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Would you go back with ex just for Sex?
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I am feeling very lonely and missing my EX. I miss the comfort of having emotional sex with someone and not just a random fling. would anyone here return with someone cause you miss the sex? even if things were bad in the relationship but that you'd be willing to sleep with the person because of the feeling of being lonely and missing the act of making love.
Yeah I am feeling desperate to get back with my ex! help!
Yeah I am feeling desperate to get back with my ex! help!
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Worst case scenario is you do, they use you for a long time, you lose ALL your self esteem because they don't really look after you, the only time you feel remotely wanted is when you're having sex with them and even then you don't *really*. You become trapped inside your own feelings of insecurity and cling / obsess to this person because you believe you can't go on without them. And they love the attention so keep you there. Of course, that's just worst case scenario, but most of the consequences are along those lines.
If you're completely over them and you get on well as friends and you're happy flirting / seeing other people and just want abit of fun then I think sometimes it can be ok - just the same as a one off with any other friend. But remember, exes are exes for a reason. At the end of the day it's up to you what you do, but we don't want you to get hurt, and getting back with an ex is usually a sure fire way of getting hurt
Did it with my last proper gf when I went up to tie a few loose ends up, but it was more something that just sort of happened, the feelings had gone and it really meant nothing more than a trip down memory lane.
Hi there, I'm really sorry to hear that you are feeling upset about your ex. Rather than jumping into bed with him, you need to find out whether or not there is any chance the two of you could have a future together. The best way to do this is probably through an honest and open conversation where you know exactly where you stand at the end of it. You may be left feeling hurt at the end of it, or you may not. But at least then you'll be able to make some clear decision.
In terms of sleeping together if there is no future:
This is from our article on getting over it - and I don't think I can personally give better advice than that.
Take good care of yourself
Thing is though, me and my ex annoyed the living daylights out of each other when we were together. We get on so much better as friends, but the sex was pretty much the best I've ever had, so we've hooked up a few times since the break-up, usually when we've both had a bit to drink. But we both know it's just about the sex, and that neither of us want to get back together.
So I'd say..you're really best making sure you're totally over him emotionally, then if you're still missing the sex, then why not?
If you apply this to your ex, it's not lik, "ah, I shagged him 10 times now, now I feel better, more satisfied and are able to get on."
WRONG, you keep wanting more and more, because after the act you always feel the same. The next day there is not warm, wooly, cozy feeling in your tummy, but you knew it was there in the act, so go back for more.
If you are emotionally attached to your ex, you'll have a harder time getting out of there and carry on as if you would do it now, straight away.
All the recommendations probably won't help anyway, because you will still do it, but don't say then StrubbleS hasn't warned you!
same here!
but just not when we're drunk.
having sex with him while you still want to get back with him is NOT a good idea!
Somewhere, a Reader's Digest executive is stroking his chin and thinking "what a good idea".......
Being a man (or aspiring to be one anyway) I shall use it to gesture to motorists. Given that I don't drive, I'll be forced to take it on the bus. It'll be handy for poking people in the back as I make my way onboard.
assuming you can actually GET on the bus, forcing you're way passed all those teenage mothers mouthing off to their pal that " e wisnae waantin' a wean bit the johny burst n e buggered aff ! "
I shall prod them in the eye with my new prodding dildo! The fiends!
Umm....to get this on topic, NO! I think it's a bad idea.
not that I'm bitter or anything