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Help, i have an identity crisis
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Hi, I was just wondering if all the 'siters' could help me out. Although I've been told I'm a really nice person, i've never actaully been out with anyone. I have a confidence problem and when i'm with lads i tend to always be someone I not, not simply to please them, just because I get nervous. I'm always the nice one that evrybody says is a good listener, but no-one wnats to get serious with. I just feel that a bloke would make me a bit more complete and give me a confidence boost, I hate being alone, what should I do, i'm really confused?
"some rarely touch it but it touches them often." Stanley, Streetcar Named Desire, Tennessee Williams
"some rarely touch it but it touches them often." Stanley, Streetcar Named Desire, Tennessee Williams
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If u r considering a man, and feel that u could go out with 1, then ur not 100% straight n e way.
I know even the thought of it is.... ugh.(no offense to n e 1 gay).
If u got a confidence problem u just gotta get out of it, mayb change ur appearance in some way, make u8rself feel happier bout u.... Little things will boost ur confidence, dont try too hard it'll happen
i was desperate 4 a relationship, had a few and realised i was tryin 2 hard. i get so jealous of couples sometimes it could make me cry, but then i think sod em, im havin a wicked single life!
in also lack confedence but i just make myself act confident,
c ya love helly
ps cant remeber if u said, but how old r u?
The reason y I say, n have said that changing image is useful for confidence problems is cos it really helped me, bout 3 years ago I had no confidence, taking loadsa drugs, never pulled only had long term friends never had the confidence to get new ones, I didn't like my life.
I got leant some baggy jeans n a top by a friend one night kept em a while, felt a lot more comfortable in them, felt I looked better and things just grew from there, it really did help me, but then mayb I'm just a material guy, lol...
You will find the 'one' when you're not looking - believe me it's true, just give it time.
Love from the ChunkyMonkey
Slightly confused but anyway, Marmite, I think you should be yourself. Someone that appreciates you for you will come along sooner or later.
Also, if u r lacking confidence it is ok like helly says to act like u r confident even if u r not.
In the meantime, try taking a course to help yourself become more confident. You should like yourself for who you are first of all and then you will feel great being around others.
Also, I am a very confident and social person but that doesn't mean I still don't get nervous sometimes around new people or new situtaions <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif">
The real key is being able to hide that!
We r all like that soemtimes. Just be yourself and have fun !)
Thanks for the advice, you've all suggested something that will come in useful, thanks a lot and thanks for the positive comments about my name - a strike of inspiration - if that's what you could call it!
"some rarely touch it but it touches them often." Stanley, Streetcar Named Desire, Tennessee Williams