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do you get on with your in-laws?
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well do you? it doesn't just apply to smug marrieds though, i also mean your boyfriend/girlfriend's parents and family. and vice versa!
me? i dont tbh. my boychum's mum is the most abbhorent, nasty, spiteful and horrid woman on the face of his earth. i pretend i like her to her face, for an easy life. my boy's parents are divorced, so i hardly see his dad, but him and his new wife aren't that nice either. not unpleasant, but very unemotional and distant. and boring. not my cup of tea.
all his aunties are a bit mad, churning out weans at 15, and getting restraining orders cos their mad partners try to strangle them, and things. oh, and they hate catholics. but theyre nice enough, throw a good party, and they like me, so hey!
my boy however, loves my mum and all my family to pieces. he doesnt really know my dad well, but my dad doesnt like anyone, even me really, so thats fine.
me? i dont tbh. my boychum's mum is the most abbhorent, nasty, spiteful and horrid woman on the face of his earth. i pretend i like her to her face, for an easy life. my boy's parents are divorced, so i hardly see his dad, but him and his new wife aren't that nice either. not unpleasant, but very unemotional and distant. and boring. not my cup of tea.
all his aunties are a bit mad, churning out weans at 15, and getting restraining orders cos their mad partners try to strangle them, and things. oh, and they hate catholics. but theyre nice enough, throw a good party, and they like me, so hey!
my boy however, loves my mum and all my family to pieces. he doesnt really know my dad well, but my dad doesnt like anyone, even me really, so thats fine.
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His mom gets on my nerves alot and very easily. She talks only of money. How much things cost, what she just bought and how much it cost, how much she spent doing this and that. Its all about money. She's nice, she just pisses me off very quickly with her stuck up snobbery ways.
She's been giving me jewlery alot lately though. Real nice stuff, but I don't wear jewlery...
Over my dead body, or maybe hers, I could arrange that :chin:
the other ex's ma was always lovely but her da was a grumpy aul cunt and barely looked at me the whole time i was going out with her.. probably due to the fact i was fucking his daughter and there was nothing he could do about it .. so its slightly understandable
but fuck em anyway, best thing i found to do was just smile and say hello and leave em to it.. i find it frustrating at times because my ma is really lovely and will go out of her way to be nice to any girl i bring home and make her feel welcome .. but then i just think im the lucky one for having such a nice mother
My parents love him like one of their own; we were friends for years and my dear mother's always fancied him as a son-in-law. He didn't take that news too well, though, white as a sheet is a good description
My mum is a mothery mother who just loves to mother people, and she really likes GWST.
The first time I went round I was absolutely petrified because I'd never really done the whole "come round for Sunday lunch" thing, but she was just so lovely from the start, even though my then g/f sat there with her face tripping her half the time.
Even after we split up, her mam used to phone me ever so often to make sure I was doing OK
My brothers girlfriend is lovely though. She only a few months yonger then me and we like the same music etc so get on really well. My parents love her as well.
His dad is really easy to get on with, and while his mum is sometimes hard work, she'll well meaning, and seems to like me! At first I think she had her reservations, cause she read my shyness as being a bit anti-social, but these days it's all gravy. If she rings for him and he's out, she'll quite happily natter away to me instead. Quite often when she rings for him and he's in she'll natter away to me!
My parents like him, but he's got a massive boost in the popularity stakes recently because my brother's formerly fairly normal girly has suddenly gone utterly mental, and in contrast my other half is a bit of a golden child!
His mum was lovely and probably because she never had a daughter used to treat me like one, which wound him up a bit
I think he gets on ok with my parents. He's never said otherwise.
It's the same for my boyfriend as well really, my mum thinks he's brilliant and would gladly swop him for me at times, and he's got the lucky privledge that my Dad actually will speak to him (my Dad's not big on talking to people), and all my aunties, and cousins, and grandparents dote on him, always asking after him... Gah.
Just to finish, both of our familys get along as well, one big happy unit. Gah, like something out of a movie :rolleyes:
My family didnt like him either, although they would never say so, they just stayed icily polite. This did start rifts though and I am still not really talking to my aunt & uncle because of the way they treated my ex the last time we saw them.
I know it shouldnt matter what your family think if you love the person, but it does really kinda suck if your family doesnt approve of the person you are sharing your life with, or their family doesnt approve of you.
My new b/f & I havent met each other's parents yet... guess we've got all this to look forward to if it gets to that point (which might never happen since my parents are on the other side of the world)
My mum and dad were indifferent, I think, because neither of them were happy with us doing the sex and stuff, and I dunno. I think my mum kinda liked him, but I dunno. My dad was like "I'm reserving judgement".
she seems to get on well with my parents.
I'm so happy not to have that problem now, stress levels down.
My Dad, his fiancee and my Mum all love my boyfriend, he likes them too.
He gets on fine with my parents, they both like him so its all jolly good really.
My boyfriend gets on well with my mum who is always very chatty with him. My dad is a bit of a funny one because he's rather stressed alot of the time and doesn't really have a lot of time for me, let alone my boyfriend, but when he's in the right mood they get on okay and usually find some recent sporting event to discuss in great technical detail! My boyfriend said he's stilla bit wary of my dad because he gets the impression that my dad doesn't think he's good enough for me, but I think he's just reading him wrong - my dad would marry me off to the first bloke going, he's not choosy!!
His Dad I don't see much as the bf doesn't see him much either. But his Dad looks a lot like my boyfriend and I can't help but find him at least a tiny bit sexy. Which just seems wrong.
I think that is a bit of an understatemend seeing as how she goes shopping with your mum!
My parents in law are lovely - if slightly mental but then my parents are a bit loony as well - though i sometimes get annoyed with them not communicating things directly to us - preffering instead to do it through my sister in law - who is my best friend so its fine as we talk every day and its normally over timings of things - like they will say one time to me and then i'll phone her up saying i'm coming over to get you at 12.30 and she'll go ohh didn't they tell you were not going round till 16.00 now - arrhghghghghghghghghgh. But obviously this isn't malicious or anything its just that we dont' ahve a clear line of communication.
I think my parents like my husband more than they like me - though my mother can be mean and bossy to him and scare him!
I get on really well with my 'mother-in-law' and his gran - just as well, seeing as I live with them!! I was really scared before I met his mum as it sounded like we would be - and we are - as different as chalk and cheese, but that hasn't really caused any problems. His Dad was ok to to me to my face, but apparently once said something really nasty about me (dunno what, don't want want to know), but luckily he's off the scene and as he's no longer part of my boyfriend's or his family's life, so I don't give a flying fuck what he thinks.
Oh, something quite amusing/sad in a twisted kind of way his Dad said to him once was, 'she's a bit young for you, isn't she?', when I was 19 and he was 22 or 23. At the time his Dad was haviing an affair with someone younger than my boyfriend....
OH and my mum get on fine, had a few arguments in the past but it all got put behind them.
Im glad, i'd hate to have that niggling feeling in my head of "oh i dont want to go over there because they are horrible"