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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
I've liked this boy since I can remember. I hadn't seen him for a few years and was really shocked to see him walk into a club I was in. I was so pleased to find out that he avtaully likes me to! He is a lovely lad, but I was devastated to find out he takes drugs on the weekends. Is he worth my time??? I'm so confused.

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  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I actually find that extremely insulting. So he taes drugs.... that doesn't mean he isn't a nice, caring person. I take drugs when I go clubbing, yet I always try to do the best for the people around me, and I try to be the best friend I possibly can. The group of friends I go clubbing with all take drugs, and we are one of the closest and most caring groups of people I have ever come across. Just becasue somebody takes drugs, itt does NOT mean that they are a washout. if this boy is a nice person when you talk to him, then o f course he is worth your time.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Shygirl,

    As long as he doesnt abuse drugs then you should be ok..Just talk to him and find out if he has a drugs problem. I wouldnt worry about him taking drugs at weekends as that would suggest hes not an addict and is having no problem controlling drugs.

    Dont brush him off just cos he uses drugs
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hey, well i basically agree wit wot the others have said. If he's just a w/end user & doesn't need them 24/7 then i don't c why u couldn't make summat of it.

    My last 2 ex's were/are drug users. I never had a problem wit it & they didn't try & make me do ne thing i didn't wanna do or take.

    Just c how it goes, if he starts trying 2 force u 2 take things u don't want 2 then maybe he isn't worth it, but 4 now i think u should give it a go <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/smile.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    sori dont agree w/ ur attitude.. i mean if wot he does in his time has nothing 2 do w/ u then fine. not all ppl who take drugs r "bad company".

    xxx

    i'm on my way down now - i'd like to take you with me <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.stopstart.fsnet.co.uk/smilie/FIREdevil.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    i used to be seeing someone who was on drugs. it was awful.at first,when he was 15, he was just on weed,but he got stoned all the time so we never really had any quality time.there was one time when i had to see him get carted off by the police. then , by the time he was 16 he was doing extascy.he got expelled from school, and has been arrested more times than i care to remember,but i stuck with him because i told myself he could change.he didn't, and i still see him now off his face. if you think this lad can change, then go for it, but if you don't think he can't, forget it. its not worth the heartbreak.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Originally posted by wicked*wicca:
    sori dont agree w/ ur attitude.. i mean if wot he does in his time has nothing 2 do w/ u then fine. not all ppl who take drugs r "bad company".

    xxx



    Fair point, but maybe this girl has been brought up a different way, maybe she doesnt want to be involved with someone who takes drugs (I'm not having a dig when I say that), there could be a million different reasons.

    I would have a long hard think about it shygirl, and if you do decide that you want to see more of him, then I would give it a go, and take it from there.

    Its your call at the end of the day.

    Good luck

    Brian


    Mama I love you, Mama I care.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    u didnt say what kind of drugs he's using.. is he just smoking weed on wk/ends.. e's or does he jack up on a saturday night? either way, i met my fiance off my face on e's as he was too.. now i used to b whiter than white, and wouldnt look twice at a guy who took drugs.. but now, well, he doesnt take pills that often now.. neither do i, but we do smoke weed on a regular basis.. best to get to know him when he's not on drugs tho, as e's make u love everybody anyway, but just make sure that you dont do them if u dont want to , as it's easy to get caught up in if u like someone.. (say he offers u one.. tells u sex is gr8 etc.. u may do it but not really want to..etc) soooo to end my point drugs dont make u bad.. if ur controlling them, its when they control u that the problems start, so make up ur own mind about him!!
    take care tho
    love Kash xx <IMG alt="image" SRC="http://www.thesite.org/ubb/cool.gif"&gt;
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,323 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Thanks to everyone for their reply. Sorry if I put it over wrong, but I don not think he is a bad person. He is so sweet and great to talk to (this was before hed taken the e). Its just that someone in my family had a drug problem, it was just on weekends and his 'tude changed so bad.
    After all ur replys though, I am deffinately going to give him a go, after all his personality is so nice and he is so fabulous to me.
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