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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Lifeless wrote:
    I take it you're the oldest then.
    Well it made me laugh too.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    bunglenutter wrote:
    Is this thread still not dead yet?

    well as long as there are lonely people it wont be will it?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    sorry to keep this thread going but youre right that girls wouldn't want any quiet guys. she probably thinks i'm a twat cos i fucked it up and god i feel so FUCKING lonely.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hazell wrote:
    youre right that girls wouldn't want any quiet guys

    Wrong. Theres no such thing as "girls" in general, and what girls want. Different people have different tastes in terms of both looks AND personality.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Blah wrote:
    Wrong. Theres no such thing as "girls" in general, and what girls want. Different people have different tastes in terms of both looks AND personality.

    yeh but i'm pretty objective to all girls. they all find me repulsive.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I doubt it, unless your face and scrotum were mixed up at birth.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Fiend_85 wrote:
    I doubt it, unless your face and scrotum were mixed up at birth.
    And even then, if you've got a good enough personality......
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    plenty of women would go for you.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i don't know. no ones ever said ive got a good personality.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Well people don't really say that sort of thing anyway.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    well lets just say ive never been complemented by a girl. or a bloke. but i'm not to fussy about that.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    just wondering
    how old are you hazell?
    not being nosey or nothing...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Blah wrote:
    Wrong. Theres no such thing as "girls" in general, and what girls want. Different people have different tastes in terms of both looks AND personality.

    :yes: Personally, I prefer quiet guys, but not ones who will just sit there all night and say nothing.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Fact, all of the guys I've been interested in have been the quieter ones.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    johnnyboy503 wrote:
    just wondering
    how old are you hazell?
    not being nosey or nothing...

    23. bet you thought i was a whiny 16 yr old. ha. iwish.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    oh, ok then.
    actually, I havn't seen any 16 year olds so far....
    so just to make convo: whats up with you and girls then?
    im listening...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    nothing. i'm just naturally shy and when i do try to converse with anyone, i fuck it up. so talking to girls is even harder and then talking to the ones i like, the ones i so want to, is impossible. i get rejected and then thats it, i'm not agressive enough to carry on. god i feel like shit. its probably not as bad i think, but girls don't seem to take an interest in me and i suppose thats possibly the most depressing feeling i could have.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    hazell wrote:
    nothing. i'm just naturally shy and when i do try to converse with anyone, i fuck it up. so talking to girls is even harder and then talking to the ones i like, the ones i so want to, is impossible. i get rejected and then thats it, i'm not agressive enough to carry on. god i feel like shit. its probably not as bad i think, but girls don't seem to take an interest in me and i suppose thats possibly the most depressing feeling i could have.
    That's a kind of ironic thing. If you're an outgoing kind of person, who isn't afraid of approaching new people, then there's actually more chance that girls will approach you and you won't even have to worry about going up to them. But of course you've got to do the whole approaching other people thing in order to get to the stage where people want to come and talk to you, if you get me.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    yeh, it is ironic. i just wanna die.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    dude, I got almost the exact same thing. so I feel for you.

    After coming on the boards I realise that girls arn't the only thing worth living for. Im not gonna say "just be yourself" cause im not exactly a firm believer on that myself but you have to alter it if you get what I mean. example: If you talk to your mates about football/porn/movies/video games or anything like that. You shouldn't do the same with girls or you can but do it very briefly, don't prattle on and on if she's not interested.

    Are you outgoing or a social butterfly? cause if you don't talk to the girls, how they gonna know your there? If you wanna get a girl to notice you, say Hi, give them a light compliment, use a prop (good icebreaker).

    Is it talking to girls or the ones you like that you have a problem with? cause id say just practice saying Hi to the ones you don't like, then start with light conversation. (I tried this once, worked great). As for talking to the ones you like well then its natural to get nervous.
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    littlemissylittlemissy Posts: 9,972 Supreme Poster
    Fiend_85 wrote:
    Fact, all of the guys I've been interested in have been the quieter ones.

    Ditto.

    Why is this thread still alive?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    cause the depressed dudes keep bringing it back to life...
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    indeed.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Look, you've got to understand that being with someone is not what is going to sort your life out. People are flawed, fallible, human (oddly enough), they will, whether they intend to or not, let you down. As soon as you put your faith into someone else you will be stung by something that they do, not because they hate you, or think you deserve it, but because they're human, and tired, or upset, or stressed or hurting themselves. People, all people, lack the self-control to never let you down, they lack the mind-reading abilities to never let you down. You need to sort yourself out, and in the mean time, some friends will arrive, and maybe a girlfriend later, but you cannot put your life on hold waiting for someone who won't do what you want them to do in the first place.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Fiend_85 wrote:
    Look, you've got to understand that being with someone is not what is going to sort your life out. People are flawed, fallible, human (oddly enough), they will, whether they intend to or not, let you down. As soon as you put your faith into someone else you will be stung by something that they do, not because they hate you, or think you deserve it, but because they're human, and tired, or upset, or stressed or hurting themselves. People, all people, lack the self-control to never let you down, they lack the mind-reading abilities to never let you down. You need to sort yourself out, and in the mean time, some friends will arrive, and maybe a girlfriend later, but you cannot put your life on hold waiting for someone who won't do what you want them to do in the first place.

    see, i'm not in a position to say all this, my experience dealing with people is very limited. i just wanna expereince it for myself.

    and by the way, i have made an effort to. i just can't.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    It's the way it is. It's not all about effort either, sometimes you've got to go with the flow, take what comes.

    Mate, so a couple of questions, how old are you? What's your job? and what are your hobbies?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    23, my job is shit and hobbies are sports, music all things like that but seeing as i don't have anybody to share those with its pointless.
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    What sports? is this just a general interest, or do you play? What about music? Again, you just like it? or do you play or are you a music critic?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    There must ne someone you can share your interests with, surely?
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    Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    usually football, pool, table tennis etc. i used to participate but ive just given up now. i used to go to gigs but ive given up too.
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