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I don't get it :s

Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
in Sex & Relationships
As some of you may know, i've had problems having sex since having our son (c-section). Eventually went to the docs and they told me they think i have Bacterial Vaginosis so gave me tablets which i finished yesterday.
So today we had sex. It was not half as painful as it was but it still felt a little sore once he was finally in.
Now what i don't get is, i tore a little bit, just like losing your virginity all over again. Can that really happen? I'm pretty sure thats why it hurt. It felt really tight underneath.

I mean when i was preggie things kinda swelled up a little so there was more blood flow down there but when i had had him it all went back down again.
Do you think it's possible that it's shunk back more that it was before i was preggie?:crazyeyes :blush:

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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It won't be that its "shrunk back" more, exactly, but as the muscles are elastic they will close up if you don't use them.

    It happens if you don't have sex for ages.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    How do you make it stretch?

    ETA would it be bad to have sex whilst its torn?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Tweety wrote:
    How do you make it stretch?

    ETA would it be bad to have sex whilst its torn?
    It wouldnt be "bad" probably just painful.

    Perhaps try a bit of lube, it might make it easier.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Tweety wrote:
    How do you make it stretch?

    Stretch by having sex?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    jenni30 wrote:
    Stretch by having sex?

    I mean't more gently. I am sure i heard you can rub something on it alot and it helps but i forget
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Try a dildo?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think you might be talking about perineal massage.

    http://www.childbirth.org/articles/massage.html

    ETA: I know this page is about childbirth, because that's when it's usually done, but I'm pretty sure this is what you mean (could be wrong).
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    my gf and I have the same problem, because we dont have the chance to have sex that much, it seems to hurt everytime we try. which has led to her sex drive disapearing it seems :(
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I have a similar problem as I am in a long distance relationship and when we go for ages without seeing each other it can feel like loosing my virginity all over again when we do see each other. Take things slowly and use fingers for getting used to it before progressing to having sex again. You might find it easier if you use a good lube such as ID Millenium Lube or something similar.

    Good luck :)
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Miffy wrote:
    I think you might be talking about perineal massage.

    http://www.childbirth.org/articles/massage.html

    ETA: I know this page is about childbirth, because that's when it's usually done, but I'm pretty sure this is what you mean (could be wrong).
    Yeah thats wht i meant ta :)
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