is not only the erection itself. Even when I am unaroused again I still tend to be harder more quick etc. And if you repeat that a few times I cum relatively quick.
So just don't spank the monkey from NOW on, until you see your girlfriend again.
btw. Ask a doctor about your foreskin problems. I don't know if that's normal. I at least can retract it to any place without any pain whatsoever.
In my social group I was one of the last to lose my V plates and all my mates had this problem their first few times, luckily I knew what to expect. Hell one of em didnt even cum shagging a 34 year old nurse!
I'm not an expert, but I reckon masturbating so much doesn't help. For a start the grip's much harder/tighter than a pussy, and I think it lowers libido in the long run.
Ease off on the hand-shandies for a while dude
I would say you need to change how you're thinking about this. You should want to cum for yourself, not her. Cumming should be about you and the pleasure you feel. Try not to think about what she wants and how she feels, concentrate on yourself and making yourself feel good.
There's plenty of time to make her feel good when you're making her cum!
http://www.thesite.org/healthandwellbeing/generalhealth/menshealth/foreskinproblems
Dude, don't knock the amount you masturbate - one day you may not even get it up so enjoy it while you can. :thumb:
The ideal function of the foreskin during sex is that it slides freely back and forth over the head of your penis. If it is too tight and does not do this, then perhaps your foreskin is inhibiting your sensitivity? If your foreskin remains over your glans while your penis is flacid, it can't really 'desnsitise' any further - the skin is at optimum 'thinness'.
If you go to a doctor with that he will probably give your foreskin a little cut.
And you should really want him to do that.
fuck, just consult a doctor if you have an anatomical problem and stop pussying around man. Sorry to be that harsh, but if it affects your life so much go see a friggin doctor and don't try some auntie self made recipes at home.
I did not have the problem but you probably get local anaesthesia by a spray or something and then what probably takes 5 seconds will take care of a big problem that is doing your head in.
http://www.norm-uk.org/circumcision_alternative_treatments.html is that link worth looking at?
how old are you
"Son, you weren't at home today between 2 and 4 o clock pm! Where have you been? What did you do? And will I have to disown you for that?"
Come on. Make your own appointment and tell your mum you are going to rugby training or god knows.
I have also had the tightened foreskin that was very painful during sex, masturbation, etc. I did have the doctor to do a little cut and I still cannot and have never been able to ejaculate during sex. Only masturbation however even that one gets harder when I shag it too much. I have done the same as this guy in masturbating quite a bit over the years, aprox 3 times a day. I have heard that there is Re sensitizing exercises that can be done out there. Any help from anybody would be greatly appreciated.