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Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
How do you cope with not having sex?

As most of the regs on here know I'm in a LDR and it will be ages until I next see my boyfriend.

Any tips on how to cope? I want to feel whole again :(

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  • JsTJsT TheSite Graduate Posts: 18,265 Incredible Poster
    Have a wank with some Czech Hardcore porn.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Masturbating alone doesn't do anything for me :no:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    phone sex?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Randomgirl wrote:
    How do you cope with not having sex?

    As most of the regs on here know I'm in a LDR and it will be ages until I next see my boyfriend.

    Any tips on how to cope? I want to feel whole again :(

    Im here :D ... im free :thumb:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    just get over it? :p
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Hmmmm, tough one i guess.

    Try getting some dirty novels or something like that but sometimes not doing anything for ages and then having sex again can be amazing:thumb:

    How long will it be until you see your partner? If you dont mind me asking........
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Randomgirl wrote:
    Masturbating alone doesn't do anything for me :no:

    All that leaves, then, is to have a f*ck buddy ... any tips (no pun intended) we give you will obviously involve masturbation somehow.
  • littlemissylittlemissy knit chick Posts: 9,972
    I think she meant she can't just go and flick the bean - she needs something to help turn her on.
  • BunnieBunnie TheSite's sweetie pie Posts: 6,099
    Teagan wrote:
    All that leaves, then, is to have a f*ck buddy ... any tips (no pun intended) we give you will obviously involve masturbation somehow.
    but then she is cheating on her fella, and she aint going to do that.
    randomgirl, think along the lines of phone sex etc, how long til you go back over there? it will get to a point where you probably dont feel like you need it so much, kinda like you have got used to it.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I think she meant she can't just go and flick the bean - she needs something to help turn her on.

    Ohhhh! Ok. Sorry. I thought she meant that she didn't like masturbation - full stop.

    Hmmmmm ... well, thinking specifically in terms of being aroused by the boyfriend (e.g. swapping sexy texts and pics) can heighten one's libido when when resigned to masturbation. Will you be able to cam with him at all?
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    I have a couple of free passwords for adult sites if that helps. :)
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    If you don't fancy inviting another bloke into your bedroom, and aren't keen on masturbation, maybe the answer is a sex toy. Give your boyfriend a blatant hint or two that you'd like him to give you a vibrator (oh, and some batteries too) and then when he's not around, use the vibrator he's given you for some fun. :naughty:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Electric toothbrush? I'd recommend one with changeable heads so you can double up for dental purposes - no one likes pubes getting stuck in their teeth :razz:

    But on a serious note, a vibrator is the obvious answer if that's not an avenue you've already been down. Have a browse around, there are some... interesting options available to we women. Phone sex is another excellent idea, if you can get cheap-o phone calls to Brazil then the job's a good'un :thumb:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Randomgirl wrote:
    How do you cope with not having sex?

    As most of the regs on here know I'm in a LDR and it will be ages until I next see my boyfriend.

    Any tips on how to cope? I want to feel whole again :(

    Exercize. Plenty of it. Massages. Spa treatments. Getting hammered.
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    migpilot wrote:
    Exercize. Plenty of it. Massages. Spa treatments. Getting hammered.
    Getting hammered does help. Because you usually end up sleeping with someone anyway. :D
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    olaola wrote:
    phone sex?
    Just make sure you clean it afterwards :p
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Randomgirl wrote:
    How do you cope with not having sex?
    very easily :p
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    Jazza wrote:
    Just make sure you clean it afterwards :p
    :lol:
  • Former MemberFormer Member Posts: 1,876,324 The Mix Honorary Guru
    migpilot wrote:
    Exercize. Plenty of it. Massages. Spa treatments. Getting hammered.
    I have just taken up exercise. I have started going to the gym!

    I think I was a bit unclear but what I meant was that I don't enjoy masturbation (unless its mutual masturbation). I have a couple of vibrators but they really don't do much for me except remind me of my electric toothbrush, even when I use them both at once.

    Fuck buddy stuff is completely out of the question, I want *my* man not just any man.

    I think the suggestions on ways to dampen my desires rather than satisfy them are the way forwards so have taken migpilots advise (except the getting hammered bit - that's not my thing these days!).

    Thanks for all your suggestions guys :thumb:
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