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Being left behind
BillieTheBot
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Not sure if this should be in relationships but hey ho.
Does anyone else feel like they've been left behind in life? Maybe it's just me. Everyone seems to have done more than me, and is getting on better than me and i just can't seem to go forward in anything.
Probably my own fault.
Does anyone else feel like they've been left behind in life? Maybe it's just me. Everyone seems to have done more than me, and is getting on better than me and i just can't seem to go forward in anything.
Probably my own fault.
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Yes, I am a lazy bum and fear to end up standing there with nothing one day.
I am not really sure what to do with my life, I guess I keep on studying...
Feel like i am just kinda bummng along in life rather than living it.
I think a lot of people feel like this though, especially when they get to an age where the extra effort people put in starts to bear fruit and you kind of think that maybe if you'd stuck in at this or that you'd be here or there rather than standing where you are. But you're still a young'un (how patronising am I ) and you'll be a long time dead so I wouldn't write yourself off just yet. Is there anything you want to do that you think could get you a bit closer to what you see as the place you "should be" at at this point? Or are you just feeling a bit lost?
I mean in regards to everything.
I guess it's because like you say, people my age that stuck with the education thing are nearly finishing uni, and people that worked have (well most of them) worked their way up to a half decent job. I just seem to go backwards all the time.
And yes i am feeling lost. As always. Don't feel that i've grown up at all and it's fuckin me off
It's a piece of piss to say "don't compare yourself to your peers" because we all do it, as does most of the world, unfortunately. But try not to look at yourself solely in that light because you're only going to get down on yourself (even more?). You must have done something you're proud of or that you feel is an achievement, and even if you can't think of anything I can tell you that you've grown yourself one hell of a spine girl. I salute you :thumb:
I know that if at my age my carrer ment everything to me I would want to shoot myself!
I have a good job with very good prospects, but im not pushing myself in it... I could be doing alot better than I am at the moment... but I dont want to, im having too much fun in life at the moment without worrying about that. Im not ready to tie myself down with things like that.
Just enjoy life and things will happen to make you think you are going somewhere as and when they do!
Well, I do too.
:yes:
This year is the first year in ages I've not thought to myself "Ah shit, I was so much happier this time last year", and that's purely because I've taken matters into my own hands and pushed myself.
Everybody gets stuck in a rut though, I suppose it's just a matter of working things out in your own head as to where you want to be, and get motivated enough to make them happen.
don't think she was saying anything otherwise. And it's NEVER that simple
I'm currently thinking about this a lot again.
When I was in a shit job, had a shitty situation with my then g/f going on and was literally drinking myself to oblivion in my flat every other night, I thought fuck it, why am I doing shit like this to myself?
So I went and really looked for a job someplace else, done. Got a new flat, done. Wasn't the greatest flat, but got another one, done. Met a whole load of people in a city where I knew fucking nobody, done. Sorted the shit out with my ex, done. Made four or five fanatastic mates there, done. Got a better job, done.
Seriously, if I can do shit like that in six months then there's hope for anybody. I can see how it's hard when you just feel stuck in a rut that you maybe just think it'll get better soon, but if you really go for it, then things can really happen.
I felt like this when everyone went off to uni and I know it sounds so cliche and sappy but people succeed in their own independant way.
Just dont have any motivation to do fuck all.
I'm pretty sure it was Bluewisdom (aka Catalina) who coined the phrase mid-twenties crisis. Her rant is a good read. The thing is, so often these days older people bang on about the opportunities that are available for us young-uns that they wish they'd had, and in a way, they've got a point. But at the same time, the pressure to meet other peoples expectations of success can be daunting and there's so much out there it can difficult to know where to start.
Thinking about what you're really interested in and trying a few things out is worth a go. You might find this article on doing it for real helpful. Building confidence and courage is something we all strive to do no matter what stage we are in our lives - being conscious of our strengths and weaknesses, can help us put things into perspective.
Take care - and hope you start to feel better soon.
However I think that you just have to get a bit depressed just to jolt yourself into doing something.
I am loads happier now though and I think that most of my friends are now so there is light at the end of the tunnel ish.
having said that i feel totally left behind at work as the girl who is doing the same job as me got it practically straight out of university and i have loads more qualifications and experience but I earn less because i joined the organisation afterwards. Plus nearly everyone else is a manager or above except me and there really isnt' any way to progress.....
I'm not sure if i'm not trying hard enough or what. In my head i am, but in reality theres probably a lot more i can do to help myself, but i have like zero motivation at the best of times. I want to go out and do things but i can't seem to make it happen.
Plus my bf decided he doesn't wanna be with me anymore so that isn't exactly helping how i feel at the moment!
This is Hell's domain, it's not reality.
guess everyone feels like that from time to time.
trick is just to pick yourself up and get on with your life and stop comparing yourself to other people.
But I am a bit melodramatic, and I do have very sympathetic and helpful people around me, who enjoy spending time with me (I hope ). You just need to act when you realise you're in this situation.